Indlela yokusindisa ukunyeliswa komyeni wakhe?

Omnye osandul 'ukunyaniseka kunye nothando olungunaphakade angaphinda atshintshele ibali lomthando kwingoma edabukileyo yentliziyo ephukileyo. Kuyacaca ukuba akusiwo onke amabhinqa akwazi ukunyathela oko kwenzekayo kwaye athole amandla okuxolela umyeni wakhe ukutshatyalaliswa, kodwa unokweyisa umsindo, uqondise iimvakalelo zakhe - le yindlela efanelekileyo yokubuyisela ubudlelwane, okwenyani kuphela umfazi onamandla kwaye okhaliphile.

Ukulungelelaniswa ngamanyathelo emva kokungcatshiswa kwamadoda

1. Isenzo esibaluleke kakhulu nesokuqala sowesifazane oye wafunda ngokungcatsha kunye nokungcatsha kwendoda yakhe kukuvutha komsindo. Ukumemeza, ukukhala, ukuhlambalaza kuyinto engokwemvelo kwaye kunokukuvumela ukuba uphume intlungu yangaphakathi, ngoko ke kulula kakhulu kwaye uphile ngokungcatsha komntu. Ukuzinyamekela, ulinde usuku xa zonke izinto zizocima kwaye ziphinde zihlale zizolile kwaye zivuyiswe, akunjalo ngokuchanekileyo malunga nawe.
2. Kubalulekile ukufumana umntu oza kusondela kweli xesha lexesha. Kungaba omnye wabahlobo okanye izalamane. Baya kunceda ukuphazamiseka kwingxaki, kunye nokudibanisa kunye nabo, kuya kubakho ukufumana impendulo kungekuphela kwendlela yokulibala ukutshatyalaliswa kwendoda, kodwa njani kwaye yintoni, kwaye yintoni kanye, iya kufuneka iguqulwe ngobudlelwane obusondeleyo.
3. Ukutyelela kwengqondo yengqondo kusebenza ngokumalunga nokukhohlisa umntu. Umbono wongaphandle kwiimeko eziye zavela kufuneka kungekhona nje ukuba ngumntu osondeleyo, njengoko oku kuza kunika uvavanyo olujoliswe ngakumbi.
4. Unxibelelwano nomyeni wakhe kufuneka luhlale lukhona, luqala ukususela kumzuzwana xa lwaziwa ngokunyaniseka, kodwa ukuxolela ngokufanelekileyo ukutshatyalaliswa komyeni wakhe akukuphela nje ukukhumbula isigqeba, kubalulekile ukuba uhlale ukhumbule ixesha elonwabileyo lobudlelwane bomtshato. Kubalulekile okokuqala ukuthetha kuphela xa kudingekile kwaye emva kwexesha kufuneka ivakalise izikhalazo zabo ngokuzwakalayo, zibango omnye komnye.
5. Ukwakhiwa kobomi obutsha yinqanaba lokuba okokuqala kwakubonakala kungenangqiqo kunye nawaphi na abafazi abazange bacinge ngako, kuba iimvakalelo ezazixakeke ngelo xesha zijoliswe ekuhlaleni emva kokungcatsha kwendoda, eyona yedwa. Kodwa oku kusona sigqibo esifanelekileyo. Le ngxaki idinga ukunqotshwa kunye, ngaphandle kokuthetha kunye, kuphela ngokuhlalisana. Kungekudala le ndlela yokulungelelanisa iya kuhamba ngqo kwisisombululo esifanelekileyo sengxaki.

Iingcali ezininzi zeengqondo ngeli xesha zicebisa iimvakalelo zabo ezimbi, umsindo wabo wokuba ulandelelanise. Ukunyamekela, ukunyamekela, ukunyamekela kwanoma yimuphi umsebenzi okanye ukucwiliswa ngokupheleleyo kumsebenzi kukunceda ukulungelelanisa nokujonga kwakhona ebomini bakho. Isilwanyana, njengesixinzelelo, sinceda izihlobo, abahlobo, izalamane. Ukuzibamba, ukuzikhusela kwihlabathi langaphandle akuncedi, kodwa kulukhuphaza nje ulawulo lwangaphakathi. Nangona i-zibalo zithetha ukuba phantse yonke intsapho yesihlanu ibhekene nokunyaniseka, izazi zeengqondo zithi ukunyanzela umntu kuyinto eqhelekileyo, okungeyona into ebalulekileyo kubo, engafani nenye ibhinqa. Kuyacaca ukuba loo ngxelo ayiyiyo induduzo, kodwa kwanexesha elimnandi lelokuba ukunyaniseka kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kusenza ucinge ngokuxolelwa kwendoda yakho, ngaloo ndlela ube namandla kwaye ubulumko.

Khumbula ukuba, kungakhathaliseki naziphi na iingxaki zobomi, kufuneka uhlale ufumana amandla okuhamba endleleni yokuphila.