Ukukhululwa kwabafazi kuqale kwiminyaka yokuqala yekhulu lama-20. Namhlanje, umfazi okhululekileyo, ozimeleyo kunye okhuthazayo akaqhelekanga. Ummeli wesini esifanelekileyo ngokwesini kunye nolonwabo uthatha ininzi yehlabathi lamadoda: kusuka kwiingubo ukuya kwi-acumen yezoshishino. Ngoko ngubani le nkokeli yowesifazane? Yintoni ehambelana nayo kwaye indlela yakhe yobunkokeli isahluke njani kwindoda?
- Ubulumko bentlalo. Inkokheli yowesifazane inokuvakalelwa ngokukhethekileyo kulwalamano phakathi kwabantu, ngokuthatha ngempumelelo umzuzu wenkqubela yokukhula kwaye uyakwazi ukusebenzisa le nkcazelo ngeenjongo zabo. Vumelana ukuba ukwazi ukuqonda ulwalamano lwabahlobo kunye nabalingani bakho kuluncedo kwishishini kwaye ibhinqa kwimicimbi enjalo yendalo ngokumkelekileyo.
- Ukuthintela imvakalelo. Imvakalelo ephakamileyo, inkokheli yowesifazane kufuneka ifihle kwaye ilawule. Ukunyuka kwemizwa kunye nokulawulwa kwemibutho kunye nezikhundla zobunkokheli akuhambelani, kwimeko enjalo ukuqonda okubandayo kuyimfuneko.
- Umsebenzi kunye noTonwabo: akuvumelekile ukudibanisa. Ibhinqa libonisa ngokucacileyo umgca phakathi kwezoshishino kunye nokuzilibazisa kwaye ayivumeli ukuwela. Le yinqanaba elithile lokuzikhusela, kuba kwiindawo ezibukhokeli, intombazana, njengomthetho, ijikelezwe yindoda, kwaye kufuneka iyakwazi ukuba ngoku, ngowokuqala, ubugcisa obuphezulu.
- Ukuphelela. Inkokeli yesibini ibonisa ngokucacileyo iingcamango zakhe nezifiso zakhe, ilawula iimpazamo zakhe kunye nabanye abantu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukhetha ithuba elifutshane elide lokuhlala ixesha elide. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umphumo apha kwaye ngoku ngokuqinisekileyo uqinisekisa ubungqina kunye neempawu zobungcali, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ucinge jikelele. Ukuze impumelelo ihambisane ixesha elide kunokwenzeka, ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ukhangele ngaphaya kwexesha eliqhelekileyo.
- Akukho mlawuli. Amava abonisa ukuba abasetyhini abazama ukufumana isitayela solawulo lwabesilisa abahlali baphumelele. Ubunkokeli bebhinqa buhlangene, buyakwazi ukudlulisela igunya kumagunya, ukugxininisa ukubaluleka kwabo kunye nokubaluleka kwimpumelelo yenkampani, ukudibanisa abantu phantsi kobunkokheli babo. Olu hlobo lobunkokheli lufana nokuhlanganiswa kweentsapho ezinkulu-isakhono esaziwayo sisetyhini.
- Ku kholisa. Inkokheli yowesifazane inako ukuvelisa umdla, xa umntu engathandabuzekiyo ngezenzo zakhe, uya kuqinisekiswa ngamathuba akhe ekusebenzeni. Ngenxa yokukwazi kwakhe ukuqonda iimfuno zabanye, uyakwazi ukukholisa nokukhuthaza abaphantsi kwakhe.
- Ikhono liya kutshintsha. Inkokheli yowesifazane oyinyaniso ingakhawuleza yakha kwakhona kwenye indima yentlalo kwenye (ukusuka "kwinkokheli" ukuya "kumfazi, umama"). Kwakhona ufuna iimpendulo ezithembekileyo, ngendlela yokuqonda nokuxhasa intsapho yakhe. Kubonakala ngathi akwenzi nto eyahlukileyo yintloko yendlu, kwaye yintoni iingxaki zayo zemihla ngemihla? Xa ufika emsebenzini, yonke into ishiywe emva kweendonga zeofisi. Hayi, kodwa ngokubhekiselele kubafazi, lo mgaqo awusebenzi. Ibhinqa lifuna ukubandakanyeka kwinto ebizwa ngokuba yintengiselwano "yowesilisa," kodwa akafuni ukushiya ishishini "labesifazane" (ngamanye amaxesha akakwazi). Ukudibanisa oku, ufuna nje ukuqonda nokunceda, okokuqala, kumyeni wakhe.
- I ntengiso. Okumangalisa kukuba, emsebenzini, inkokheli inkosikazi ikulungele ukuthatha ingozi. Mhlawumbi ingumxholo we-innate intuition, ongenalo isiseko sokuthembela kuye?
Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ibhinqa libeka umngcipheko kwaye lidla ngokuphumelela. - Ukubona okufanelekileyo ukugxeka. Xa ugxeka inkokheli yendoda, ngokuqhelekileyo uyithatha yona, kuba umsebenzi ungenye yezindlela zakhe eziphambili zokuzicwangcisa ngokukhawuleza. Mhlawumbi, ngenxa yokuba inkokheli yowesifazane inendima ebaluleke ngokulinganayo - "umama" apho akwazi ukuzithetha khona, ukugxekwa emsebenzini akumthandi kakhulu. Unako ukuhlaziya kwakhona amazwi athatywayo kwaye uzuze kubo.
- Charm. Kakade ke, inkokheli inkosikazi ayiyi kudlala ngothando kunye nabalingani ukugqiba ingxoxo. Nangona kunjalo, ukususela ekuzalweni, uye wakwazi ukuba nabantu abakujikelezile, kwaye ngokukodwa amadoda. Xa umqobo wokungabaza kwi-career yekhokeli yowesifazane unqotywe, amadoda ayaqonda umfazi wakhe kwinqanaba elincinci. Ingaba unakho ukungabaza? Ewe, akusikho onke amabhinqa ahamba phambili aziphatha ngale ndlela, kodwa ke iphoso labo. Ungakulibala ukuba njengenkokheli, uhlala ungumfazi kwaye ungasebenzisa ngempumelelo iinkcenkcesha zakho zesetyhini kwishishini.