Sonke sisuka kubantwana besithandana, uthando oluninzi luya kudluliselwa kubantu abadala, kuba bakholwa kummangaliso, kwinto yokuba intle ihlala iphumelele. Kodwa njengoko ukhula, abantwana baneminye imizwa eninzi: ukwesaba, ukuxhala, ukudabuka, ukucaphuka. Kwenzeka ukuba uhlobo lwezinto ezivela kuzo aluqondwa ngabazali okanye ngabantwana ngokwabo. Kule meko, iingcali zengqondo zincoma ukuba zizame enye yeendlela zokonyango zobugcisa - unyango lwezonyango zabantwana. Enye yeenzuzo zeli mpembelelo kwi-psyche yengane yinto yokuba unina unokunceda umntwana ngokuzimeleyo, kunye neengxaki zonyango zokuxazulula iingxaki zezingane zingasetyenziswe ngokoqobo ukusuka ekuzalweni.
Funda ukuthetha
Abantwana abaneengxaki zengqondo banokuba neengxaki ezibalulekileyo zokuthetha ngenxa yokungabikho kwengqwalasela, ukucinga, imemori. Iingcali ezininzi zithetha malunga nokusetyenziswa ngokuphumelelayo kwonyango lweengcapheko kunye nokunyangwa kwentetho, kuba ukuchaneka kwentetho kuxhomekeke kwizinto ezininzi. Ukunceda umntwana abe nemvakalelo engakumbi, ekwazi ukuziva nabanye, uya kufutshane ngokukhawuleza ngokwemigangatho yemisindo yokufunda. Usana luya kukhawuleza ukucinga kwaye luphumelele ngakumbi ukufunda izinto ezifundiswayo.
Lahla iingxaki
Sekunjalo, umsebenzi oyintloko wokonyango lwezilwanyana ukulungisa isimo sengqondo somntwana nengqondo yakhe, ukuziphatha kwakhe, ukuphelisa ukwesaba kunye nama-phobias. Akusikho isizathu sokuba ukususela kumaxesha amandulo abantu basebenzisa iindaba zokudlulisa amava aqokelelweyo, ngoko ke abantwana baqonda kwaye baqonda into ephambili ngokukhawuleza, yintoni eyenza ukusetyenziswa kweendlela zokwelapha inganekwane kubaluleke kakhulu ekuphuhliseni umntwana.
Siqulunqa ibali lefilo
Kwinqanaba lokuqala, abazali banokufuna uncedo lweengcali, uya kunceda ekudaleni ibali ngokwayo-isiseko se-tale therapy. Ukuza kubhala, kubalulekile ukulandela umyalelo othile:
- khetha ukhetho oluphambili - lufanele lufana nomntwana wakho: uhlamvu, iingcinga, izenzo;
- kuchaza indlela yobomi bomlingani ukuze isilwanyana esicacileyo siqonde ukuba baninzi ngokufanayo;
- xelela ngengxaki yeqhawe okanye imeko ephazamisa umntwana wakho;
- kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - bonisa iintengiso ezimbalwa kwiimeko ezinzima, ukhethe okulungileyo, kwaye, kubalulekile, uchaze iqhawe eliye lanceda ukuxazulula le ngxaki;
- ekupheliseni, umlingani kufuneka aqonde ukuba wenza into engalunganga, kwaye yiyiphi impawu enokutshintsha yonke into ibe ngcono.
Ukusebenzisa unyango lwe-fairytale ekusebenzisaneni nabantwana, unokubandakanya inkunzi kwinkqubo yokudala ibali. Vumela umntwana ngokwakhe acacise iindlela ezininzi zokusombulula ingxaki yeqhawe kwaye kukuncede ukhethe okulungileyo. Oku kuya kukuvumela ukuba uqonde kangcono oko kukuphazamisa kwakho, kwaye ngexesha lokulungisa imeko yalo, ukukrazula ukwesaba, i-phobias, ukucaphukisa, kwaye oku akusiyo injongo ephambili yonyango lomntwana? Kwinkqubo yokulungiselela, abazali banokuba nobunzima bokubhala ibali, ngoko kubaluleke kakhulu kwisigaba sokuqala ukufunda iincwadi ezizodwa, okanye ukucela uncedo kwisazinzululwazi oza kunika imizekelo yeenganekwane zokunyango lwezonyango.
Umzekelo wefayile
Ngesinye isikhathi kwakukho i-kitty encane Vasya. Wayenomama owayemthanda kakhulu, naye wayemthanda. Inkwenkwe yayivuyisa kakhulu, idlala yonke imini, kwaye ngokuhlwa yayitshela umama ukuba akayi kulala. Ngoko wagijima waza wagijima ubusuku bonke, kwaye kusasa wayesele ediniwe kwaye walala. Kwaye emva kwemini umngane wakhe umhlobo wayenosuku lokuzalwa, apho bonke abanye abahlobo bamenywa khona. Kodwa i-kitten Vasya yayingeke ihambe apho, kuba yayilale. Kwaye ndathi ndivuka ebusuku, ndandithukuthele kakhulu. Ukususela ngoko, uye wagqiba isigqibo sokuhlala emthobela unina aze alele ngexesha lokulala.
Iinzuzo zeengxelo zefestile
Amathuba aloo ndlela yobugcisa bonyango maninzi: ngoncedo lwalo unokunceda kuphela umntwana, kodwa nakumntu omdala. Ukucaphula, singathetha ukuba ngaphezu kokwabelana ngamava, intsingiselo yobomi, ukuqonda "okulungileyo nokubi,
Ndingathanda ukuphawula ukuba ngaphambi kokuba uqale "unyango" ngefayile, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ihlabathi lakho elincinci liluhluke kwi nyaniso. Qinisekisa ukuba uqwalasele iimpawu zomntu ngamnye. Ukusebenzisa unyango lwe-fairytale ekuphuhlisweni kwabantwana babo, abazali banomdla kwixesha elizayo elivuyokileyo neliphilileyo. Le ndlela iya kunceda umntwana wakho azive ethembele xa ekhulile, kwaye uthando lwakho kunye nokunakwa kwakho kuya kwenza imimangaliso yangempela!