Abaninzi abasetyhini, abasendleleni bedibana nomntu ovaliweyo, bacinga malunga nendlela yokuqonda umntu oyithumelayo. Lo mntu akayithandi ingxoxo yehlabathi, akaxubushelani nabanye iimvakalelo zakhe namava, usebenza kangcono yedwa. Akusiwo onke amabhinqa akwazi ukufumana indlela kumntu onjalo.
Ukwaziswa kwamadoda
Ama-Introverts akha malunga nama-30% ebemi behlabathi. Lo mntu uyilondolozo, uyayithanda xa yonke into ihamba ngokwecebo elicwangcisiweyo. Ukungathethi, ukhetha ukuzonwabisa kwimizi kwaye ayibekezeli iinkampani ezinomsindo. Kubalulekile ukuba asebenzise ixesha elilodwa kunye naye. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu onjalo ungumntu oyedwa. Akayichazi kakuhle imvakalelo, akafuni ukuvula ingxoxo, kodwa unezinto ezininzi zokuzonwabisa ezenza ukuba achithe ixesha kunye naye.
Indlela yokunxibelelana nomntu osetywe?
Umbuzo wendlela yokuphumelela isilumkiso somntu unempendulo eyodwa kuphela: kufuneka uzinike ixesha elaneleyo. Yivume nje njengoko kunjalo, kwaye ungazami ukuyibuyisela ngokwakho - iya kuyixabisa.
Kuphela ukuba unomntu ohlala ekhaya kwaye ungamthandi amaqela anomsindo, uya kufumana ukuqonda naye. Wonke amagama alinganiswa, ngoko akayithandi ingxoxo engenzi lutho. Uthembela kwiziseko zentlalo kunye nemithetho, unayo. Kungcono ukunika umntu onjalo inkululeko yokuzikhethela, kwaye angayi kumqhubela kuyo nayiphi na isakhelo.
Yilungiselele ukuba uthando lwendoda engumthunzi luyintando engenamntu, apho abantu ababini banokuba kunye ngaphandle kokuthetha igama omnye komnye. Akuyimfuneko ukuthulula iindoda ezinkulu kunye nokumthuthuzela ngemibuzo, kuba akayi kukunika iimpendulo ezicacileyo. Kuyinto engento engenamsebenzi nje ngokumkhawuleza - akaze aphuthumele naphi na kwaye akayikunyamezela. Ngaba uyavumelana nolwalamano olunjalo? Ngaba baya kukulandela? Kule meko kuphela uya kuvuyiswa yindoda engenayo.