Ukuxhalabisa ngeengqondo zogqirha kuthathwa njengentlungu engqondweni, eqhubekayo ixesha elide. Izizathu ezibalulekileyo zokukhathazeka kubantwana zibonakaliswa ekugatheni into entsha. Umzekelo, umntwana wesikolo emva kweentsuku ezininzi zokugula akafuni ukuya esikolweni. Abantwana abaninzi abanenkxalabo baxhomekeke kumyalelo womntu, abangenangqungquthela, bakhathele ngokukhawuleza, kunzima ukutshintshela uhlobo olutsha lomsebenzi. Umzamo wokuqala ongaphumelelanga ukwenza into ibenza badideke, kwaye kuzo zonke iingxaki ezizungeze umntwana uyazigxeka. Abantwana abanjalo babonakala besuleleke kwabanye ngenxa yokuxhalaba nokukhathazeka.
Unokukunceda njani umntwana wakho ukuba anqobe ukuxhalaba?
Ukuze ukwazi indlela yokunceda umntwana oxhalabileyo, okokuqala kufuneka ufumane uhlobo kunye nezizathu zokuxhalabisa. Le meko ingaba ngumphumo wemeko ethile okanye umgangatho womntu. Ukongezelela, abantwana abaxhalabileyo bahluke kwiintlobo: i-neurotics, i-disinhibited, ihlazo, ihoxiswe. Zonke iziphakamiso kubazali bezingane ezixhalabileyo ziqala ngento yokuba bayayiqonda kwaye bayamkela uxhalaba lomntwana. Kumele ukuba abe nenkxaso, ukunakwa, ukunakekelwa ngumama noyise. Eyona ndlela iphumelelayo iya kuba ukuhoxiswa kwexhala kubantwana ngomzekelo ngamnye - bonisa indlela yokuziphatha kwimeko yenkwenkwe yenkwenkwezi. Kodwa akwenzi oko endaweni yoko, kodwa ngomntwana! Imisebenzi ngendlela yemidlalo iyamkeleka. Kuyinto enhle ukuba umntwana uyazi ngaphambili kusini na isenzo esilandelayo.
Injongo yinto ephambili yokuphumelela
Indlela efanelekileyo kakhulu yokuphelisa uxhalaba ithemba. Yiyo le ndawo ebalulekileyo ukuba umntwana aziva ngayo kwintsapho. Ukubamba, ukumbamba komama, ukuxhaphaza kwesoba - oko kuya kwenza umntwana abe nokholo. Futhi ungalokothi uqhathanise nabanye abantwana. Njengokuthelekisa, unokusebenzisa kuphela impumelelo yangaphaya yomntwana.
Uncedo lweengcali
Ukuba uxhalaba luneengcambu ezinzulu kunye nokujamelana nalo mqathango womntwana wedwa uyaphela, uncedo lweengcali luyimfuneko. Abantwana abanengxaki yokukhathazeka kwengqondo kunye neengqondo bayacetyiswa ukuba baphathe unyango kunye nolunye uhlobo lweyeza kudibaniswa neziyobisi ezixinzelelekileyo. Akunakwenzeka ukuba uphawule ukukhathazeka, kuba kwixesha elizayo umntwana uya kuba nobunzima bokubambisana ubudlelwane, ukusebenza kwakhe komntu ngamnye kuya kuncipha.
Kwezinye iimeko, ukuxothwa kwexhala kubantwana kuqhutyelwa ngokwemiqathango yesine ebonakalise ukusebenza kakuhle:
- ukusetyenziswa kwe-sertraline - i-anti-depressant (i-serotonin ekhethiweyo inhibitor inhibitor);
- unyango lweendlela zokuziphatha, esekelwe kwisigqibo sabantwana abakhelwe imisebenzi;
- ukuthatha indawo ye-placebo (amaphilisi eshukela);
- unyango lweendlela zokuziphatha ngokubambisana ne-sertraline.
Imigaqo nganye yonyango apha ngentla yenkxalabo kubantwana isetyenziswa rhoqo kwiinyanga ezintathu ukuya kwezine. Amazinga aphezulu okuphulukiswa ayagcinwa xa usebenzisa i-scheme ehlangeneyo (ngaphezulu kwama-80% amatyala).
Indlela engavumelekanga yokulungisa uxhalabisayo kubantwana i-hypnotherapy. Ngokunceda unako ukuphucula isimo sengqondo, ukunciphisa ukuxhalaba, ugcine umntwana engqondweni. Ugqirha kwinqanaba elincinci lichaza izizathu zokuxhalaba ngokukhawuleza, okanye ukuphelisa iimbangela yindlela echanekileyo yokusombulula ingxaki. Kukholelwa ukuba i-hypnotic trance ngokwayo, apho umntwana engena khona, yonyango, kuba inceda ukuphumla, ubuyisele umzimba. Ukongeza, kwimeko yokuxhomekeka, ukugcinwa kwezibonelelo ezifihliweyo kumntwana zivuswa.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwakunjani, kodwa ukukhulula umntwana wokuxhalaba kuyimfuneko, ngenxa yokuba izifo ezinganakukwazi ukuchaphazela kuphela imeko yomzimba, kodwa kwiimeko ezinzima zikhokelela ekuzenzeni ukuzibulala.