Akumangalisi ukuba bathi amantombazana ahloniphekileyo ngomhla wokuqala awamanga. Nangona kunjalo, ukujonga iinjongo xa babini bafuna. Ukuba awufuni nantoni na ubudlelwane obungabophelanga, ulwalamano olusondeleyo, umanga kwimpilo. Kodwa ukuba ucinga ngokukwakha ubudlelwane obude kunye nokudala umanyano oqinileyo-fumana ukuba ungawuqala njani ngokufanelekileyo.
Vumela ukuhamba kwexesha elidlulileyo - uzakufumana ikhoyo
Ukuba usalusizi uthando lwakho lwakutshanje, xabisa imemori yakho, cinga ngomntu owayengumthandi, kwaye, mhlawumbi, mhlawumbi ujonge umfana omtsha onjengaye - akukho nto iya kuvela kuyo. Akwanele nje ukuba unqwenele "ukufumana umntu", kubalulekile ukuba uzilungiselele kule ntla nganiso.
Ukuqala, "ukukhulula" iinkumbulo zakho, zikhulule ngokwamalungu olwahlukileyo. Lahla izinto ezingalunganga, ukuze ungadluliseli kwizinto ezintsha, iimvakalelo ezizalwe. Shiya ngokukhunjulwa okulungileyo, ixesha elimnandi. Musa ukugcina ububi kunye nentukuthelo kumntu ongazange aphile ngokulindelekileyo. Ingqondo engcono yimbonge ngethuba lakhe elixabisekileyo.
Ukulungelelwa kwintlanganiso entsha kunye neemvakalelo kukuba yimfihlo yobudlelwane obude.
Qala uvuyo ubomi kwakhona. Sebenza ngokwakho, ukuzithemba. Sitshintshe ngaphandle, fumana umdlalo othakazelisayo, yenza kwindlu (kwigumbi lakho) ukulungiswa okanye ukulungiswa kwakhona kwefenitshala.
Imilinganiselo ye-Abandon kunye neempendulo malunga nokuba umntu wakho omtsha kufuneka abe njani. Xa kukho intlanganiso ende elinde, masivule. Zama ukubona, okokuqala, iimpawu zayo ezintle kunye namacala, kwaye kungenakulinganiswa, akukho nto ikhoyo kuyo.
Isibambiso sobudlelwane obude sinokuthembela phakathi kwamalingani, umnqweno wokunyamekela omnye nomnye kunye nokuzama ukugcina uxhulumano. Yiba wena, ungadlala "indima zabanye abantu" kwaye ungakheli ubomi bomntu kwimeko ethile, omnye kwakhona. Uya kuba nomfanekiso wakho wothando.
Uluntu lwemimandla kunye nezicwangciso zekamva yinye imfuneko ebalulekileyo yokwenza ubuhlobo bude kwaye buvuyiswe. Khangela umntu osondelene nawe emoyeni, kwaye awuyi kudimazeka.