Intshukumo yeParadoxical Intention

Ukunyamekela kwengqondo kubhekisela ekuphandeleni into ethile, isikhokelo sokucinga kwabantu. Kwintliziyo yesi sihlandlo ngumnqweno wokwenza isenzo esithile. Mhlawumbi babengazi kakuhle kwaye bengazi.

Iintlobo zeenjongo:

Umbhali we-logotherapy uFrank ucebise indlela yokuphelisa ukwesaba nokwenqatshwa nantoni na ngenjongo yokuxhomekeka. Le ndlela isetyenziswe kwiimeko ezimbini:

  1. Xa uphawu oluthile lubangela ukuba umntu abe noloyiko ngokuphindaphinda kwabo. Kukho ukwesaba okukhulu kokulinda kwaye uphawu luphindaphindiwe kwakhona, oku kuqinisa ngakumbi ukwesaba komntu, okwenza isangqa esibi.
  2. Ukujongwa kukumisela isigulane, uzama ukumelana nayo, kodwa imizamo yakhe yandisa imeko.

Akukho ukuhamba, okanye ukuchaswa uphawu olubi okanye ukwesaba akunakunqumla. Ukulwa nalo, kuyimfuneko ukuphula iinkqubo zesigidi esivaliweyo. Unokwenza oku ngokuya ukujongana noyiko lwakho. Inkqubo ye-intanethi yeFrankl isekelwe kwimeko yokuba isiguli kufuneka sifune ukuqonda oko uyamoyikayo.

Umzekelo: umfana oneminyaka engama-9 wayedla ngokuvuthwa embhedeni, abazali bahlazisa unyana wakhe baze batshabalale - akukho nto. Ugqirha, abo bacela uncedo kuye, watshela inkwenkwe ukuba uya kumnika iisenti ezi-5 kuyo yonke ibhedi emanzi. Isigulane savuya kukuba uya kukwazi ukufumana imali ekunqongophala kwakhe, kodwa akakwazanga ukuphinda elala embhedeni. Le nkwenkwana yalahla impawu ngokukhawuleza ukuba wayefuna ukusebenza kwayo.

Injongo yeenjongo zokuxhaswa ngempumelelo iyasebenza nakwiimeko ezinzima. Uloyiko lugxothwa ngumntu ngokwakhe. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba isigulane sihlangane naye, uya kupheka. Kwakhona indlela iphumelele xa kwenzeka ukulala, xa umntu ekhetha ukuba uya kuvuka ubusuku bonke, kuza kuye iphupha.