Xa ukuzalwa kwesibini komntwana kusondele, abazali abaninzi bayaqhiphukisa ukubona ukuba i-karapuz yabo emnandi neyathobelayo ayinakuxanduva. I-Hysteria nayiphi na isizathu kwaye ngaphandle kwesizathu, iqhenqa elingapheliyo, inqwenelo enkulu kunye namazwi athi "mna ngokwam" ugcina umama kunye noodade behlala bexhatshazwa, bekhokelela ekuhambeni komlilo. Indlela yokufundisa kakuhle umntwana oneminyaka emibili kwaye iya kuxutyushwa kwinqaku lethu.
Imigaqo yokukhulisa umntwana iminyaka emi-2
Ukukhulisa umntwana oneminyaka emi-2 - akusiyo yonke into elula, awuyi kuphazanyiswa yinto entsha, kodwa awuyi kuchaza ezininzi. Kule minyaka ubudala umntwana ufumana ubunzima bokuqala benkqubela, iimbonakalo ezenza abazali bathuke. Ukuze ugcine iingxaki zakho kwaye ugweme iinyembezi ezingabalulekanga zobuntwana, abazali kufuneka bahambelane nale miyalelo ilandelayo yokunyusa umntwana 2 iminyaka:
- Ukukhuliswa komntwana oneminyaka emibili kufuna ukuba ulungelelanise-ukuba uvumelekile iminyaka emibini, akayi kuthobela ngexesha elifanayo. Kwaye ke ubaba nomama kufuneka baqalise ukusebenza kwenkqubo yokudibanisa kunye nezikhuthazo. Ukuba omnye wabazali wayenqatshile into ethile, ngoko okwesibini akayikuvumela le nto. Igama elithi "hayi", elichazwe ngabazali, kufuneka libe liyokugqibela kwaye lingenasimo.
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntwana uziphatha kakubi kangakanani, qhubeka uzolile. Musa ukulahlekelwa ngumsindo rhoqo xa umntwana ehlaselwa . Esi sifundo akunakuncedo, kuba ngaloo mzuzu umntwana akakuvumi kwaye akakuboni. Qinisekisa kwaye uzinqabise ngokuzenzekelayo inkomo ekhulile yabameli - mthabathe kwelinye igumbi okanye uphume. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba unike iikhonsathi akuyi kuba nabani na, umntwana uya kuthula. Xa iyancipha inkunzi yebhokhwe iya kumisa - ikhuni kwaye imanga, ndixelele ukuba uyamthanda njani.
- Uneminyaka emibini ubudala kunzima kakhulu ukutshintsha ngokukhawuleza ukusuka komnye umsebenzi ukuya kwenye, ngoko umxwayise malunga nezicwangciso zakho kwangaphambili. Umzekelo, ngaphambi kokushiya indawo yokudlala, tshela kancinci, "Ngoku udlala encinane, siya kuqoqa amathoyizi size siye ekhaya," kwaye ungayikhuphe ngaphandle komdlalo.
- Nika umntwana ilungelo lokukhetha. Kulo nyaka, unokhe ukhethe oko kuthethwa ngento efuna ukuyiva ngaphambi kokuba alele embhedeni, okanye luhlobo luni lwe-t shirt eliya kulinxiba ukuhamba. Khumbula ukuba akufanele kube ngaphezu kwezinto ezi-2-3 ozikhethayo ukuze umntwana adideke.
- Thatha umyalelo wokudumisa umntwana ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokwenzeka: ukuthobela, ukuzama ukuncedisa ekhaya, ukulungiswa kwamathoyizi.
- Endaweni yegama elithi "akunakwenzeka", xelela umntwana into enokuyenza. Umzekelo, ukuba ufuna i-candy ngaphambi kokutya, tshela ukuba unokutya i-apula okanye ibhanana.
- Ukugxotha umntwana kumbindi uqala kubantwana abaneminyaka engama-50 ubudala, de kube yiminyaka engama-4-5, "nedobeganiya" phambi kwakhe kuqhelekileyo. Ungabi neentloni kwintsana xa kwenzeka inkathazo encinci.
- Umntwana oneminyaka emibini ubudala ufuna iqela lontanga ngokuphuhliso oluqhelekileyo. Myeke kule minyaka, engazi indlela yokudlala nabanye abantwana, kodwa ufunda okuninzi kubo. Ukuba intsana ingahambele i-nursery, zama ukufumana inkampani efanelekayo kwindawo yokudlala kuyo.
- Abantwana beli xesha baya kukwazi ihlabathi elibajikelezile ngedolo, ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukulungisa umntwana
izakhono (ukuhlamba, ukuqhelana nabanye abantwana) balahlekelwa le meko ngamathoyizi akhethandayo. - Xa uneminyaka engama-2, akukho mfahluko othe ngqo kwindlela yokufundisa inkwenkwe nentombazana. Musa ukucaphukisa xa inkwenkwe eneminyaka emibini ikhetha amathoyizi amantombazana, iidodoli, abahambahambayo, kunye nentombazana ayikwazi ukunqunyulwa kwiimoto kunye neebhotile. Ngokufanayo, akukho mfuneko yokufuna inkwenkwe ngexesha elinjalo ukukhusela iimvakalelo phantsi kwesiqubulo esithi "amadoda akalili."
- Khumbula ukuba abantwana abancinci baninzi kakhulu. Ukuba ubona into ephazamisayo nokungalunganga ekuziphatheni komntwana, uva amazwi abukhali emlonyeni wakhe-jonga kakuhle. Inokwenzeka ukuba, umntwana wakho ikopi kule ngxaki wena, abazali bakhe.