Abazali ababini okanye ngaphezulu abantwana bayaziqhelana ngokucacileyo ngolu hlobo njengomona womntwana omdala ukuya kumncinci, obuyele ekungafuni abantwana ukuba bahlanganyele kunye nononophelo kunye nonina, ukunakekelwa kunye nothando. Iimpawu zamatyala anjalo, umona wobuntwana kufuneka uhlale phantsi kolawulo lwabazali.
Imiba emihle yenzondelelo yomntwana
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwiintsapho kukho imeko xa umntwana osekhulile ekhwele umncinci, kodwa ingongoma yinto eqhelekileyo. Ngaphambi koko, inkwenkwe yayiyodwa yendawo yokuphela kwendalo apho abazali, oogogo nomkhulu nabazali bajikeleza. Kodwa kwakukho umntwana wesibini, ngenxa yoko, umona, ngenxa yokuba iiYunivesithi zaba ezimbini. Yintoni elungileyo apha? Yaye inyaniso yokuba umntwana sele esazi ukuthanda! Kuhle ukuba ulwaphulo luvulekile, kuba ngaba abazali bayazi ukuba ubukhwele bomntwana bukhoyo, kwaye sinqume indlela yokusabela ngayo kuyo.
Musa ukwabelana ngothando, kodwa kabini
Oku mhlawumbi umgaqo omkhulu kubazali abafuna ukulahla umona phakathi kwabantwana. Kubalulekile ukuchazela umdala ukuba umona wakhe kumntwana omncinci awunangqiqo, kuba uyathandwa. Ngokuphambene noko, ngoku umama ufuna uncedo lwakhe, kuba ngaphandle kwakhe akakwazi ukumelana nomntakwabo / udadewabo. Kodwa uncedo lufanele lube ngokuzithandela, emva kwayo yonke yabazali kwakukho umntwana wesibini, kunye nomntu ophezulu - kungekhona umongikazi. Ukuba abantwana baneminyaka yobudala engaphezu kwemihlanu ubudala, ngoko kwixesha elizayo baya kufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo, kodwa imodeli yobudlelwane iya kuhlala kunjalo - "umntwana - umntwana".
Umona obalaseleyo ubonakalisa kubantwana bezulu okanye amawele. Akusiyo ngoncedo. Umgaqo oyintloko - onke amashumi amahlanu anamashumi amahlanu. Isiva sokungabikho komdla kubonakala kumntwana kungekhona xa engenayo i-candy, kodwa xa engenayo, kodwa umzalwana / udadewabo unayo. Musa ukunyanzelisa iindima zabantwana: i-storm-quiet, i-hooligan ehlakaniphile, i-lazy-lazy. Oku kuya kususa omnye komnye. Isilungiso esihle somona ngumthanda. Namela ingane nganye.
Kumama wam ngenqaku
Khumbula imigaqo ebalulekileyo:
- musa ukuthelekisa abantwana;
- Musa ukuhlwaya umntwana omnye phambi komnye;
- "Ungumdala!" Akuyiyo ingxabano;
- nangayiphi na imeko, musa ukumnika umkhulu umntakwabo "ngelixa umncinci ukhula."
Uthando lwakho olungenamkhawulo kunye nokunakekelwa kuya kunceda ngokuqinisekileyo abantwana baphumelele ukulwa nokusilela kwempilo, ukulwa nobunzima, kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, baya kuba ngabahlobo abakhulu!