Emashumi ambalwa eminyaka edlulileyo, indandatho yokunika intombazana kubemi be-CIS kumazwe yayingeyona into engabonakali kwiinkomfa zeTV zangaphandle. Nangona kunjalo, le ngcamango yawa thandana nabantu basekhaya, kwaye amadoda amaninzi ayithatha. Namhlanje, iindandatho ezimnandi zesibonelelo-kungumlinganiselo wesigxina kuye nawuphi na umntu oye wagqiba kwisinyathelo esibalulekileyo ebomini bakhe. Yaye yonke intombazana iphupha lokuba ngumnikazi webhokisi elibalulekileyo, apho kugcinwa khona intsimbi enokubambisana , ejoliswe kuphela kuye.
Imbali yenkcubeko
Ekubeni iintsuku ze-Kievan Rus zibandakanyeka njengento ebaluleke ngaphezu komtshato. Isandi sokuthi "ukudibanisa" kufuneka sihlotswe ngelitye elikhulu, kodwa isinyithi ayinandaba. Kamva "ukuhlanganiswa" kwaguqulwa waba ngumthendeleko wokutshatyalaliswa. Kodwa umyeni wanikela ingxowa yokubandakanya xa wenza isipho, oko kukuthi, ngaphambi komcimbi ebandleni. Enqabe ukuyibeka ngomunwe wakhe, le ntombazana yalahla eso sipho. Emva kweeminyaka emininzi, "iqhinga" lagqitywa ngumtshato, ngoko isithethe esidala sasilahleka kwiinkulungwane.
Ukukhethwa kwamacangci okubandakanya
Namhlanje, isithethe siphinde sisebenze, nangona asizange siphinde sivuseleleke, kodwa siboleke kwababantu baseYurophu. Ukukhethwa kwendandatho yesiphumo kuye kwaguqula amadoda ukuba abe yinto epheleleyo. Yaye yonke into kuba iyisipho sokuqala esiya kubonisa ukuba intombazana iya kuyiqonda. La mabhinqa afaka ukubaluleka okubalulekileyo kulo mhlobiso. Kubalulekile kungekuphela nje isalathiso esinikwayo, xa besenza isiphakamiso, kodwa kunye neemeko ngaloo mzuzu, amazwi athetha. Kungenxa yezi zizathu ukuba ukukhethwa kwezinto zokugcoba kufuneka kuhanjiswe nazo zonke iimbopheleleko.
Awukwazi ukuphendula ngokungaphenduliyo ukuba yeyiphi intsimbi enokubakho ukunikezelwa kwesandla nentliziyo. Ukuba ugxininisa kwizithethe zaseNtshona, ngoko ixabiso layo akufanele libe ngaphantsi komvuzo womvuzo wenyanga wamadoda. Ukudibanisa isitye esinqabileyo ngamatye anqabileyo yiklasi.
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Kakade, iindlovu zegolide ze-offer, ezihlotswe ngamatye anqabileyo, ziya ku kholisa nayiphi na intombazana, kodwa akubona bonke abantu abanokukwazi ukufumana isipho esibi kangaka. Ukongezelela, xa kwenzeka imvume yakhe, umyeni uya kufuneka ahlawule iindleko zomtshato. Ngaphambi kokuba uthenge kulungile ukuvavanya zakho izinto eziphathekayo, kwaye uthenge loo ndoda, engayi kuyenza ingcambu kubhajethi. Ekugqibeleni, intombazana evakalelwa yimvakalelo enomdla kwaye ifuna ukuba ngumtshakazi, iza kuhlola isipho, sikhokelwe yimilinganiselo eyahlukileyo. Nokuba isandi sesilivere kwisiphakamiso sinokuzikhethela, ingakumbi ukuba uyayicinga ngobuninzi bezinto ezintle ezenziwe ngolu hlobo lwezinyithi, ngoku zimelelwe kumaketanga okuthengisa.
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Xa ukhetha isigodlo, ungakulibali malunga nokukhethwa kwentombazana. Ukuba ngobomi bemihla ngemihla ugqoke imihlobiso yegolide, umgca wokubandakanya kufuneka ube yigolide. Inyani kukuba i-ring engagement idla ngokugqithiswa kunye ne-ring engagement, kunye nokudibanisa kufuneka kuhambelane.
Kwezinye iintsapho, kukho isithethe sokudlulisa intambo yokubandakanya, oogogo nabagogo baqhubeka besenza, ukusuka kwisizukulwana ukuya kwisizukulwana. Amagceke angavamile okwenziwe, ngokuqinisekileyo, awona mfuneko, kuba umnini wabo ozayo unokuqiniseka ngokuqinisekileyo ngenjongo yomntu owamnika inzala yendlu.
Ziziphi ezinye iindandatho ezenza isipho? Abantu abaselula banamasiko aqhelekileyo, yingakho bengazivumeli izitye kunye namatye asetshenziselwa ukudala imihlobiso, kodwa intsingiselo ehlanganisiwe kuyo. Ngoko, isibini esincinci sesinyithi esilula singathetha ngaphezulu kweplatinum, xa kuthengwa ngexesha lokuqala lothando okanye uhambo oluhlangeneyo.
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