Ngenxa yimeko yangoku kuluntu, uninzi unina kufuneka anakekele umntwana kwaye akhuliswe iminyaka emithathu nangaphezulu. Nangona oobawo bexakekile befumana imali yokunyusa iintsapho zabo. Ngaloo ndlela, umntwana uchitha kunye nonina ngokukhawuleza, ejwayele ukuhlala kuluntu lwakhe. Ngoko, akumangalisi ukuba ube nomzali malunga nexesha elizeleyo, umntwana usulungele ukuba nje kufuphi naye. Yaye xa umfokazi efika, umncinci uyakhathazeka nonina. Kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba uMama uya kufuneka ukuba angabikho kwishishini ngaphandle komntwana wakhe othandekayo. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba le nkwenkwe, ejwayele ukungavumi ukuhamba nonina ngomzuzu, igqithise ama-nannies (ugogo, oomama okanye oomalume) bonke abakhohlakisayo kunye nama-scandal, bafuna ukubuya komzali othandekayo. Ngokwemvelo, lo mfundi ufuna ukuba umntwana akhule ngokukhawuleza, oko kuya kumvumela ukuba ashiye isigxina ukujongana neengxaki ezahlukeneyo, nokuba yinto elula, umzekelo, ukuya kweyure okanye ezimbini ukuya kwindawo yokutya. Ngenxa yoko, abaninzi abantu babuza ukuba ngaba kunokwenzeka ukutshintsha imeko. Oku kuya kuxoxwa ngazo.
Ukwesaba "abangaziwayo" -kuvela phi?
Ukususela ekuzalweni, umntwana usenokuzibonakalisa yena kunye nonina, ecinga ukuba ngumntu opheleleyo. Kodwa iinyanga ezisixhenxe ukuya kwezibhozo ziyiminyaka xa abantwana-iintsana ziqala ukusebenza ngendlela yokwahlula abantu abazungezile ukuba bathi "zabo" kunye "nabafokazi". Kwaye kwangexesha elifanayo umntwana akakhokelwa ngempembelelo ngombono kamama, ngoko kuthetha, ingcamango yakhe, oko kukuthi, intuitive.
Ngokuphuhliso oluqhelekileyo emva kwexesha, i-crumb iqala ukukhula kwaye yandisa kancane isangqa sazi. Kodwa ukuba ingxaki enjalo ihlala endala, abazali bafanele bacinge ngokucokisekileyo. Inyaniso kukuba ukuba umntwana akavumeli ukuhamba nonina ngomzuzu, oku kudla ngokuhambelana nezizathu ezininzi:
- uxinzelelo lweengqondo nokungaqiniseki;
- ukubonakala kwee-phobias zendalo ezahlukeneyo;
- ukungazinzi kwimeko yentsapho (umzekelo, ukuxabana phakathi kwabazali, uninazala okanye uninazala);
- utshintshe kwindawo yomntwana, ukuba ixesha elide wayengumgcini wecala;
- Ukuzithemba okuphantsi komntwana, xa ebusweni benina, uvakalelwa ngakumbi.
Kuthekani ukuba umntwana akamvumeli ukuba ahambe ngomzuzu?
Ukuba umama wakho "wongamela" umama wakhe ngenxa yokuba uhlala echitha ixesha naye, kuyacetyiswa ukuba izihlobo okanye abahlobo bentsapho bamenywe rhoqo ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze phambi komntwana umntwana asetyenziswe kuluntu olutsha aze abone isimo sengqondo esihle somama kwiindwendwe.
Njengoko ukhula, i-crumb iya kusetshenziselwa abantu abatsha baze bahlale nabo ixesha elithile kunye nenkampani. Kodwa kufuneka silondoloze kumama kancane - okokuqala ngehora embalwa imizuzu kunye nomntu omtsha, emva kwemizuzu eyi-10, imizuzu engama-30 kunye neyure. I-Karapuzam ukususela kwiminyaka engama-2-3 iyanconywa ukuba ichaze injongo yokushiya umama kwaye uza kubuya ngokukhawuleza, aze athembisa ukuthambisa okanye ukudlala.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, kunye neyesibini, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwiminyaka emithathu, isidalwa esincinane sibonisa ukukhanya kokuzimela -umnqweno wokugqoka, ukutya, ukuya kwindlu yangasese, udlale kwaye uhlale ungenawo umama, kuquka.
Ukuba ingxaki ihlala nomntwana wexesha lokufundela, iingcali zincoma ukuba udibanise neurologist. Inyaniso kukuba, ngokomzekelo, iintsana ezinengcinezelo ye-intracranial
Ukongezelela, kucetyiswa ukuba udlala ufihle kwaye ufune kunye nonyoko ngezikhathi ezithile. Ndiyabulela kulo mdlalo, umntwana ufunda ukuchitha ixesha elingaphandle ngaphandle konina umama-akuyikrele, kuba ukhona.
Kodwa isisombululo seengxaki ngokutshabalalisa imeko yengqondo kwintsapho okanye ukubonakala kweefosbias kukuxhomekeke kwengqondo yengqondo yomntwana.
Gcinani engqondweni, ukucoca ngokubambisana okunamandla kunye nonina kufuneka kuphuculwe, ukuhlukana ngokukhawuleza kuya kubangela uxinzelelo kunye nokuvalwa komntwana.