Kwabesifazana abathile, akukho nto ilula kunokuba adibanise indoda esitshatileyo, nendlela abayenza ngayo, yiziphi iindlela abasebenzisa, siza kuxubusha namhlanje.
Indlela yokukhohlisa umqeshi otshatileyo, umhlobo okanye osebenza naye?
Amantombazana anamava okukhohlisa abafana bathi ibhinqa elincinci lilula, kuba bahlala bengabikho nto yokuqala kunye nokunyaniseka komfazi, baphupha ngokunyaniseka nokungathandabuzekiyo, kodwa abakwazi ukuwafumana. Ukongezelela, kukho iindlela ezilula kunye nezisebenzayo zokunyenga umntu otshatileyo:
- Gxininisa ubufazi bakho kunye nobulili . Amadoda abone umtshato wabo kwindawo yabo yokuhlala, apho kungalunganga kwaye kungathandeki ukuhamba ngeengubo ze-mini okanye i-airy negligee, kwaye, njengoko kwaziwa, abafana bathanda amehlo. Ubunokwenzeka ukuba into enqwenela ukukhanga kwakho sele idinwe yinto enomfazi kwimidlalo yezemidlalo okanye ingubo elula kakhulu, ngoko udlala ngokungafaniyo.
- Sebenzisa ixesha elininzi kunye, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uxakeke kangakanani, uxoxe ngeprojekthi, okanye ingxoxo elula ngexesha lesidlo, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, kufuneka ufumane ithuba lokubonisa umntu onomdla kuye, umnike umnqweno, ongenalo. Amantombazana amaninzi akaqondi ukuba abafana badinga ukuba bazive bahlakaniphile, benesibindi, bazimisele kwaye bethanda, badumisa indoda, uya kumvuselela ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukubonisa ukuba nguye umbonayo. Le ndlela inceda, indlela yokucekisa umlingane otshatileyo, kwaye ube yinkosikazi yomhlobo omdala, phantse nayiphi na ilungu lezesondo eziqinileyo emva kokunconywa ngokuqhelekileyo akayi kufuna ukuyeka ukunyaniseka kwakho, kwaye uya kufuna ukuqhubeka nokuthintana.
- Musa ukuzikhupha wena, umfana kufuneka aqonde ukuba uyamkhangisa, kwaye awuyikutshatyalaliswa nokulala naye, mhlawumbi uya kuqhubeka ekukuqonda njengomhlobo okanye osebenza naye. Mane ungayithandi, khumbula ukuba isicatshulwa kunye nesibonelelo asifani , udlala ngothando , kodwa ungatsho ngqo.
- Menze aqonde indlela oziva ngayo malunga nokungcatshiswa, bathi abaninzi abafazi ngokwabo bayakubeka ityala lokutshatyalaliswa kwentshiseko kunye nokuba amaqabane abo alala nabanye, acacise ukuba abaze bafune ukuba indoda ihambe kwintsapho okanye ixelele konke kumfazi wayo. Uninzi lwabafana alunxamnye neengongoma kwicala, kodwa ukwesaba ukuba kuya kufuneka bavume le nto kunye necala libavimbele ekubeni benze isigqibo sokugqibela. Ngaphambi kokukhohlisa indoda ethembekileyo, umntu kufuneka anqobe ukwesaba kwakhe aze amqinisekise ukuba unqume ukutshintsha kuphela ngenxa yokuziphatha komfazi wakhe, ongafuni ukumnika into ayifaneleyo - ukunyaniseka, ukuvakalelwa kunye nokuqonda.
- Utywala ngumhlobo wakho, kodwa kumlinganiselo wokulinganisela, iwayini encinci iya kunciphisa uxinzelelo kwaye iya kunciphisa ukulawula komntu phezu kokuziphatha kwakhe.