Iintlobo zothando lomzali
"Uthandile ngenxa yesizathu esithile
Ngenxa yokuba ungumzukulu.
Ngenxa yokuba unyana ... "
Le nkondlo ayikho nje inkcazo yothando olungenasimo (unemfuno) lomzali. Ngokudla kaninzi lo mva ungokoqobo koomama, bathanda abantwana babo ngobuqotho nangothando. Kule meko, ubuntu be-crumb abubonakaliswa ngokuziphatha kwakhe, oko kukuthi, unomama uyamthanda umntwana, ngelixa ezinye zezenzo zakhe zingenakuvunyelwa ngokusemthethweni. Olu hlobo lomsindo aluvuki ngokuzalwa komntwana, kodwa luyilwe kwinkqubo yokukhuliswa kunye nokusebenzisana kwakhe. Uthando olungenakulinganisela lulungele umntwana, kuba lunikeza ingqiqo yokhuseleko, ukuqonda kwakhe ukubaluleka kwakhe, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo lenza amandla okuvavanya ngokunyanisekileyo izenzo zakhe namathuba.
Kwenzeka kwakhona ukuba uthando olungathandabuzekiyo "lukhula" lube lukhuni, olubonakaliswa ngononophelo olunzulu kunye nomnqweno wokukhusela umntwana kuyo nayiphi na ubunzima kunye nobunzima. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku kwenzekayo xa umntwana ekholelwa kwisifo esithile. Kwengqondo, le meko ingabonwa njengesiqhelo, kuba izisa ukungaboni kakuhle phakathi koomzali kunye nosana kwaye ikhusela ukubunjwa kwabantu abavuthiweyo, abazimeleyo nabazithembekileyo. Ukongeza kwi- custody excessively, kukho ezinye iintlobo ezingavamile zokujonga iimvakalelo ngabantwana:
- Umqathango. Ukujonga umntwana ngokuthe ngqo kuxhomekeke ekuphatheni kwakhe nangezenzo.
- Ambivalent. Iimvakalelo zomzali kule ngxaki ziyamangalisa - uyamthanda aze azigatye ngexesha elifanayo.
Ukungenamntu okanye ongapheliyo. Eyona nto ihlala ifunyanwa kwiintsapho apho abazali bebancinci kwaye bodwa, baphatha umntwana ngokungabonakaliyo kwaye bengenandaba. - Ukulahlwa kwemvakalelo. Iimvuthu zibangela ukucaphukisa kubazali, ngoko bazama ukungayihoyi.
- Vula ukulahlwa. Uhlobo olusoloko lukhokelela ekwakheni ubuntu obungaqhelekanga bomntwana, kuba abazali abanamahloni ekubonakaliseni isimo sabo sengqondo kumntwana.