Ngokuqhelekileyo ukunyaniseka nokunyaniseka kungaba ngumqobo ekuzaleni izicwangciso zobomi. Kwaye kubonakala kubaninzi ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuwagxotha, kodwa oku kuphosakeleyo. Ukuba ungazi ukuba ungaphila, kufuneka uqaphele ingcebiso yeengqondo zengqondo.
Indlela yokwenza ngcono kwaye uqiniseke ngokwakho?
Iingcali zithi impendulo yombuzo wendlela yokuba nobuxoki obuqinileyo kunye nokugqithisileyo ngokubhekiselele kumphezulu. Kufuneka ukholelwe kuwe. Kodwa oku kungumsebenzi ongenakwenzeka kubantu abaninzi. Iingcali zengqondo zicebisa: thatha ixesha lakho, wenze ngokuthe ngcembe:
- ukuyeka ukukhokelwa ngumbono womnye;
- libale ukuba abo bakujikelezayo bayakuxabisa;
- ukuyeka ukungaqiniseki malunga namandla akho.
Ukuze ube namandla, kufuneka uqaphele ukwesaba kwakho uze ukhangele ngqo ebusweni. Ngaphandle kokubanqoba, awukwazi ukutshintsha. Zama indlela yokwahlula: ukwesaba abantu abangaziwayo - qalisa ukwenza izinto ezintsha, ukwesaba umphathi - qalisa ukuya kuye imihla ngemihla ngeengcebiso zomsebenzi, njl.
Zilungise ngokwakho ukuba akuyiyo yonke into eya kuvela ngendlela ofuna ngayo. Ukungaphumeleli, ukwenza iimpazamo, ukungena enkingeni kuyinto eqhelekileyo, akunjalo kuphela nalabo abangenzi nto. Ungazigxeka, ungazixolisi, ulilahle kwaye uqhubeke phambili. Zithokoze ngokuqhelekileyo, ungesabi ukuzama into entsha, engavamile, uzame ukuphuma kwindawo yokuthuthuzela.
Ungathini ukuba ube nesibindi kunye nomfana?
Amantombazana amaninzi anamahloni anomdla kakhulu kwindlela yokuhlakulela kunye nokuthandana nabantu. Okokuqala, ngokuqinisekileyo, utshintshe ngaphandle - abantu abaselula abafana nabafazi abaqhakazileyo. Kubalulekile ukufumana isitayela sakho. Okwesibini, ngena kwincoko yokuqala. Kufuneka ube nomdla kunye nawe, ngoko wandise i-horizons yakho, kodwa zama ukukhathazeka. Okwesithathu, unokukwazi ukuhlaziya ngokufanelekileyo ukuhlaselwa: ihlaya, ukuhleka ekuphenduleni amahlaya angenangqondo, ngokukhawuleza, kodwa ngokuzimela ngokubeka i-ham.