Ngokukhawuleza kuninzi ukuqeqeshwa kunye neeminina eziye zabanjwa, kunika iingcebiso malunga nokuba ngumntu ozimeleyo nangomntu ozimeleyo empilweni. Kubonakala ngathi ngaphandle kwezi nkqubo zokuqeqesha abantu baye balibala ukuba bangafezekisa njani iinjongo zabo. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo le miyalelo ithatha ixesha, elingasetyenziselwa ukuba sele lifudukela kwimpumelelo .
Indlela yokuba ngumntu ophumelelayo nocebileyo ebomini?
Ukuze ufumane impendulo yalo mbuzo, kufuneka uqale uqonde oko uthetha ngempumelelo. Wonke umntu unokuqonda le ngcamango, umntu ucinga ukuba impumelelo ekuphunyezweni kweengcamango zobuqili, ingqalelo ingqalelo ekubuyiselweni kwemali, umntu uzama ukufumana ubutyebi kunye nokungakhathali, kwaye umntu uya kufumana indlu ekhululekile kunye neentsapho ezinobungane kwisitya sakusihlwa.
Ngoko ke, inyathelo lokuqala lokuphendula umbuzo wendlela yokuba ngumntu ophumelele kakhulu ebomini uya kubeka iinjongo. Enyanisweni, kuphuma kweli nqanaba apho ukuhamba kuqala, ngokukhawuleza xa umntu eqonda ngokucacileyo iinjongo zakhe, uqala ukukhangela iindlela zokuzifezekisa. Yithatha nje ingxaki ukunyaniseka kwaye isekelwe kwimigaqo yinyaniso - iinkosana zamafulethi azizange zihambe ixesha elide, kodwa xa zilahleka, umlawulikazi akabonakali intshiseko enkulu kwimimiselo yenkwenkwekazi. Ngoko ke, qwalasela ezo zixhobo onokuzisebenzisa, kunokuba kunokwenzeka ezinye iindlela zokucinga.
Ngokuphathelele ukunyaniseka, kufuneka kwakhona uthethe amagama ambalwa, cinga ngezinto ozifunayo, kungekhona abanye abantu. Umzekelo, uluvo lukawonkewonke lubona uphumelele ukuba khona kwindoda yowesifazane kunye nabantwana, nokuba le ndoda ayilona mzekelo kakhulu, kwaye abantwana abayizona ezidliwayo-kusekuhle. Ufuna ngokwenene ulonwabo lwentombi, cinga. Okanye omnye umzekelo: indawo yakho iyagula ngokukhulula kwimbonakalo yakhe emangalisayo, kwaye uzama ukukwenza intombazana ecebileyo, nokuba yedwa. Ngaba ufuna ngokwenene lo hlobo lobomi? Cinga, usoloko uphupha inkampani yakho enkulu okanye uphupha ngabantwana abathandathu, njengendoda ethandekayo, mhlawumbi uya kuba nomntwana omnye kunye nentloko yeSebe iminyaka engama-35. Qinisekisa ntoni, kwaye yimaphi amagama ofuna ukufezekisa.
Emva kokugqiba iinjongo, cinga ngezinto omele uyenze ukuze ube ngumntu onempumelelo. Mhlawumbi ukufezekisa iinjongo ozidingayo ukutshintsha ubuninzi bemisebenzi okanye ufumane imfundo ngendlela ehluke ngokupheleleyo. Musa ukwesaba, akukaze kufike emva kokufunda, kwaye umthetho awunciphisi iminyaka yobufundi. Ewe, usenokuba nolwazi okanye izakhono, akukho nto iyingozi kulo, ungesabi ngenye entsha, nangona uneminyaka engama-30 unako ukuqonda isixhobo somculo ngeminwe engapheliyo, kwaye ingqondo yethu ininzi kakhulu.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba uphumelele kwaye ucebile okanye uzimeleyo ngokwezimali, kufuneka ufunde ukucwangcisa ixesha lakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukulawula izakhono ezintsha kuthatha ixesha, kwaye ndingathanda ukuphumla. Ngoko-ke, fundisa ukulawula yonke into, ewe, kunzima, kodwa kufikeleleke ngokusasazwa kwexesha lakho.
Kubalulekile ukuba ukhethe umgca wakho wezoshishino kwiimvumi nento enomdla ngokwenene. Kuyaziwa ukuba sibeka iinzame ezinkulu kwiimeko ukuba sinomdla emsebenzini. Ukuba wenza okuthile ngokusebenzisa amandla, ukufikelela kwizikhundla eziphezulu akuyi kuzisa ukwaneliseka, ukuphoqeleza kwakhona ukuba uzifune.
Ukuba ukhetha icandelo lezemali, ke kufuneka uqikelele ngokucamngca ngexesha lobudlelwane bomntu. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwimihla ngemihla kubo akukho xesha, kodwa ngaba ukungafiki kwabo ngokupheleleyo kuya kuvuya? Emva kwakho konke, impumelelo ayinakwenzeka ngaphandle kwentswelo yolonwabo nolonwabo.