Xa intombazana idibana nayo ebomini yakhe indoda efanayo naye ebona isiphephelo sayo, kukho ukwesaba okwenyama ukulahlekelwa nguye, kuba zonke iingcinga zijoliswe kuye kuphela. Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa kukubonakalisa uthando, oko kungabangela ukuba amaphupha ahlukane nentombi yakho ethandekayo. Akuyimfuneko ukufakela ukubaluleka okhethekileyo kwiphupha elo, kuba ngumsebenzi weconcercer kuphela, apho uloyiko olufihlakeleyo lomntu lunokwenzeka. Kodwa kunjalo, sincoma ukuba sikhumbule kwakhona iphupha kuzo zonke iinkcukacha uze uzame ukuyichaza.
Kutheni sifuna ukuhlukana nentsha?
Nangona ubunzima bomfanekiso, obonwa ngephupha, ezininzi iingcaciso zephupha ziphatha njengoluphawu oluhle. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, abameli besigqibo esihle sabantu bakholelwa ukuba iphupha elinjalo lithintela ukuhlukana, kodwa akunjalo. Oku kufuzisela ukuba ngokukhawuleza ukubambisana kuya kuphumelela kulwalamano lwababini, kwaye ukuthembana kunye nesivumelwano kuya kuba mkhulu kakhulu kunaphambili. Ukuba ephupheni unomfanekiso apho umfana eqala ukuhlukana kolwalamano, kunokuthi kubangelwa izilumkiso, uthi mhlawumbi ekukhohliseni okanye iimvakalelo zakhe sele zipholile. Ukuxazulula ingxaki, thetha nomhlobo wakho malunga nolwalamano lwakho.
Ukuba uphupha ukukopela nokuhlukana kwimeko, kuyafaneleka ukuba uhlaziye iimvakalelo zakho. Mhlawumbi, ngokukhawuleza intombazana iya kudibana nendoda eselula iya kuba yindlela yokuphumelela ngaphezu komntu osondelene naye okwangoku. Ukuba umbala oqinileyo weemvakalelo ubangelwa kwiphupha, unxusa kwaye umcele umntu ukuba aqhubeke nolwalamano - oku kubonisa ukuqonda, ukunyaniseka kumalingani omnye. Kwakhona kuqinisekisa ubungqina beemvakalelo. Ukuba uphupha ukuhlukana nomntu, kwaye uyakhala - nayiphi na iinyembezi zifanekisela indlela yokonwaba kunye neziganeko ezivuya. Umngcipheko ongenakuvakalelwa ngayo iimvakalelo unokuthi uphendule njengokuba uhlala ubomi obuthile obungasayi kuba neenguqu ezibalulekileyo kwixesha elizayo elizayo.
Ukuze uyingxenye nomntu ephupheni yincwadi yokuphupha
Iphupha lolu hlobo luchazwa ngokuhlukileyo kwezinye iincwadi zokuphupha, umzekelo, ukuba uphupha malunga nephupha apho waqhekeza kunye nomntu owayengumntu wokuqala, kwaye ngelixa sele usenobunye ubudlelwane, ufuzisela ukuba kwixesha elizayo uza kufumana ingxaki yokukhetha . Kwakhona iphupha lolo hlobo ngentombazana luphawu lokukhathala kwakhe kubuhlobo. Ukuba ngokwenene ummeli wesigqibo esihle sabantu akazange alindele ukuba athathe inxaxheba kunye nentanda yakhe, kodwa ephupheni imeko iyahluke ngokupheleleyo, oku kubonisa indlela yokuxabana. Ukuba iziganeko ezenzeka ephupheni zenzeka ngokomzwelo, umzekelo, zihamba kunye nokulwa kunye nokuxhaphazwa, ngokwenene intombazana ilinde ingxaki, apho ikwazi ukujamelana nayo ngaphandle kokubunzima.
Isithuba esenzeke ngokukhawuleza kwaye singalindelekanga, sibonisa impumelelo ebusweni. Ezinye iinguqu zokutolika ziphatha iinyembezi namava ephupheni njengempumelelo emsebenzini, ukukhuthazwa kwinqanaba lomsebenzi.
Iingcali zengqondo zithi amaxesha aphupha amaphupha, apho kukho ukwahlukana, uthetha malunga noyiko olufihliweyo lokulahlekelwa ngumthandayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba umhlobo ungumhlobo, izalamane. Kubalulekile ukubeka ingqalelo kwiimvakalelo ozivusayo, ukuba uvuko lwaluhamba kunye neloyiko, kufuneka ulufumane, kunesizathu. Ngokuqhelekileyo amaphupha abonakalisa amava afihlakeleyo kunye namafihlakeleyo. Ukuba ubudlelwane buphela kubuhlobo, iphupha lolu hlobo luyinto eqondakalayo ngokupheleleyo, kwaye intombazana iyazikhohlisa nje kuphela, ukuba inothando.