Iintlungu zesazela ziyindlela ephazamisayo yokukhathazeka kwengqondo umntu avakalelwa ngayo ngempazamo yakhe. Ngokomnye uguqulelo, isazela sikhuliswa ebuntwaneni: xa izenzo ezilungileyo zomntwana zidunyiswa, kunye nabangalunganga - bahlwaywa. Ngenxa yoko, uvakalelo lokulinda izigwebo zezenzo ezimbi kunye neengcamango, ezibizwa ngokuba yizondlo zesazela, zihlala ixesha lobomi. Ngokwezinye iinguqulelo, isazela sixhobo esilinganisa umlinganiselo wenyaniso wezinto. Yilokho eyenza umntu afane naye ngamagunya aphezulu. Ngezenzo zolungisa kunye neengcamango, esi sixhobo sinomvuzo kwizinga lokuwaneliseka, ngenxa yezenzo ezingalunganga zendoda ihluthezela isazela sakhe.
Kutheni umntu efuna unembeza?
Lo mbuzo uhanjelwe ngumntu kwiimeko apho isazela sisendleleni eya kwiinjongo ezifunwayo. Xa kubonakala ngathi kufanelekile ukuwela phezu kwesazela, kwaye ubomi buya kuphucula. Okanye kwenye imeko: xa iinjongo zifezekile, ezifunyenweyo zifunyenwe, kwaye ilizwi lesazela liyahluthwa, ngaphandle kokuyeka.
Isazela senziwa kuwo wonke umntu omtsha ngokuhambelana nemimiselo yoluntu apho azalwe khona. Ivumela abantu ukuba baphile ngokubambisana, basebenzisane kwaye baphuhlise. Ukungabikho kwesazela kuya kususa zonke izinto ezithintela izilwanyana, kwaye ubomi bomntu buya kuba yindalo. Emva koko, kuthini ukuhlala ngokuvumelana nesazela? Le yimiyalelo ephambili efanayo: kungabi ukubulala, kungekhona ukuba, kungekhona ukufuna omnye umntu njalonjalo. Ukuba wonke umntu unamathela kule miqobo - siphila kunye kwaye sihlakulele. Ukuba silindele wonke umntu ekubulaleni, ubundlobongela, ukweba-siphila kuphela ngenxa yokukhusela okanye ukuhlasela kuqala. Ukuze kuzuze uluntu-ke kutheni umntu unesazela. Kwaye uphuhliso lwabantu, olubalulekileyo.
Yintoni enokuyenza xa unembeza uhlutha?
Kakade ke, zonke iingxaki zesazela zisoloko ziphela. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba umntu oqinileyo uyahlushwa yesazela ngenxa yokungalunganga kolutsha. Okanye umntu wakhula ngokomoya ebomini bakhe, kwaye ngokuhamba kwexesha ukuziphatha kwakhe kwaba yinqununu, kwaye iintlungu zesimo seminyaka edlulileyo zathola umthwalo ongenakubekezelela.
Kukho iingcebiso ezininzi malunga nendlela yokulahla ukuzisola.
- Musa ukubalekela le miva, musa ukuzidibanisa kuwe. Hlela intlanganiso yomntu kwindawo epholileyo, sibone ngubani kunye nokulahlekelwa uxolo kwengqondo. Ngamanye amaxesha ukungaziphathi kakuhle kungaba yimpazamo eyamkelekileyo, eyanceda ukuqonda izinto ezibalulekileyo kuwe.
- Ukugqithisela ekuphakameni kobubomi amava zabo: mhlawumbi kuphazamisa ukuziphatha okungakumbi. Ezinye izinto ziphinde zitshintshwe kulo lonke ubomi, imithetho iya kuba yimpumelelo yomntu, ingabi yinkcazo ukusuka ebuntwaneni. Ekugqibeleni, kutheni umntu kufuneka abe nesazela, ukuba kungekhona ukuvuselela rhoqo ukuzinyusa?
- Indlela efanelekileyo kakhulu ukuguquka nokuhlengwa. Akunjalo ngeemigaqo zesonto. Ngamanye amaxesha umntu olwa neminyaka ngemvakalelo yecala, echanekileyo ngeemeko, akazivumeli ityala lakhe.
Ngexesha elithile, amandla akhe kulo mbambano iphelile. Yaye ingcamango iza - ndinetyala kwaye eneneni iphoso lam, kungekhona iimeko ezingabangqongileyo. Emva koko, uhlala nje ukufumana indlela yokulungisa isenzo sakho. Ngamanye amaxesha akunakwenzeka ngokwenene, kodwa ilizwi lesazela liya kukuxelela indlela yokuphuma.
Isilumko esinokuthula sisicatshulwa ezimbini. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kulungile ukulala ngaphandle kokuva intlungu yesazela. Kukho ubomi obuqaqambileyo, engathwalwanga ngumthwalo wecala. Kuba oku kuyimfuneko kuphela ukuba wenze ngokunyanisekileyo.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, njengoko ukuhamba kwentliziyo kuyimfuneko ebomini, ngoko ke ilizwi lezembebe liyimfuneko ekukhuleni ngokomoya. Inokuthiwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo: ilizwi langaphakathi, umqondo wesithandathu, iingcebiso zengelosi yomgcini. Umgca wesiseko kukuba isazela sigcina ukuziphatha komntu. Kwaye kulo mbono, ukuhlala ngokuvumelana nesazela kuthetha ukuba kufuneka usebenze, wenze iimpazamo, ufunde kwiimpazamo uze uphile.