Yintoni inceba, yiziphi izenzo zomntu ezibonakalisa - umbuzo ophuthumayo. Ihlabathi lanamhlanje lihlakulela ngokukhawuleza uphuhliso lwezobuchwepheshe olwenze lula ubomi bomhla ngemihla ngamnye wethu. Kulo mzabalazo wezinto ezizimeleyo, ezinye iingxaki zabantu zikhanya, kodwa ngubani ofuna ukuyeka, unike uncedo kumntu ofuna uncedo, kuba wonke umntu unenkxalabo yakhe.
Utyando - yintoni le?
Ubumnandi bentliziyo, ukufumana iintlungu zabantu kunye neengxaki, umnqweno wokuncedisa isandla, kungakhathaliseki ukuba netyala okanye ukungabi nasecaleni somntu - oko kuthetha ukuthandana. Isiseko sothando ngommelwane womntu, ubukho obusindisa ubomi kunye nokuxazulula iingxaki zabanye, ukubonisa ukuqonda, ukunceda abanye - ukugcina ummelwane womntu kwiimeko ezinzima. Ukuqhagamshelana ngokusondeleyo neempawu zobuncwane:
- mfesane;
- uvelwano;
- bubele;
- nya mekela;
- ngathandeki;
- ukuqonda;
- ukunyaniseka;
- buntwini.
Yintoni inothando - imeko yokuziphatha yomphefumlo , apho umntu ebonisa ukukhusela ummelwane wakhe, ukuchitha ixesha lakhe lemithombo, imali, impilo. Umntu, onenceba, unokufumana isihlamba esingasifanelanga (ukuhlambalaza ngokokuziphatha) kwabanye abantu abamkela inceba ekuboniseni inhlonipho engafanelekanga okanye ububuwula bokuqala.
Utshutshiso lobuKristu
Ngokwenkolo, uthando luyinto ebalulekileyo, ebonisa ukuba ukukhathalela ummelwane wakho kukubonakaliswa kwothando lweNkosi kwaye wonke umntu "wadalwa ngoThixo." Uthando lokuxolela, olubonakalisa ngobabalo lobuKristu, lunokuboniswa ngokubhekiselele kumphefumlo nomzimba wabasweleyo. Izenzo ezilungileyo zamaKristu, ubonakaliso obusindisa umphefumlo womntu:
- ukubuyisela umoni kwisiphoso;
- akakhanyanga ukunika isifundo sobubele nenyaniso;
- banike iingcebiso ezizilumko kulabo beemeko ezinzima okanye ingozi;
- thuthuzela umntu osizini;
- ungaphenduli okubi ngento engalunganga;
- ukuxolela abahlukumezi;
- thandazela abanye.
Imiba yenceba yomzimba kummelwane wakho:
- Yondla abalambileyo;
- ukunika isiselo kunxaniweyo;
- ukugqoka uhamba;
- tyelela isiguli;
- ukutyelela intolongo entolongweni;
- ukukhusela umdwendwe;
- kungcwaba o fileyo.
Yintoni inceba?
Umnqweno wokuhlala kwihlabathi elizaliswe ngovuyo kunye nolwalamano oluhle luyindoda. Ububele kunye nobubele sisiseko seentsebenziswano ezihambelanayo kwiinkoliso ezininzi nakwiinkcubeko zamandulo, umsebenzi wefilosofi uzinikele kubo. Ukwakha ubudlelwane emphakathini ngomgaqo wobulungisa ukuhlalutya ngokulula iimpazamo zomnye umntu, kodwa isikhundla esinjalo senza ukuba kube nzima ukufumana umonakalo kumzuzu onzima.
Ukufumana uncedo ngaphandle kokufuna ukuhlawulwa - ukuphuhlisa ngokomoya, ukufaka isandla sakho kwiinguqu ezingcono, ukuzisa okuhle kwihlabathi, ukuvuyisa. Akukho mntu uyazi ukuba kunzima kangakanani ixesha elifunekayo lwakhe loncedo, ngubani oya kujikeleza - uya kwenza isenzo senceba, kungakhathaliseki ukuba imeko yezenhlalakahle okanye iimpazamo zangaphambili. Kuhlala kukuthabatha ukusiphulaphula inceba kunye nenkathalo esuka entliziyweni.
Kuthetha ukuthini inceba?
Ukuba nesihe kuthetha ukuba izinto ezilungileyo ezithunyelwe komnye umntu zinikezwa mahhala-kungekhona ukudumisa indalo, ukuhlonelwa koluntu okanye ukubulela okulandelayo. Isihe siqinisekisa isozela - indoda eyanike ithuba lokuboleka isandla indoda ayizange ilahle, kodwa ngenxa yokukwazi ukuphucula iimeko zobomi kwimeko embi. Imfesane iyakucima ulaka, inqande ukuzingca, kwaye lithuba lokuqokelela ubutyebi bokomoya:
- bulumko;
- uvuyo;
- Ukulula ukuthetha;
- nya niseka;
- ububele.
Yintoni oyifunayo ukuba uyenze inceba?
Uthando kunye nemfesane, eyenziwa ngokungachazwanga, kuthathwa njengezinga eliphezulu kakhulu lobuhle. Ukubonakaliswa kwezi zimpawu akuwona umsebenzi olula - ukususa ubutyebi kunye nemikhosi ekuncedeni umntu ongowokungazi, isenzo esivulekile sokuhlonipha. Imigaqo engundoqo yenceba ixhomekeke ekuthandeni ummelwane wakho, unyameko kunye noncedo olubonisiweyo. Ukuba nesihe kuthetha:
- libale ngo kuzuza;
- ukwenza ukuvumela ukulibala izinto ezingenzileyo;
- ukuba bakwazi ukuphulaphula;
- ukunqanda ukwesaba (ukuza esibhedlele ukuba ungacingi ukuba unokugula kwesi sifo);
- ukunikela ngemali kwabasweleyo (isabelo esithengisekayo semali engabalulekanga kumntu obeka imali);
- fumana iyure kwezinye iingxaki zabantu (tyelela iindandane kunye nabahlobo-abadala, abakhubazekile, izintandane);
- kunceda ngemiba elula yemihla ngemihla (bonisa idilesi, uxwayise ngeengozi, unike isicombululo sokusombulula ingxaki, ncedise umntu ngamakhono omzimba aphantsi).
Kutheni umntu abe nesihe?
Ingxaki yothando kunye nokungabi naluthando kwabanye kubandakanya ukubandezeleka kwihlabathi kunye neentliziyo zabantu. Umgaqo wobuqu bakho kukudala izimo ezilungeleyo kuwe, nangona kukho iingxaki zabanye abantu-kukuzenzekelayo kunye nokwenyuka kwezinto. Ukubonisa inceba kukuba uthathe inxaxheba ekujonganeni neengxaki zabanye, ukwandisa ububele, unike uthando, utshintshe ihlabathi libe ngcono. Ukukhumbula ibinzana leShayina Tango ngenceba, unokuthi ngamazwi akhe: "Ngubani othabathayo - ozalisa iintendelezo, ozinikelayo-ozalisa intliziyo."
Isihe kwihlabathi lanamhlanje
Uthando nenceba ziqondana nomnye inkolo. Amatyala azinikele ekunciphiseni ukubandezeleka komnye, ebonakaliswe ngaphandle kothando - unesihawu, ngamanye amaxesha axhaswa yihlazo kunye nokubala okubanda. Ukunceda ebomini bethu, kuboniswa ngothando, kuyomeleza ngokomoya, kunika ithemba lokuba utshintsho olungcono, lusindisa ubomi kumzuzwana onzima, lunikeza uxolo lwengqondo, lufundisa ukuba isenzo esihle sikhulu ngaphezu kobubi.
Ngaba ufuna udinga namhlanje?
Uthando ngexesha lethu libubuko obubonisa umfanekiso wokuziphatha womntu. Ihlabathi lanamhlanje lizele ngokungafaniyo, isimo sezentlalo esahlukanisa abantu sibonisa ukuba kulula kubahluphekileyo kunye nabalula ukuxelela iintlungu zabantu abahluphekileyo, kuba bayazi. Isityebi kunye nozuko alukhathaleli ngeengxaki zokuqala kunye neengxaki zabanye abantu, nokuba unako ukukunceda nokuphelisa iingxaki kubantu abayizigidi.