Ukuhlonipha nokuqatshelwa - yiloo nto abantu abaninzi abayifunayo, mhlawumbi. Uluntu, ngokungathandabuzeki, lithatha inxaxheba kwinkqubo yokwakha ubuntu. Kubalulekile kuthi ukuba abantu baphathwa njani kwaye baphathwa ngayo, ababandakanyeka ebomini bethu. Abaninzi banenkxalabo ngombuzo wendlela yokuba ngumntu ohloniphekileyo. Funda kabanzi malunga nalokhu.
Kutheni bengangithobeli?
Isimo sengqondo sabanye kumntu ulula ukuyiqonda. Ukunganakwa kunye nokunganakwa, ukungabikho kwemfanelo kunye namahlaya angamnandi kwidilesi yabo-konke oku kungqina ukungabi nhlonipho. Akusiyo imfihlo kunoma ubani okholiswayo xa abantu beenxa zonke kuye bephulaphule, babonise ububele kunye nomdla. Isimo sengqondo esinokufumana kuphela ngokusebenza. Abantu bahlala bekela ingqalelo kwizinto ozithethayo nokuzenzayo, kubaninzi, iqondo lokubhalwa kwamagama akho kwizenzo kubalulekile. Xa umntu uthetha ngeenjongo zakhe, iinjongo kunye nokufezekisa, kodwa ngokwenene akenzi nto enjalo ebomini bakhe, ngoko ke emehlweni abo bajikeleze kuye, uba "isibhobho" esiqhelekileyo.
Ukuba ufuna ukufumana inhlonipho, mfaneleke. Qaphela inqaku "elikhulu" kunye noxanduva kwizenzo zabo.
Musa ukulibala ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba wonke umntu abe "olungileyo nongileyo". Fumana inhlonipho ngalabo abathandekayo kuwe. Yintoni enokuyenza ukuhlonela umyeni? - Umele uqale nawe. Iingxaki zomakhaya kunye neengxakini akufanele ziguqulwe zibe "igqabi" elimpunga, kufana neqonga langaphakathi endlwini. Yiba nomdla, nxaxheba kuyo nayiphi na imisebenzi. Zibonise kuyo yonke into - kwinduduzo yasekhaya, njengomfazi nonina. Yiba nomdla kuyo yonke into ongayaziyo okwangoku uze ube nomdla kuwe kwaye ubonise inhlonipho kuyo yonke into oyenzayo.
Ungaqala njani ukuzihlonela?
Ukuzihlonela kufuna ukunyaniseka nokuthembeka. Ungakhohlise nabani na, kodwa kungekhona wena. Ukuba wena
Kufuneka ufunde ukuzixolela. Qaphela iimpazamo zakho kunye nokungaphumeleli, zamkele kwaye uzinikeze isithembiso sokuphucula nokuphucula. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, nawaphi na amagama oziphakelayo, kufuneka ugcine kwaye ufezekise injongo. Emva koko uya kuqala ukuzihlonela, kuba uya kuba nesizathu salo.