Ukuhlaziya kwengqondo - oko kukuthi, ukuqhuba, imizekelo

Ukurhoxisa kuyindlela efanelekileyo yokubeka "umfanekiso kwisakhelo esitsha", ephuhliswe nguRichard Bendler noJohn Grinder. Nayiphi na ingxaki, imeko okanye inkathazo isekelwe kwisibonelelo esihle, ukuhlaziya kunceda ukuphinda ucinge kwakhona kwaye ubone oko kwenzekayo kumxholo omtsha.

Yintoni yokwehla?

Ukurhoxiswa kukusetyenzana lwezakhono kwi-psychological positive today, i- NLP , oku kuthetha ukulungiswa kwakhona okanye ukuphinda ucinge ngokucinga, ukuziphatha, ukucinga, ngenxa yoko, ukulahla ukuziphatha okubi (ukuxhalaba, ukuxhatshaza, ukuxhomekeka komzimba). Indlela yokuhlaziya isetyenziswe ngokubanzi kwezobuchwepheshe bezoshishino, kunceda ukuzisa umbutho kwizinga elitsha lophuhliso.

Iintlobo zokurhoxisa

Ukurhoxiswa komntu kuqhutywa ngoncedo lwezicwangciso zokuthetha, impembelelo yegama nokungena ekhadini lomgangatho womntu utshintshe indlela awayeyijonga ngayo iimpawu zakhe, imeko engafanelekanga. Kukho ezimbini iintlobo zokurhoxisa:

1. Ukurhoxisa umongo . Ukwamkelwa, ukunceda ukubona ukuziphatha, imeko, umgangatho ngokunika intsingiselo entsha, umzekelo, apho ukuziphatha okungafunekiyo, umkhwa uyamkeleka, kwaye akukho ndawo. Ukutshintsha umongo, indlela yokuguqula umxholo.
2. Ukurhoxisa umxholo . Ingxelo okanye umyalezo unikezwa intsingiselo eyahlukileyo ngokugxila kwelinye inxalenye yomxholo. Ukusebenza kolu hlobo lokurhoxisa kuxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo ekuqondeni oko kuqulethe ngqo ingxaki.

Ukurhoxisa kwi-Psychology

I-psychotherapy yokuziphatha kunye neengqondo - ukutshintshwa kwakhona kusetyenziswa ukutshintsha umbono womntu kwaye wenze ifom yeembono ezintsha. Ingcali yeengqondo inikezela ukuba ibhekane nomntu kwiimeko zabo, icela ukuba ucinge ukuba imeko yimizobo, ongayibona ngayo ngokuyibeka kwiifom ezahlukeneyo. Ukuhlaziywa kwengqondo - impembelelo yokwelapha:

• ukuqaliswa kwesazisi somthengi;
• ukubandakanyeka kwecandelo lokudala;
• kunciphisa uxinzelelo lwengqondo;
• ukwakheka kwindlela efanelekileyo yokuziphatha endaweni ye-neurotic.

Ukugxila ekulawuleni

Ukurhoxisa kwintlangano yanamhlanje kukutshintshana kwisakhelo esilungileyo kunokuba kunjalo nakwixesha elizayo njengokuba kunjalo. Imiphumo emihle yokusebenzisa ukurhoxiswa ekulawuleni:

• Unceda iinkokeli zamanqanaba ahlukeneyo zibandakanya iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokulawula;
• ukutsala iingcali ezingcono;
• khuthaza abasebenzi ukuba benze umsebenzi ophezulu;
• ichaza ukusetyenziswa kwamashishini;
• yakha umboniso omtsha kunye nomnqweno wokutshintsha, umgangatho wokunyaniseka kwintlangano.

Ukurhoxisa ekuthengiseni

Yintoni ukuhlaziywa kweentengiso kuyaziwa kuwo wonke umthengisi ophumeleleyo. Umthengi ngexesha elifanayo ubona iingeniso zalo, kumthengisi - yindlela yokuphinda abone kwakhona iimpahla aze azikhuthaze kwiimpumelelo ezintsha kwiintengiso. Izinketho zokurhoxisa:

• ugxininiso kwiintlawulo ("akukho saphulelo semveliso, kodwa kwisitoreji sethu ixabiso elisezantsi kunalo mveliso");
• imibuzo eminye - umdayisi udonsa ingqalelo yomthengi kwiimpahla, iinkonzo (kutheni uhlawula umkhwa, xa ungathenga umkhiqizo ofanayo kwixabiso elithengiweyo kunye nokusebenza okuhle).

Inkqubo yokucoca

Inyathelo elithandathu yokurhoxisa - inqubo ejongwa jikelele kwi-NLP, inceda ekusebenzeni nayiphi na ingxaki ngokubeka emanyathelo amathandathu. Ukusebenza kokusebenza okulula nangokuqhelekileyo kusekwe kwizinga elingenalwazi. Imiphumo emihle evela kumsebenzi:

• uvelisa ukuziphatha okutsha, okuvelisayo;
• umntu uqala ukubona amathuba amatsha apho angazange avumele ngaphambili;
• Ukuhlaziywa kwakhona kweziganeko kususa uxhalaba, kukuvumela ukuba ubuke ubomi ngokuthemba.

6 inyathelo lokurhoxisa

Inyathelo elithandathu lokurhoxisa, ukusetyenziswa kwetheknoloji:

1. Igama kunye neengqinamba zeengxaki, njengoko kubonakalayo. Njengomzekelo, ungathatha umkhwa okanye ukuziphatha okungafuneki uze ukhethe ngokubhala ileta, inombolo okanye umbala.
2. Ukusekwa koqhagamshelwano kunye nenxalenye yomntu (ongenalwazi) ojongene nomkhwa. Uyakwazi ukubuza: "Ndifuna ukunxibelelana nenxalenye yam enoxanduva lomkhwa." Kubalulekile ukucacisa ababalulekileyo bokunxibelelana, oko kuza kuba, iimpendulo "yee" kunye "no" okanye imizwa emzimbeni.
3. Ukuzimisela kweenjongo ezintle. Nantsi ibuza ukuba ngaba le nxalenye iza kunceda ekufumaneni oko ifuna ukufezekisa yona ngokwayo ngokuziphatha okungafunekiyo okanye umkhwa . Ukuba impendulo ngu "ewe," unokuqhubeka nokubuza imibuzo: "Ukuba uneminye indlela efanelekileyo yokulinganisa injongo, ungathanda ukuzama? Ukuba impendulo ayikho, kubalulekile ukuzibuza: "Ngaba ndikholelwa ukuba ingqondo yam engqondweni yinjongo enhle, nokuba ingafuni ukundixelela ngoku?"
4. Isibheno kwinqanaba lokudala. Ukongeza kwinqanaba elidala ukungafuneki, kukho ukudala. Kubalulekile ukubuza okokuqala, ukuziphatha okulawulayo ukudibanisa injongo efanelekileyo yokudala. Xa impendulo ibe ngu "ewe", umntu uphendukela kwinxalenye yokudala kunye nesicelo sokwenza ubuncinane iindlela ezi-3 ezisebenzayo zokuziphatha kwaye uxelele oku kulawulo lokuziphatha okungathandekiyo.
5. Ukulungiswa kwesivumelwano. Buza iyunithi yakho ukulawula ukuziphatha, nokuba ufuna ukusebenzisa inxalenye yeefomu ezintsha. Impendulo ngu "ewe" - into engafumananga, ukuba "hayi", ungatsho le nxalenye ukuba ingayisebenzisa indlela endala, kodwa okokuqala yenza ukuba uzame ezintsha.
6. Hlola ubungqina bendalo. Buza ukungakwazi ukuba kukho ezinye iindawo ezichasene okanye ezifuna ukujoyina iindlela ezintsha zokuziphatha. Ukuthula kuyimpawu yesivumelwano.

Ukurhoxisa umzimba

Ukuzivocavoca ngezantsi kungenziwa kokubili kwiqela kwaye ngokuzimela. Ukurhoxisa - ukusetyenziswa okusebenzayo:

1. "Elinye i-epithet." Ukuzivocavoca kwiqela labantu aba-3 ukuya ku-4. Kwiphepha lephepha elibhalwe ubuncinane iimpawu ezili-20 (umcebisi, onqabileyo, oqhayisayo, owekratshi, oyisilo). Injongo yeqela kukufumana okuchaseneyo ngokubhekiselele kwikhwalithi nganye, umzekelo: glutton - i-gourmet, inothando ukutya okumnandi, nolwazi ekudleni.
2. "Ndiye ...". Ukuzivocavoca kunceda ukuhlalutya ngokuzimeleyo. Kwiphepha lephepha kufuneka ubhale okungenani iimpawu zakho ezi-10, ezibonakala ziphosakele, umzekelo: "Ndiyena ... uvila / uthembela / utyhafile / unomsindo." Bhala enye entsha ngenqaku elifanelekileyo malunga nesitatimende ngasinye (faka iimpawu kwelinye isakhelo). Hlaziya oko kutshintshile ekuboneni.

Ukurhoxisa - imizekelo

Umntu ngamnye kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo unokufumana ukuhlaziywa kwakho, okusebenza kwabanye, abanye abakunamathele. Ukurhoxiswa okulungileyo kuklanyelwe ukuba umntu owayedlulela phambili, ukungabi nako kwamathuba okutshintsha iqondo lokujonga kwaye uqala ukuqonda ukuba yonke into eyenzekayo inengqiqo. Imizekelo yokurhoxiswa kwinkqubo yeengcali ze-NLP:

1. Inkokheli ifuna kakhulu kwaye ikhethe, (umxholo ongendawo). Umongo ontle: yonke into icacile kwaye icacile, uyazi ukuba wenzeni, funda ngokukhawuleza kwaye udumo luhlala lufanelwe.
2. Ukungabi nokukhula komsebenzi (imeko engafanelekanga). Ukugxeka okulungileyo: uxanduva oluncinci kunye nokunika ingxelo kwi nkokheli, akukho kuxhomekeka kwabanye, akukho mfuneko yokuxhathisa ingxabano, iingxaki kunye nokuhlala ngokukhawuleza.
3. Unomsindo kakhulu, abantwana abangenasiphelo (umongo ongekho). Ukurhoxisa imeko ngendlela efanelekileyo: abantwana bakhululekile nakubani na ubunzima, bavuya kwaye bavakalise (abazali bayamkeleka - kubalulekile ukuba abantwana baziphathe ngokuzimeleyo nangokuzidla).

Ukurhoxisa - iincwadi

UBendler uRichard "Ukurhoxisa: Ubuntu boBomi kunye noNcedo lweeNkcazo zeNtetho" - le ncwadi, ebhaliweyo ngokubambisana noJohn Grinder, inokuthi ithathelwe ingqalelo njengeNombolo 1 yokuhlaziya iincwadi zezifundo. Akukho zincwadana ezininzi ezithintela lo mbandela ukuya kutsho,

1. "Ukuhlaziya: i-NLP kunye noguqulwa kwentsingiselo" nguRichard Bandler . Incwadi kaR. Bendler kwiyayimvelaphi, kulabo abangathandi ukufunda kwi-original.
2. "Indlela yokuguqula ingxaki kwi-win okanye uphinde uphinde uphinde ubume" I-Bulletin NLP № 26. AA. Pligin . Amasu asebenzisekayo wokunqoba iingxaki zeengxaki.
3. "Ukurhoxisa imibutho. Ubugcisa, ukhetho kunye nobunkokheli "nguLee D. Bolman, uTerrence E. Dil . Incwadi inikeza izixhobo apho iinqununu zingakwazi ukuzisa ishishini labo kwinqanaba elitsha elinobuchule, ukunqoba le ntlekele.
4. "NLP-reframing. Ungayitshintsha njani inyaniso yakho . " Umfundi wokurhoxisa, oquka imisebenzi yabasebenzi abadumileyo be-NLP.