Ukuba ufunda le nqaku, mhlawumbi wena, njengabazali, uqhelana nomvakalelo xa umntwana wakho okhulileyo kwiminyaka eyi-11-12 ngokukhawuleza eyeka ukuqondakala nokulawula. Awusayazi ukuba yeyiphi na amazwi okanye izenzo zakho eziya kuhambelana naye, kwaye ngubani na oya kukucaphukisa, kwaye wena ngokwakho uhlala ukhubeka. Kubonakala ukuba kuyaqondakala ukuba le yinkqubo yokuqalisa ukukhula ngokugqithiseleyo, inqaku elithi "ixesha lokutshintsha" liyaziwa wonke umntu. Yiloo nto eyenzeka ngokwenene ngeli xesha entloko nomphefumlo womntwana othandekayo, kwaye indlela yokuziphatha kwabazali ngumbuzo ovulekile.
Ingqondo yengqondo yabantwana kunye neengqondo zentsholongwane zihluke ngokupheleleyo. Umntwana akaze afumane utshintsho olwenziwe ngokukhawuleza "oluwa" kumntwana osemtsha.
I-Psychology yentsholongwane yanamhlanje
Iimpawu ezikhethekileyo zeengqondo zentsha, ezokuqala, zichazwe ngolu tshintsho lomzimba, okanye, ngokulula, ngokukhula komzimba. Kwaye inkqubela yengqondo yamantombazana kunye namakhwenkwe amakhwenkwe athile ahluke kakhulu, ngaphandle kokuba emantombazaneni zonke iinkqubo zenzeka kancinane. Ngokwenyama, amakhwenkwe namantombazana aqala ukuhlukana ngakumbi nangaphezulu, kodwa iingxaki zengqondo ziqhelekileyo kwaye azixhomekeke kwisini. Ukusuka apho i-pimple ekhaleni ivela khona, utshintsho oluneemeko zomzimba olwandisa iimbono zentsimi echaseneyo lukude kuzo zonke "iingxaki" apho umntwana ongakhathazekiyo kufuneka ahlangane nalo izolo. I-psychic ayinakukwazi ukuhlangabezana nazo zonke ezi zinto zintsha, kwaye kukho inkathazo yengqondo yengxaki. Imiqondiso yalo ilandelayo:
- ukungaqiniseki ngokwabo, ukubonakala kwabo, ukuxhalabisa ngokugqithiseleyo ngemibono yabanye;
- "Ubuninzi bobuncinci" -izigaba kwizigwebo, ukuzikhukhumeza;
- ukungafani kokuziphatha kunye nobugqwetha be-psyche: ukudibanisa ukunyamekela nokungakhathaleli, iintloni nokuzikhukhumeza, ukuxhatshazeka kunye nokuzihlukanisa, ukuphupha nokukhathazeka, njl.
- umnqweno wokufumana ulwazi oluphezulu malunga nesihloko somdla kunye nokutshintsha ngokukhawuleza kwezinto ezinomdla, ezingahambelananga.
Ngokuqhelekileyo ebusheni, abantwana bahlala bephikisana nabazali babo ngenzame yokukhusela abantu abadala kunye nokuzimela. Kodwa ukungabikho kokuzimela kwentlalo yolutsha kudla ngokunyanzelisa abazali ukuba banqande kakhulu imizamo yomntwana yokufezekisa "ukulingana" nabantu abadala. Nangona kunjalo, ukunyaniseka, ukugxekwa kunye nokunyamekela kuyindlela ekufuneka idibene ngokucokisekileyo xa usebenzisana nentombazana. Ngaphandle koko, unokufuna ukuba ufumane njani umzali wengxaki ebusheni.
I-Psychology yabantwana abaselula
Njengomthetho, abantwana abaselula banokucinga ngalabo abaneempawu ezimbi eziphathekayo ekuziphatheni kwabo: ukugwenxa, inkohlakalo, inkohliso, ukunyaniseka, njl. Izibalo zibonisa ukuba "nzima" ngabafana abasakhulayo kwiintsapho zonxila, abazali abaneengxaki ezinengqondo zengqondo, bahlala kwindawo ekhulayo yengqondo. Nangona kunjalo, akukho nentsapho ebonakalayo ehloniphekileyo ikhuselekile kwinto yokuba umntwana uya kuba ngumntwana osemncinci - oku kunokwenzeka ukuba ngaba abazali, umzekelo, bahluke kakhulu kumntwana okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, balawule isinyathelo ngasinye. Singaxelela ukuba nayiphi na indlela yokugqithisa ukuziphatha kwabazali ibangela ukuba umntwana osemncinci ufumana ubunzima obubuhlungu bakhe obudala
Ingqondo yezophuhliso kunye nokukhuliswa kwabantwana abaselula kuyinto yesayensi yonke, kwaye abazali kufuneka bathathe oku. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntwana wakho okhulayo - kulula okanye "kunzima", khumbula ukuba uhamba ngexesha elibunzima lobomi bakhe, zama ukumqonda, kwaye ungayigxothi ingcebiso yabasebenzi - ootitshala nabafundi beengqondo. Inhlanhla kunye nesivumelwano kwintsapho!