Ukumanga kokuqala komntu ngamnye kuhamba ngokwemeko yabo, enye yeendlela ezichaseneyo zibe yobudala. Esi sihlandlo esithandekayo esiza kuhlala sisenkumbulo yakho ixesha elide. Abantu abaninzi banomdla kwiminyaka emininzi ongayanga ngayo ukuziva uluhlu olupheleleyo lweemvakalelo. Inani elikhulu labantu, ngokwelo vavanyo, likhumbule bonke ubomi babo obani na, nini kwaye phantsi kweyiphi imeko ulwalamano lokuqala lwentando luyenzeka.
Uneminyaka engakanani ongayanga emlonyeni?
Ngokwezibalo, isiganeko esinjalo senziwa ngexesha lokukhula, malunga ne-12-16 iminyaka. Njengokuba amantombazana akhula ngokukhawuleza kunamakhwenkwe, aqala ukumanga, bakhetha abahlobo abanamava amaninzi. Amantombazana amantombazana amaninzi, esabayo ukugwetywa kwaye engafuni ukulahla emva koontanga, athathe isigqibo malunga nokuqala kokumanga, nangoluvo lweengqondo zengqondo, le yiphutha elikhulu, kuba eso siganeko singashiya ingxaki enkulu engqondweni emva kwayo. Ubusiso bokuqala kufuneka bube buqotho.
Akunakwenzeka ukuba uthethe ngokukhawuleza ukuba ungamanga kangakanani, kuba iimvakalelo zangempela azibekezeli nayiphi na imiqobo kunye nemithetho. Yingakho kungenakwenzeka ukubiza igama elide, kuba umntu ngamnye unalo mcimbi ngokwawo.
Uneminyaka engakanani ongayanga ngayo:
- Ixesha leminyaka engama-4-6. Abaninzi bokuqala babanga xa besesekondleni. Inomdla ingabonisa inkwenkwe nentombazana. Abantu abadala bawanga abantwana ukuba babonise uthando lwabo kunye nobudlelwane obufudumele, kwaye njengoko abantwana befunda kubantu abadala, nabo bavakalisa uvelwano kumhlobo kwi-kindergarten. Abantu abayicingi into enzulu kwaye le nkumbulo ikhohliwe.
- Ixesha liyiminyaka engama-7-9. Ukuqhagamshelana okuthandanayo ngeli xesha ku khunjulwa kangcono. Ngokutsho kweengxoxo, kwenzeka ngokuqhelekileyo ezikolweni okanye nakweyiphi na imicimbi, umzekelo, ii-discos zokuqala. Kule minyaka, kukho intlungu yokuqala, ephosa abantwana ukuba bange.
- Ixesha le-10-12 leminyaka. Ngeli xesha, kukho ukukhanga komzimba kumalungu esini esahlukileyo. Yingakho u-kiss usuvele usebenza nje njengobonakaliso benceba, kodwa kukuvumela ukuba ujabule. Bambalwa abantu kule minyaka yobudala bayamanga kakhulu abantu abadala.
- 13 ubudala. Ukuqonda ukuba uneminyaka engakanani onokubanga abantwana abaselula, le minyaka kufuneka ikhethwe ngokwahlukileyo, kuba, ngokwemanani-manani, ngeli xesha abantu abaninzi baneminyaka yobudala. Ukubamba ngenye yezithuba eziphambili zokufumana ulonwabo lomzimba ekuthintaneni nomntu wesini esahlukileyo.
- Ixesha le-14-16 leminyaka. Ngalesi sikhathi, abantwana abaselula bavele beqhuba ngamandla amakhulu ngokubanga, kwaye kungekhona nje ngabantu abanesihawu. Oku kuchazwa kuphela ngumtsalane wenyama.
- Ixesha le-17-18 iminyaka. Ukuba unomdla, uneminyaka emininzi ongayanga ngayo ngolwimi, kwaye eli xesha lilungele ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo ezinjalo, kuba umntu sele sele ekhulile kwaye unokukwazi ukuziphendulela ngokuzimela kwizenzo zabo. Nangona ukukhululwa kwentsha yanamhlanje kusenokufumaneka
abantu abangazange bamanga ngalo nyaka. - Ixesha leminyaka engama-20-30. Iimeko ezinjalo ziqabile kakhulu kwaye izazi zeengqondo zithatha ukuthetha ngokukhokelela kwezinto ezithile.
Kwixesha elide lokuqonda, abantu ngaphambi kokuba intlanganiso ihambe kwaye bazame ukulungiselela ngokukhawuleza ukumanga. Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukunyamekela umoya omtsha, kwaye okwesibini, ulungelelaniso lwengqondo. Kubalulekile ukuba ungakhathazeki, kuba uvuyo olugqithiseleyo lunokuba ngumqobo omkhulu ngaphambi kokuba ujongele kwinkqubo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba amaqabunga okuqala abangele emva kokuvakalelwa okulungileyo, oya kukukhumbula kulo lonke ubomi.