Nsuku zonke sidibaniswe noluntu ngokubambisana nezetetho zokungabinxibelelanisi.
Iindlela zokuthetha zentetho zibandakanya intetho, njengomthombo wolwazi, ukuthetha kunye namagama, utshintshiselwano ngolwazi, njengendlela yokuthintela umnxibelelwano. Iimpawu ezahlukileyo zezindlela zokuthetha ezivela kumntu ongathethi ngomlomo ukuba uhlobo lokuqala ludluliselwa ngentetho, kunye nokungabonakaliyo ngendlela yokulinganisa nezinye iindlela zokubonisa isimo sengqondo somntu.
Ezinye izazinzulu zikholelwa ukuba izityholo ziphantsi kobuhlanga . Bathetha ukuba isimo sengqondo somntu into ethile sibonakaliswa ngombonakalo womntu, isenzo, ubuso obuso.
Kodwa oku kunokuphikiswa. Ngenxa yokuba izinto ezingenasigxina zingasetyenziselwa ukunxibelelana kunye nokubonakalisa iimvakalelo, kodwa kungekhona kwimiba yoshishini, apho umbandela obalulekileyo akuthethi umphathi wakho, kodwa umxholo wezinto ezithethiweyo.
Uqhagamshelwano loshishino
Kule meko, ingcinga yeendlela zokuthetha zentengiso iqalisa ukusebenza, nto leyo ibonisa inani lamabakala athile aza kuba luncedo kakhulu kwimbono-inkokheli-phantsi kunye nangona kunjalo.
Kwintetho yezonxibelelwano, ininzi yexesha, inkqubo yokuvalelwa (40%) iyenzeka, ingaphantsi kokuthetha (ngaphaya kwe-35%), ibinzana elibhalwe (9%), ukufunda (16%).
Ukuqhubela phambili kule nto, kufuneka kuphawulwe ukuba abantu abazi nje ukuba bakuphulaphule njani, kwaye oku, oko kukuchaphazela kakubi ukuxhumana kubomi boshishino. Ngako oko, imfuneko ebalulekileyo yokubonakalisa izithethe zamagama, kubandakanywa nokuqhagamshelana kwezoshishino, imigaqo ebalulekileyo: intetho kufuneka icacile, inentsingiselo kwaye, ebaluleke kakhulu, iyaqondakala.
Le mithetho kunzima ukuyilandela, kuba kungekhona bonke abantu abakwazi ukuyibeka ngokucacileyo into ebalulekileyo abayidingayo, ezininzi iingcamango ziqhutywe, kwaye akukho ncamango yokucinga. Oku kuba yinkinga ekhethekileyo xa umntu uthetha ngokungacaciswanga, omnye uphazamisekile okanye aphulaphule. Kwimeko enjalo, unokumangalisa indlela abantu abakwazi ukuqonda ngayo.
Indlela yokuthetha ngomlomo
Akufanele zibonwe zingenakufumaneka, akunakwenzeka ukuba zizaliseke. Hayi, ngokuphambene noko, kusemncinci ukufunda, ngokokuba ukuthetha kwakho ngomlomo kwakulungile. Sinikeza iindlela ezisisiseko zokunxibelelana ngomlomo, ulwazi kunye nokusetyenziswa okuza kukunceda ufunde indlela yokuthetha kakuhle:
- Khumbula ukuba kufuneka ukhulume ngokucacileyo iziphakamiso ezicacileyo, kunye nengcamango ecacileyo ecacileyo, kuphela ke uya kuqondwa kakuhle. Okokuqala cinga ngeendlela eziza kuzwakalisa ngayo, uze uthethe.
- Umele ukwazi ukuphulaphula, kwaye ungayiphulaphuli kuphela, kodwa ubambe ngokucophelela lonke ulwazi oluza kuwe. Kubalulekile ukuva udibaniselwano kwaye ungaphazanyiswa nguye. Ikhono lokwenyaniso linokucingelwa ukuba liyakwazi ukuphinda liphinde live kwi-interlocutor. Ngaba kuya kuba ne-daredevil yokuba uya kukwazi ukuphindaphinda?
- Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ukukwazi ukuva kuhambelana ngqo nokuqonda oko kuthethiwe.
Kuba, ukuba umntu uthi udidekile, wenza uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi weengqondo ukwenzela ukuba ulethe ibali elipheleleyo ekupheleni kwayo, kwaye ubeke iingcamango zakhe ngokulandelelana, ukunceda umbala. Ukuva kuyimfuneko! - Khumbula ebuntwaneni umoni othethayo "Thetha kum, guqulela kuwe"? Kuyinto ehlekisayo, kunjalo, kodwa ihlehliselwa ukuthetha ngomlomo. Ekubeni kufuneka ufunde ukuguqulela iingcamango zomnxibelelwano ngendlela oyifunayo. Ngokufanayo, ukujonga izinto ezintle kwizwi lesithethi kunye neenjongo ezilungileyo. Emva koko, ukunxibelelana kwakho kuya kuba mnandi kumacala omabini.