Indlela yokuziphatha komntu otshatileyo kunye nomqhelana othandweni kufanayo ngaphandle kwenkululeko, ekubeni okokuqala unemithwalo ethile kwintsapho yakhe. Kukho imiqondiso eyahlukeneyo malunga nokuqonda ukuba umntu otshatileyo uyakuthanda. Asiyi kuxubusha ngezizathu ezibangele ukuba indoda yaqala ukubheka abanye abafazi kwaye imisa kwiimpawu ezibonisa ubukho bovelwano.
Ungaziqonda njani ukuba umntu otshatileyo uyakuthanda?
Indoda ethandwayo, ishintsho ekuziphatheni kwaye kaninzi akakwazi ukufihla imvakalelo yakhe, ngoko ukunyamekela iingqungquthela kunokubala ukuba nobubele.
Ungaziqonda njani ukuba uthanda umntu otshatileyo:
- Ukuba akukho nethuba lokuba lilandelayo kwintombazana elikuthandayo, uya kubeka iliso rhoqo, engekho ebusweni.
- Uzama ukufezekisa yonke iminqweno yakhe ukuze ajikeleze ngqalelo.
- Uyenza yonke into ukuma kwisihlwele kwaye ubeke ingqalelo kwinto yokudumisa.
- Ukufumanisa indlela yokuqonda ukuba umntu otshatileyo uyamthanda, kuyafaneleka ukuthetha malunga nomqondiso obonakalayo njengomnqweno nawaphi na ithuba lokuthintela umfazi oyithandayo.
- Ephantse kwinto yokudumisa, unokuhlazeka kwaye akhathazeke, okubonakaliswa kwizinwele ezibethekayo, ukugubha izambatho, njl.
- Kwintetho, uya kuphulaphula, ahlalutye kuwo onke amazwi athethwa ngumfazi. Umsebenzi oyintloko wendoda kukufunda ngaye ulwazi oluninzi njengoko kunokwenzeka.
- Ukufumanisa indlela yokuqonda ukuba indoda esatshatileyo iswele ngothando, kuyafaneleka ukuthetha ukuba akaphulaphuli kuphela iingxaki, kodwa wenza konke okusemandleni ukuzixazulula. Kufuneka kuthathelwe ukuba akakwazi ukwenza oku ngokuthe ngqo, kodwa ngohlobo lwabahlobo.
- Ngokuqinisekileyo, ufuna ukuzondeza umntu wakhethiweyo ngenyameko, ngoko ke nawaphi na amathuba amenza izipho, umema umhla , njl njl.