Iqabane elifanelekileyo liphupha lilo lonke ibhinqa. Nangona kunjalo, ebomini kunqabile ukuba kukho abantu abahlangabezana nazo zonke iimfuno zethu, kwaye ngexesha liza kuqonda ukuba akukho kubo, kodwa kuthi ngokwethu. Indlela yokufumana iqabane elifanelekileyo, ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ungayazi into oyifunayo?
Umzobo weqabane elifanelekileyo elifanelekileyo
Ukuze ufumane iqabane elifanelekileyo lobomi, kufuneka ukwazi oko ufuna. Kufana nokuthengwa: ukuba uhamba nje ukuyothengisa, ngaphandle kwesicwangciso esicacileyo, mhlawumbi uya kufumana into ongayifunayo. Yaye ukuba uthetha isigqibo sokuba udinga imbobo ebomvu, ngoko uya kubeka ingqalelo kwiingubo ezibomvu kwaye ufumane oko ufuna.
Kakade, kunye neqabane elifanelekileyo liza kuba nzima ngakumbi, kuba zonke iimpawu zobunjani bokubonakala komntu ngokukhawuleza aziqondi. Kodwa ukwazi oko ufunayo, unako, ngokukhawuleza, uhlaziye kalula abo ungazi kakuhle.
Ukwenza oku, zenzele umfanekiso weqabane elifanelekileyo: kuyo kufuneka ukhethe yonke into ebalulekileyo kuwe. Ngokomzekelo, amagama akho abathandayo abathandekayo, iimpawu zokubonakala, iimpawu zezodiac ezikufanelekelayo, into ekufuneka abe ngumlutha kuyo, ukuba yikuphi ukuphulaphula, apho uya khona. Mane uqaphele uluhlu lwe "taboos": umzekelo, ukuba umntu ulala, uzimisele ukukhashelwa okanye ukusela, kwaye awuyithandi kakhulu, kulula ukukhawuleza ukhetho olulolo hlobo. Ukuba udinga iqabane elifanelekileyo lezesondo, kuyafaneleka ukuba uqaphele imida yalo kwisini (emva koko, kungekhona wonke umntu onokwenza iqela lesini kunye nezinto).
Ngaloo ndlela, uya kucace ngokucacileyo malunga nani ofuna ukukubona emva kwakho, kwaye wonke umntu obonakalayo ebomini bakho uya kubonakala lula kuwe ngokuthi "ukhetho" okanye "kungenayo inketho."
Ukufumana iqabane eligqibeleleyo
Unokuhlangabezana nomlingane ococekileyo naphi na. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ubomi bakho ngumsebenzi wendlela yokuhlala ekhaya, kwaye usebenza kuyo
Ukutsala umntu ofanelekileyo unokuba naphi na, kodwa kufuneka ukhangeleke ngokukhawuleza kwimizuzu yonke yobomi bakho kunye nokuba kuphi. Ukutyelela amaziko ezitolo, iidema, ii-kafesi apho amadoda eneminyaka onomdla uya kuyo. Zama ukuba kaninzi kwisitalato kwaye ungayinqabeli abantu abachasene nabo. Emva kwakho konke, lo mntu ongenangqumbo mhlawumbi ungumlingani ofanelekileyo kuwe.