Kutheni ingxaki yenkathazo kumntwana oneminyaka engama-6-7 ubudala?
Mhlawumbi, utshintsho ekuphatheni kwentsana lezolo lwenzeka kancane kwaye abazali abaqapheli ukuba litshintshile njani. Okanye ezi zi-metamorphoses ziqala ukususela nanini, ngolunye usuku. Othandekayo, umntwana onentlonelo uqala ukulinganisa abazali, ukwenza ubuso, uphukise oodade abancinci okanye abazalwana. Uzama ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza, ngezinyembezi, ukukhala kunye nezibonda.
Iminyaka Eyisixhenxe ngokukhawuleza iyaqonda ukuba banjengabantu abagcinileyo njengabanye, kwaye bafuna loo hora ukuba babe neli lungelo, kodwa bona ngokwabo abaqondi kakuhle oko bavakalisayo. Kungoku ngeli xesha abantwana balungiselela ukuya esikolweni okanye sele beya kwibanga lokuqala. I-psyche yabo kwimisebenzi yokudlala ibonakala ngokutsha ngokutsha ukuze ifundwe, ayikwazi ukuchaphazela ukuziphatha komntwana.
Njengawe naziphi na iingxaki - oku kubonisa ukuxhuma ekukhuleni kwengqondo, okungekho ukudlula. Kwenzeka xa umntwana ekhula kwizigaba ezithile, izalathiso zoluliwe, kodwa umzimba unzima kakhulu ngeli xesha, kwaye uphendule kunye neentlungu zobusuku emilenzeni, abazali abayiphatha ngephutha nge-rheumatic.
Ngalesi sikhathi umntwana uqala ukuqonda apho inyaniso, kwaye apho uxoka khona, unokholo oluthile , kodwa ngelo xesha uhlala ekhululekile kubantwana abathandanayo. Oku kunokuzibonakalisa ekubhubhiseni kwamathoyizi ozithandayo, wenqabe ukumanga, njengangaphambili, umama ngaphambi kokuba alele embhedeni, uqala ukucinga ngendlela endala kwaye entetho inqumla amagama kwi-lexicon engekho isichazi-magama, esoloko esithetha ukuba akayiqondi.
Indlela yokuziphatha kubazali kwiingxaki zeminyaka eyi-7?
Kodwa yintoni enokuyenza kubazali, xa ubunzima beeminyaka engama-6 ukuya ku-7 bufike ngokukhawuleza, indlela yokusabela ngayo, ukunceda umntwana ukuba alungiselele "entsha" yakhe entsha - makhe sifumane.
Ngoku wonke umntwana wesithathu unamaxesha enkohliso, xa ekhohlisa abadala ngenxa yezizathu ezithile, akayikuzalisekisa izicelo ezisisiseko, nangona akwenziwanga ngokungathandabuzeki ngaphambili.
Oku akuthethi ukuba ngokukhawuleza kuye kwaba kubi, kwaye kuthi nje ukuba ukubunjwa kobuntu kuyenzeka, umntwana uhlolisisa ukusabela kwabantu abadala kwiimpawu ezahlukeneyo. Ukugweba, ngokukodwa ngokusetyenziswa kwamandla omzimba, kuba oku akunakwenzeka - unokulahlekelwa yithemba lomntwana wakho.
Akufanele ihlaziwe kwaye ihlekisiwe - oku kuya kulucima nje imeko. Ukunceda, kuyimfuneko, ngokucacileyo kunokwenzeka, ukwakha urhulumente womhla, ukuyibuyisela ngokutsha phantsi kweshedyuli somfundi. Oku kuyimfuneko kokuzilinganisa ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
Indodana okanye intombi kufuneka ibe nemithetho ecacileyo, eyiqonda ngokupheleleyo, kodwa abazali abavunyelwe ukuba bangahambelani. Akukho imfuneko yokufaka izithintelo ezininzi - kuya kubakho ubuninzi bezinto ezininzi eziza kubakholisa ubomi kunye nempilo, kwaye akuthinteli yonke imihlali yobomi.
Ngokubanzi kunokwenzeka ukuba udumise umntwana, nangenxa yezenzo ezincinci, kodwa ukuhleka usulu aze aqalekise ngenyameko, uzama ukubonisa isalathisi, kwaye ungenzi nto yintlungu. Ukuba ebusweni babazali umntwana ubona izibambano, ngoko i-nkathazo iya kudlula kwaye ingakhange ifumaneke.