Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukufumana umfazi okhulelweyo ebandleni?

Akunjalo ukukhulelwa kuhleliwe, ngoko ngexesha lokuhlaselwa kwabo, abazali banokuhlala kunye kunye, baceba ukutshata. Kukho neemeko xa indoda kunye nomfazi sele sele ebhalise ubudlelwane kwaye bayeza kudlulela kwintsikelelo yentsikelelo yabo yomanyano ebandleni, bekholwa, kodwa babengenayo ixesha ngaphambi kokuba bafunde malunga nemigca emibini exabisekileyo. Ngoko ke, umbuzo wokuba unako ukutshata nomfazi okhulelweyo ebandleni. Abantu abangayazi kakuhle kule ngxaki badla ukuba le nto ayimkelekanga. Makhe sihlolisise indlela abakhonzi becawa abazijonga ngayo lo mbuzo.

Yintoni endimele ndiyazi ngomtshato ngexesha lokukhulelwa?

Ukuba ukhangele phambili kwintsana, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo ufuna ukufumana iintsikelelo zikaThixo kuyo, uya kubuyela ethempelini ukuba akuxelele ukuba unokutshata nomfazi okhulelwe. Icawa iyakhathaza le ngxaki kwaye ayikholelwa ukuba ukwenza isenzo kwisimo esinjalo sisono. Ukuphulwa kwemithetho kaThixo kukuzalwa komntwana ngaphandle komtshato, i E. ubomi bohenyuzo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukuphendulwa kumbuzo ukuba kunokwenzeka yini ukutshata ngexesha lokukhulelwa, ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa okokuqala kukufanelekile ukungena emtshatweni womthetho, ebhaliswe kwi-ofisi yokubhalisa.

Umama ozayo kunye nobawo bafanele bazi malunga nomtshato "kwindawo enomdla" ezi zinto zilandelayo:

1. Nabani na umbingeleli uya kutshabalalisa ukungathandabuzeki kwakho malunga nokuba umfazi okhulelweyo unokutshata. Emva koko, umntwana uthathwa njengesipho esivela eNkosini, owathi wambusisa loo ntokazi. Ngoko ke, akukho sijeziso esivela phezulu, ukuba abafazi bafuna ukukhokela ubomi obulungileyo baze bajoyine umntwana kwi-Orthodox, abayi kulandela.
2. Umcimbi womtshato umude kwaye uthatha ubuncinane iyure. Kulo lonke ixesha umtshakazi nomyeni kufuneka bame. Umfazi okhulelwe uziva ebuthathaka, kwaye intloko yakhe ingaba ne-dizzy. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukuzisa kwangaphambili malunga nemeko yomama esizayo kubakhonzi becawa abaya kulungiselela ibhentshi kwangaphambili ukuze ahlale phantsi aze aphumle.
3. Ubungakanani bembethe yomtshato kufanele kube phantsi kwebhokhwe. Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukuba igubungele isifuba kunye namahlombe. Okhulelweyo unako kwaye kufuneka athatyathwe kwiingubo ezingavumelekanga ezingacinezeli isisu nesifuba, kuya kuba lula ukunyamezela ukuhlala ixesha elide kwigumbi elikufutshane. Ukuze umkhosi ukhethe izicathulo ngeempumlo ezivaliweyo, eziza kukhululeka.