Indawo yendawo ngumgama apho umntu angakwazi ukunxibelelana ngokuthe tye nabanye abantu. Ukuchithwa kwemida yesithuba somntu ngokwaso kuqondwa ngokugqithiseleyo njengobonakaliso bentshapheko, ngoko akusijabulisi ukuba umntu abe kwisihlwele (ibhasi ngexesha elikhawulezayo). Eyona nto iyazi kakuhle abadibaniselwano, incinci umgama unokuba phakathi kwabo. Kodwa ingaba sisondele ngakumbi kunxulumano lwabafazi, luphi uhlobo lokuhlasela kwesithuba somntu siqu esinokukusithetha kulo mzekelo?
Isikhundla somntu onxulumene nolwalamano luyimfuneko?
Emtshatweni, imida yesithuba somntu siqu iphosakele, abanye abayiqondi ukuba kungani umfazi (umyeni) kufuneka abe nexesha kuphela, indawo apho unokuba yedwa nawe. Kwaye ngenxa yoko, iimfuno ziqala ukuxelela malunga nomzuzu wokungabikho ekhaya, ukujonga iifowuni, i-imeyile kunye neengxabano ezinxulumene noxinzelelo olunjalo. Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuba ngobudlelwane bubuhlungu nje kuphela ukuhlasela indawo yangokwenyama, kodwa nokuphula imithetho yemida yolwazi. Le mimida imele ihlonishwe, kuba bobabini abatshatileyo banelungelo lokuzimela ngasese, kwaye ukulahlekelwa ngokupheleleyo kwenkululeko kuya kubonakala buhlungu kakhulu kwaye, ekugqibeleni, kuholele ekugqibeleni.
Ngokuqwalasela imida yendawo yokuhlala, sithetha ukungahambi kakuhle kwetafile esebenzayo, izinto ezizodwa, inhlonipho ngemikhwa yesiqingatha sethu sesibini, uhlobo lomoya kunye neempawu zomzimba zendalo (akunakuncedo ukuba ifune "i-owl" yomsebenzi oqhelanisayo ekuseni). Kwinqanaba lesibini lezinto ezimele zihlale zingenakukhutshwa, ungabandakanya i-hobby, ithuba lokuthetha kunye nabahlobo kunye nokuzicwangcisa. Ngoko ke, umfazi, efuna umyeni wakhe ukuba ayeke ukuloba aze ayeke ukubuka ibhola kunye nabahlobo, ngokukhawuleza angena kwindawo yendawo yomntu, okungekho kodwa kubangela ukukhanyela ngokukhawuleza.
I-Psychology ithi imida yesithuba somntu siqu kufuneka ihlonishwe naluphi na imeko. Musa ukucinga ukuba le mida ingakwazi ukwahlukanisa umtshato nomnye kunye nokutshabalalisa intsapho. Oku akunjalo, ngokuchaseneyo, isimo sengqondo sokuhlonela (kungekhona ukudideka kunye nokunganakwa) kwiimfuno zomnye ziya kwenza intsapho ibe namandla. Ukuba uzama ukuzigcwalisa ngobomi bonke bomlingane wakho, ngoko ke "uyamncenga" ngothando lwakho. Ngaba ungathanda ukunika ingxelo kumntu nawaphi na amanyathelo akho, uzive ukuba uphathwa njengomntwana ongenamdla?
Yintoni ebeka ubungakanani bommandla wengingqi yakho?
Ukwenza ubudlelwane obuhambelanayo, kubalulekile ukucacisa imida yendawo yeqabane lomntu. Kubo bonke abantu, bahluke, kwaye kuxhomekeka kwizinto ezininzi. Iimpawu ezibalulekileyo ezichaphazela ubukhulu bommandla wezithuba zobuqu, sinokuthi igama la ndelayo.
- Uhlobo lohlobo. Ama-Introverts adinga ngakumbi ubuninzi, ukuphulwa kancinci kwemida yesithuba sabo siqu kunokukhokelela ekuphenduleni okungathandekiyo kunye nokuphazamiseka kwemihlaba. Ukukhutshwa akukho mida ecacileyo yendawo yabo kwaye abayiqondi ukuba kutheni abanye bengavumi ukuwavumela kuwo onke ama-nooks omphefumlo.
- Indawo yokuhlala kunye nobuzwe. Abemi beidolophu ezinkulu ukususela ekuzalweni abanalo indawo enkulu, ngoko ke, kuba ngumsinga womntu onobudlelwane obunzima kunokuba baxineke kakhulu kubemi bephondo.
- Ukuzithemba ngokwakho. Umntu omncinci ungathembeki ngamandla akhe, ngakumbi
Isithuba sakhe esiyidingayo, kwaye unamandla ngakumbi udonga olwakhiwe nguye. - Izithethe zentsapho. Ukuba umntu ujwayele ukuba i-correspondence, ingxoxo yocingo ayiyimfihlelo kunoma yiphi ilungu losapho, ngoko ke ngokuqala ukwakha ulwalamano lwabo, iya kufuna ukuvuleka okufanayo kumlingane.
- Ukuba uqonda ukuba iingcamango zakho kunye neqabane lakho malunga nesithuba somntu asihambisani, kufuneka ucokole kwaye ucokole. Kufuneka uchaze ukuba kutheni ezinye izinto zibaluleke kakhulu kuwe, kwaye ezinye azikhathazeki kwaye ngokuqondisisa ukuphatha umnqweno womlingane.