EJapan, kukholelwa ukuba ubugcisa bobugcisa be-karate buhlala buhle. Ukuba unethuba lokucinga ngomsebenzi wenkosi, uqaphele ukuba ukunyusa utshaba kuhlale kunele ukuba enze enye intshukumo encinane. Nangona abafundi nabaqalayo bezama ukuhamba ngokubanzi, banokufunda ukuhamba kunye nokuhamba, inkosi yangempela ayenzi nto.
Ukuba ubuqili obusempuma bubhekwa njengelungelo lamakhosi (okufanele bawenze ngokuzikhuthaza), ngoko asikho nto enokuyenza kodwa kubangela intloko yesifo kunye nombuzo othi "Ungayikhupha njani ubuvila?".
Yintoni ubuvila?
Izazinzulu zaseScotland zakwazi ukubonisa ubungqina bokuthi ubuvila buyimfuneko ekhethekileyo, eyimfuneko yengqondo. Njengoko kuyaziwa kwi-psychology, ubuvila bubonakalisa ngokudibanisa nokunganakwa, ukuxinezeleka nokungabi nokhuthazo. Kwaye uphando luye lwabonakalisa ukuba ubuvila yindlela yokukhusela yengqondo yengqondo ngokuchasene nokugqithisa, okukuthi, ngendlela, kunokukhokelela kwisifo. Ubuvila bekunjalo, kodwa, bathi, abacebileyo bathanda abantu bekhulu lama-XXI ihlabathi alizange libonwe. Kule nto, izazinzulu zifumene impendulo.
Akukho nto okanye ingqondo isebenza?
Njengoko sifunde, izizathu zobuqili ekugqithiseni. Kodwa ivela phi, xa isabelo seengonyama sabantu sihleli ngaphandle kwebhulukhwe yakhe kwindawo yomsebenzi, singenzi nto?
Njengokuba izazinzulu zifumanisa kwakhona, indoda yokuqala yachitha onke amandla akhe ekukhuseleni umqolomba, ukuzingela nokuphumla, ukucinga indlela yokwenza ubomi kube lula. Kuye, "uvila" kuthetha ukuzama iingcamango. Ngenxa yolu "buvila", ihlabathi liye laphucula, ubomi bube bukhululekile kwaye bucinge ngakumbi.
Ngenxa yoko, umntu wayekekile ukwesaba "umhume" wakhe, engasayi kuhamba emaphandleni efuna inyama, kwaye achitha i-70% yemikhosi ekusebenzeni kwengqondo. Sisoloko sicinga (akubalulekanga kubaluleke kakhulu, ixabiso ngokwalo libalulekile), kwaye ingqondo ixinzelele ngakumbi kunoyise, ngokunjalo ubuvila bufakiwe kaninzi.
Siya kusebenza
Kodwa, ukuqonda indlela yobuvila akukaze iphendule indlela yokulwa nobutyebi. Izazinzulu zifuna ukuza ne-enzyme eyenza ukuba kuhlanganiswe le fusethi, oko kukuthi, ubuqili, kodwa oku kuya kufutshane kufutshane ubomi bethu nokunciphisa umgangatho walo, kodwa kuya kwandisa umkhiqizo.
Enyanisweni, izazi zengqondo zithi ubuvila besifo sisisiphumo sokukhathazeka okukhulu, uxinzelelo kunye nokuxinezeleka. Ngokomzekelo, kukho abantu abazitshitshisa ngokwabo ukuba bavila, kuba sele bekude ukusuka kunyaka wokuqala abakwazi ukuqedela ingqungquthela yabo. Kodwa, njengoko kuvela kwi-psychologist's reception, babhala isicatshulwa ngesihloko esivela kubo, kwaye ngokubanzi, bakhetha uqeqesho ngaphandle kwabo, kodwa ngaphantsi kwenkcazo yeziphakamiso zabazali abanothando.
Yiyo impendulo kwento enokuyenza ngayo ubuvila: ingqondo iyenqaba ukunika izixhobo zokubambisa onokuzicingela ngokungenakuchukumisa, ongenanto onomdla kuzo, kwaye eqinisweni awufuni ukwenza.
Ukukhutshwa kwazo zonke izixhobo zakho kuguquka, kwaye awuqondi isizathu sokuba uvila, kutheni kungekho mandla, kuba awuzange wenze nantoni na. Ngenxa yoko, akukho ukukhathazeka kunye nokudandatheka, okwenyusa ukudandatheka kuzo zonke iindawo zobomi, kunye neengcinga zecala , intukuthelo ngokwayo iyancipha nje ilizwe.
Misela izinto eziphambili
Ukuphelisa ubuvila kufuneka kuqale ngokusasazwa kwamandla. Ingqondo iya kusebenza kwaye ayiyi kuvela ngokukhawuleza ubuvila buvila, kuphela xa uzinikela ngokuzithandela ithuba lokuphumla.
Ubuvila buya kuba ngumphumo wokusebenza ngokweqile. Umzimba, emva kokuphelisa zonke izibonelelo, uxelela ukuba "uyeke" ukudala amandla. Ukusebenza ngokubanzi kunokuba ngumzimba, kunye nengqondo. Ukuba ukhathele, fumana ithuba lokuphumla nokuvuselela amandla akho. Ubuvila buya kuba ngumphumo wesenzo esingakhethiweyo. Abazali bakhononda ngaba bantwana "abanobucebisayo" abangafuni ukufunda, ngelixa besoloko bephindaphinda ibinzana elithi "intombazana ayifuni ukuyifunda, into ephambili kukuba ukutshata ngokuphumelelayo," okanye "kukho ezininzi izinto ezingenasidingo, ezingenamsebenzi kwisikolo samanje." Abantwana bayayiva kwaye bayayiqonda, kwaye ingqondo igqiba ukuba akunakulungele ukunika iimbutho izinto ezingento.