Kubaluleke kangakanani ngoku ukwazi nokwenza isicelo ekusebenziseni ubuchule bokukholisa, ukwazi iindawo ezinobuthakathaka nabomeleleyo zomnxibelelwano wakho, ukuqonda into enomdla kuye nakwinto engekho - ukuze uvuselele umntu kwicala lakhe, kungekho nto efunekayo.
Izindlela zeengqondo zokukholisa
- Ngubani ongathandi amagama athobayo kwidilesi yakhe? Ngokuqinisekileyo, abaninzi bayaqonda ukuba akukho ukunyaniseka oku. Kodwa kukunyamezela ukuba unganciphisa umlingani wakho kummandla.
- Ungalibali ukuvuma. Yakha iziphakamiso zakho ngolu hlobo lulandelayo: "Ulungile, kodwa ndandifuna ukuongeza ...". Kwaye kwinqanaba lesibini kubalulekile ukubonisa ingcamango yakho, nangona into yokuba inokuphikisa ngokupheleleyo umbono we-interlocutor.
- Yiba ngumphulaphuli. Kule ndawo kukho amandla okukholisa. Bonisa umntu lowo umcamango owuxabisayo, obonwayo. Musa ukumphazamisa. Makhe ndithethe. Kwimigama yakhe esilandelayo musa ukulibala ukubhekisela kwiingxelo zakhe, umzekelo: "Kwinto othethileyo ngokuthengisa indawo, ndiya kudibanisa okulandelayo ...".
- Kakade, ubugcisa bokukholisa akukona kuphela ukukwazi ukuchaza iingcamango zakho ngobuchule, kodwa nangokukwazi ukuhlaziya ulwimi lomzimba womnxibelelwano. Qaphela ukuba usebenzisa izikhundla ezivaliweyo: iingalo ziwela kwisifuba okanye amaqhosha athatyathwa? Yazi ukuba ukhuselwe kuwe. Akayithandi isihloko sencoko. Lo mqondiso: utshintshe ngokukhawuleza amaqhinga.
- Umntu ngamnye ukhethekile ukukhangela nayiphi na imeko ukuze kuzuze umntu omthandayo. Ukuqhubela phambili kule nto, njengengxabano enzima, kunika into enhle kumntu ukuba uyamkela isiluleko sakho.
- Akufanele kucatshangelwe ukuba isipho sokukholisa asikwenzelwa wonke umntu. Ngokuncedwa kweendlela ezininzi, oku kungafundwa. Ngoko, emva kwexesha uya kubaleka ngokulula kwi "ikona ephilileyo" yentetho. Ngexesha apho incoko ifuna ukukhula ibe yingxabano, tshintsha isihloko. Ngoko, umzekelo, "Ndicinga ukuba andizange ndithethe njalo. Andiyathethi ngoku, kodwa malunga noko ... ".