Amantombazana amaninzi ukususela kwiminyaka yamandulo iqokelela imithi yeKrisimesi, ukuxelela ubutyebi ngothando. Kukho iindlela ezininzi ezahlukeneyo zokubikezela, ezona zihlandlo ezininzi zilula kwaye zifikeleleka. Ukuqagela kwi-Krismesi kwindoda esatshatileyo iya kukuxelela ukuba kuya kukhangela ukutshata umnyaka ozayo kwaye udibana nendoda ehloniphekileyo, luhlobo luni lolwalamano , njl.
Indlela yokuqiqa ixesha leKrisimesi kwindoda esatshatileyo?
Makhe sicinge ngeendlela eziqhelekileyo zokuqikelela ikusasa:
- Le ntsikelelo emini yomtshato isetyenziswe kwiphupha, okuya kukuxelela ukuba yintoni indoda ezayo iza kubonakala ngathi. Ngaphambi kokulala, thatha indebe uze uthele amanzi kulo. Emva koko uvela emlanjeni ulethe amahlamvu ambalwa uze wenze ibhuloho ephuculweyo emanzini. Ngeli xesha kuyimfuneko ukuthetha amagama anjalo:
- Le ntsikelelo ngexesha leKrisimesi isetyenziswe kumntu othile. Thatha inaliti ezimbini, enye ibe enkulu kunomnye. Inaliti enkulu iya kufanekisela indoda, kwaye incinci iya kufanekisela ibhinqa. Gcoba inaliti ngegrisi, umzekelo, kunye nebhotela uze uwabeke kwisitya esincinci samanzi. Ukuziphatha kweenaliti kunye nokuchazwa ngetyala. Ukuba zidibaniswe, ngoko uya kuba nomtshato oqinileyo. Iinaliti zahlukana kwiindlela ezihlukileyo - oku kukubonakalisa ukuhlukana . Kwimeko apho inaliti "yindoda" iwela phantsi, ithetha ukuba ubudlelwane buya kugqiba kwinqanaba lokhethiweyo, kwaye ukuba "i-female", ubudlelwane buya kubaluleka.
- Oku kulandelayo kuhlawula ngeKrisimesi ngoKhisimusi ngenxa yokukhwabanisa ubusuku kuya kwenza kube lula ukuba ngubani omele ukhethe phakathi kwabamangalisi abaninzi. Thatha amaqabunga afana neesayizi ezincinci kwaye ngamnye ubhale igama lomntu obonisa uvelwano, kwaye ushiye elinye iphepha lingenanto. Yibanike, nivuke kwaye nibeke phantsi komsila. Ngentsasa, thabatha iphepha elilodwa ngokungakhange ukhangele umphumo. Isiqulatho esingenalutho sephepha sithi akukho mtshato oza kubakho kunyaka ozayo.
"Ngubani na ondibambene naye, ngubani ummera wam, makandithumele ngaphesheya kwebhuloho!"
Emva koko, faka ukwakhiwa phantsi kombhede ekhanda lombhede uze ulale. Ephupheni, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kubona okhethiweyo wakho, kwaye kufuneka eme embukweni womtshato kwibhulorho. Ukuba uza kutshata ngexesha elizayo, uya kunceda ukuwela ibhuloho.