Ngamanye amaxesha ebomini kukho abantu abanokwenza i-nahamit okanye abangasifanelanga. Abanye abantu ngelo xesha balahlekelwa, kuba abazi ukuba baziphathe kakuhle. Kodwa ungayifaka njani ngokufanelekileyo umntu endaweni yakho ukuze ungaphosisi mntu kwaye ungazifaki kwisimo esingenakwenzeka wena?
Umntu ofumene kuloo meko, ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kufuna ukuwususa ngokukhawuleza njengoko kunokwenzeka, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo umgxeki, eqonda ukuba ulawula "ixhoba" lakhe, uzama ukucaphukisa nokukhubekisa ngakumbi. Ewe, le meko ayimnandi, ngoko ke nawuphi na umntu ofumana phantsi kwengcinezelo enjalo, ucinga malunga nendlela yokubeka umntu endaweni ngoncedo lengqondo-inzululwazi enceda nakwiimeko ezinzima kakhulu.
Indlela yokubeka umntu endaweni?
Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu onobungozi obunobungqina obunobuthathaka obonisa ubuthakathaka kwaye uhlala ecasulwa ngenxa yeziganeko ezinjalo, ukhathazeka kakhulu ngokungazinzi. Le meko inokukuqhubela kwi-stupor, kodwa akumele ulahleke! Amandla angaphakathi ngaphakathi komntu ngamnye uya kunceda ukukhusela umoni, kwaye ngonaphakade ukumbandezela ekubeni ngumnqweno wokuxabana, kuyimfuneko kuphela ukuba ube nesibindi kwaye uzimisele ukunika impendulo efanele.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba umntu akanakuze asebenzise kakubi ukunyaniseka, kuba loo ngxoxo inokuthi ibe yintengiso kwimarhwebo. Kule ndawo, i-boor ivakalelwa njengeentlanzi emanzini, kodwa umntu okhwelwe kakuhle uya kuhlala enzima kakhulu kwaye amathuba okuphumelela kwimfazwe engalingani iya kuncitshiswa. Kungcono ukuba uphume kwimeko ngaphandle kokushiya kwimigaqo yakho, usebenzisa, kodwa ngendlela enjengokungahlazisi kunye nokucaphukisa umoni lowo ekuphenduleni ukunyaniseka kwakhe kwaye ungaphumi kwizinga lakhe.
Indlela yokubeka umntu endaweni ngaphandle komthi?
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abahlukumezi kunye ne-hamam baquka abantu abanezakhiwo eziyinkimbinkimbi , kunye nendlela abaziphethe ngayo. Ukuba ufumana isiphumo esifanayo kumntu, uya kuqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba yiyiphi amagama afaka umntu endaweni. Njengomthetho, aba bantu bangalondekanga, abalahlekelwayo, abantu abanomona okanye abo abanalo ulwazi oluthile lokukhulisana kwaye musa ukukrokra malunga nobukho bokuzithemba. Ngenxa yokungabikho kwemfundo kunye nokungabikho kwenkcubeko yokuziphatha, abantu abanjalo bahlala besebenzisa ulwimi oluhlaseleyo ukwenza intetho yabo ibe yintlonelo kwaye ihlasele "ixhoba" labo. Umntu ofundekileyo nofundiweyo akayi kuba nzima ukufumana amagama alungileyo, kodwa kuyaqondakala ukuchaza i-almisi ehlukanisa yena kunye nomoni. Omnye unokuqhathanisa ingqiqo kunye neengqondo kunye nokuthi akukho mntu uya kulwa nolwalamano oluthathaka.
Ukuba akukho mnqweno wokungena kwimpikiswano , unokuyiphepha ngokungazihoxisi ukuhlaselwa. Imiba efana nale: "Ukuba ndiza kuxoxisana nawe, okanye abantu abayikubona umahluko phakathi kwethu," bahlala behlula umntu ngaphandle kwesiqhelo sobuqhetseba kunye nolwimi olungcolileyo.