Ukuphazamiseka komntu kukuba sonke sifuna inkululeko, kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo siyishiye ngokuzithandela, siyayiphika inxaxheba yethu kwinto eyenzekayo ebomini bethu. Oku kubizwa ngokuba yi-psychology yexhoba.
Ukulahla uxanduva kunye neengqondo zezenzo zexhoba, njengomthetho, zenzeka kwiintlobo ezimbini:
- ukucinga ukuphelelwa lithemba kunye nokuba umntu uxhoba lweemeko ezithile;
- Iimangalo zokunyanzela abanye, kuba, ngokwexhoba, ngabanye abamele bamenze babe novuyo kwaye baphumelele.
Kakade ke, ngokuqhelekileyo sizama ngamandla indima yexhoba ukwenzela ukuba sikhululeke ngakumbi ukuba siphile. Ngokomzekelo, sifihle emva kwemimoya embi, xa singafuni ukuya kuqeqesho, sinqabe ukuhlamba izitya, kuba ihlaziya i-eczema, njl njl. Nangona kunjalo, ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba thina ngokwethu sithatha iingxaki, sikwenza izizathu zokungafuni. Njani?
Ngaba wakha wazibuza ukuba kutheni abantu abawaka behamba ngesitalato, kwaye umntu ukhetha isikhwama kumntu. Ingozi ikhetha njani abantu? Okanye ngaba thina ngokwethu sisenza ingozi?
Indima yexhoba lolwaphulo-mthetho olufanelwe kwisiganeko-nkcazo yecandelo elithile- "i-victimology" (esusela kwisiNgesi igama elithi "ixhoba" - "ixhoba.") Le nzu luluncedo lucacisa ukuchonga okokuba umntu abe lixhoba lolwaphulo-mthetho, kuba kukho uxhulumano phakathi kwexhoba kunye nolwaphulo-mthetho, kwinqanaba elingaziwayo.
Ngokomzekelo, ibhinqa elingenayo ingqalelo ngokwaneleyo kumyeni wayo idlwengulwa. Emva koko, umyeni udibana kwaye uhamba naye, uyamkhathalela. Ukungaphumeleli emsebenzini, ukulibaziseka kwemvuzo kunye nokubiwa kwekhredithi, njengengxelo yokugqibela kwinqaku elide lokungaphumeleli kwezemali. Imizekelo yobunzima. Kwaye nganye nganye, ukujikeleza ngeenxa zonke, unokufumana ulwalamano olusondeleyo.
Indlela yokujongana nengqondo yexhoba?
Ukuba uhlala ungaphumeleli, ii-cafés zifumana iithebhile ezimbi kakhulu, kwaye abathengisi balinganisa iimpahla ezimbi, lixesha lokucinga malunga nendlela yokukrazula i-psychology yexhoba, ade adlulisele inhlanhla embi kwezinye izikali. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka uqale ngezinto ezincinci.
Okokuqala, zama ukuqonda, uvakalelwa kukuba unelungelo lokukhetha. Ukuba akusilo ukuba uyaphumelela, kodwa oko ngaphambili (ngesizathu esithile), awuzange uvumele ukuba wenze ukhetho. Ngexesha elizayo, xa umthengisi enokulinganisela i-kilogram yokubola endaweni yezivuno ezithengisa umlomo, njengekontra, kufuna ukubuyisela impahla. Xa kunqatshelwe, hamba. Okukhethileyo kukuthatha okulungileyo. Eyona njenjalo
Enye intonga, engafanele ingayinakunyuswa - gcina umqolo wakho ngqo. Ukubaluleka kubaluleke kakhulu, kuba ngumqondiso kwabanye abantu malunga neqondo lakho lokuzithemba. Awufuni ukwenza umfanekiso wesaphulelo.
Ukuba i-psychology yexhoba ikukhokele kwiingxaki ezinzulu, kungcono ukufuna uncedo lwezakhono ukukunceda uqonde iingcambu zendima yentlalo. Oku kukhetha kwakho kunye nesinyathelo sokuqala ekubhekeleni kwengqondo yomntu okhululekileyo.