Ngokuqinisekileyo uye wazibona ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwiisheluli incwadi ethi "I-NLP yeDummies" okanye "Iimfihlelo ze-NLP", kunye nabanye abaninzi ngokubhekiselele kwiileta ezintathu ezingaqondakali kwiphepha. Ababhali beencwadi ezinjalo bathembisa ukuba bonke abafundi beemilingo bafunde amagama, bafundise ukuba batshintshe nayiphi na imeko kwinqanaba labo. Kuyathakazelisa, ngaba yinyani ukuba iindlela ze-NLP ziyamangalisa okanye ngaba zikhona ezinye iindawo ezipapashwe ngokubanzi?
Ubuchwepheshe be-NLP ebomini
Uhlelo lwe-Neuro-language (NLP) luyinkimbinkimbi yezindlela kunye nezindlela ezahlukeneyo ezivumela ukuxazulula iingxaki ezahlukeneyo. Esi sikhokelo kwengqondo seyona ntsha, umntu unokutsho nokuba ikhula, kodwa sele ibonakalise kakuhle. Amacandelo e-NLP angasetyenziselwa zombini wezokwelapha kunye nokuphucula ukuphumelelana koqhagamshelwano lomntu. Ekuqaleni, ezo teknoloji zazisetyenziselwa ukunceda abanye abantu, kwaye kuphela ke zazisetyenziselwa ukukhangisa, ukwandisa ukuthengisa. Ngokwenza oko, iindlela ezilandelayo zeNLP zisetyenziswa kakhulu:
- Utshintsho lweenkolelo. Enye yemithetho ephambili ye-NLP kukuba kuyimfuneko ukuqwalasela zonke iimeko (iimvakalelo, iingcamango) eziphathelele nayiphi na imeko. Kodwa asisoloko silandela lo mgaqo kwaye siyibeke ingqalelo kuphela kumbi, ngenxa yoko, sifumana ingcamango yokuba akukho ndlela yokuphuma kwimeko. Yaye ukuba imeko leyo inempahla yokuphinda, kwakhona siyabona ukuba unikwe ithemba. Ukutshintsha inkolelo kubalulekile ukuphinda ucinge kwakhona imeko, ukufumana amaqiniso amaninzi kunokwenzeka, kunye nazo zonke izinto ezimbi ukuba zibuzwe. Unokwenza kwakhona kwakhona nayiphi na into ebalulekileyo, uqiniseke ngokupheleleyo. Ukuzivocavoca kuya kusebenza xa uchitha ubuncinane inyanga kuyo.
- Ukumisa. Ingundoqo kukuba kudibanise izinto ezintle (ngezinye iinjongo ezingekhoyo) iimvakalelo kunye nesenzo esithile. Ngokomzekelo, ngandlela-thile wachitha iveki evuyisayo kwisixeko. Kwindwendwe elandelayo uza kulindela into enomtsalane kwaye ukuba oko kwenzeka, ngoko kuya kwenzeka ukuba xa ucinga ngendawo kunye nokutyelela apho, uya kuba nemvakalelo emihle. Ukusebenzisa le ndlela ngokusebenza, kufuneka ugxininise kwaye uvuselele umvakalelo ofuna ukufunda ukufumana ngokukhawuleza. Ukutshintshiselwa kwitshati efunekayo, i-pinch (stroke, scratch) maxesha amaninzi nayiphi na inxalenye yomzimba wayo. Yenza ezi zihlandlo eziliqela, uthinte indawo efanayo kunye nokunyuka okufanayo. Ngoku, nangaliphi na ixesha, xa ufanele uqalise imvakalelo ethile, thintela inxalenye yomzimba owenzele yona. Unokuphosa "ihange" elinjalo kwabanye abantu.
- Ingxelo. Kwenzeka ukuba awukwazi ukwenza abahlobo nomntu, awukwazi ukufumana indlela kuye. Kulo mzekelo, kufuneka uzame ukungena kunye naye, ukulungelelanisa kwisigqi - oku kunokuphefumla, ukuhamba kwintetho okanye intetho. Ngokuphefumula nokubuza, yonke into iyacaca, kodwa ngendlela yokuthetha kuyimfuneko ukuhlawula ingqalelo ekhethekileyo. Inyaniso kukuba abantu bayaziqonda iindawo ezizungezile ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo: umntu okholelwa ngakumbi kwiva, umntu ubona, abanye bachukumisa okanye bafumana amava. Unokukujonga oko ngokuqwalasela ukuba yimaphi amabinzana umntu asebenzisa ngaphezulu, nokuba uthetha ngefom (umbala) wezinto, malunga nemiphumo evakalayo, malunga nokuziva okanye amava akhe. Emva koko sebenzisa amabinzana avela kwibloko elifanayo, eliqhelekileyo lisetyenziswe ngu-interlocutor.
Oku kungokwemvelo kuzo zonke izicwangciso ze-NLP, kodwa ezi zinto zifanelekileyo "ezidumimini", oko kukuthi, abaqalayo. Emva kokuba uzive ukhululekile kunye neendlela zokuqala, ungasebenzisa ezinye i-NLP tricks ukuphucula ubomi bakho.
Ukulwa neNLP
Xa uthetha ngeendlela zokwenza ukuqonda, akunakwenzeka ukukhankanya okubizwa ngokuba yi-NLP yokulwa. Kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa iinguqulelo ezimbini zezi ngcamango:
- Iindlela zokuqala zokusetyenziswa ezisetyenziswa ekuncedeni abantu (imikhosi kunye nabasemzini) emva kokuba beyindawo yomkhosi
izenzo; - kwaye isibini isetyenziselwa ukuchaza iindlela zokukhusela izityezelo ekusebenzeni kakubi komnxibelelwano okanye ukubeka uxinzelelo kumdlali.
Abanye bakholelwa ukuba uhlobo lwesibini lwe-NLP olukhoyo alukho kwaye lusolakala ukuthi aluyiyo inzululwazi. Kodwa ukuba siqaphela ukuba kukho ubuchule beenkqubo zokwenziwa kwegazi ngeenjongo zengqondo ye-psychotherapy, oko kuthetha ukuba kukho enye ifomathi. Kodwa kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba kuyimfuneko ukusebenzisa ezi ndlela ngokuqonda ngokupheleleyo, isicelo esingalawulekiyo asikhokelela kwezo ziphumo.