Ukuthumela umntwana esikolweni, abazali bathemba ubuncinci ixesha elithile ukuba balahlekelwe uxanduva kulo. Ngokuchanekileyo, tshintsha olu xanduva kumagxa ootitshala. Baye bafundise, bafundise, baveze, bakhuthaze ...
Nangona kunjalo, njengoko kuvela, le ndlela ingakhokelela ngokukhawuleza kwimiphumo emibi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngenxa yokuba umntwana akafuni ukufunda, ngaba ngabazali bakhe abanokubeka ityala kwinkqubo yokufunda.
Kutheni abantwana bengathandi ukufunda?
Ukuba umntwana ulahlekelwe ngumdla ekufundeni, hlalutya ukuba zeziphi izinto ezinokudlala indima.
- Izifundo azikhange umntwana, kuba zonke iimfuno zakhe zingaphandle kweendonga zesikolo. Imidlalo yekhompyutha, imidlalo, umculo - ngokuqhelekileyo utitshala womntwana akanandaba nalezi zinto ezithandwayo, kodwa engayinaki imfuno yomntwana, abanako ukumdla kunye nokumthanda.
- Esikolweni, umntwana akahambelani kunye noontanga, kuba yonke into adibanisa ngayo kunye nexesha lokuzonwabisa, ibangela ukukhusela kwentsha kunye nokungafuni ukusebenzisana.
- Kukho ubudlelwane obubi nootitshala. Oku akusiyo kuphela into "ngamawele". Ootitshala abangabandakanyekanga abangazange baphumelele ebomini babo banokuphinda baqokelele abantwana babo ngabazali abaphumelelayo, abahlala beyazi ngaphezu kootitshala. Kule meko, ukuba uphendule kakuhle okanye ulungelelaniso, utitshala akanako ukubeka ibhola efanelekileyo, kunye nomntwana-ukuba ahlupheke. Emva koko, abantwana banengqiqo kakhulu "yobulungisa", kwaye izidumiso ezingasifanelanga, njengesikhuthazo esingazifumani, zifumana ngakumbi ngokugqithiseleyo kunomntu omdala.
- Abazali okanye ootitshala abancedisi ngokufanelekileyo umdla womntwana, kubonisa ukuba "bonke ebomini" umntu akahlawulwanga amanqaku aphezulu esikolweni kwaye akusebenzi kakuhle, kodwa inhlanhla, ukukwazi ukulungelelanisa imeko.
- Okanye, ngokuchasene noko, umntwana uyazi ukuba abazali baya kuhlala becinga ngaye, ngoko baya kukhetha ootitshala abafanelekileyo, baya kuxhasa inxaxheba ekufundeni nasiphi na isangqa, kuba nayiphi na into eyenzekayo ayiyithandi. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, umntwana uziva ngokwenene "iipodi" yentsapho, kodwa uxanduva olubelwe lona alukwazi ukuhlangabezana nalo. Ngokuchanekileyo ngenxa yokukhusela kwengqondo, kule meko, "ikhupha" ukungavumelani ukufezekisa iimfuno zezikolo zaseprayimari, nokuba umxholo wesifundo unomdla kumntwana.
Indlela yokuthabatha intsha engasesikolweni?
Emva kokuba bezimisele isizathu sokungafuni ukufunda, abazali banokukhuthaza umntwana wabo bambuyisele inzala ekufundeni.
Sinokuyandisa njani inzala ekufundeni nasekuphuhliseni inzala kuyo?
- Xa umcimbi othi "ukunyanzelwa" kungabonakaliswa kumntwana wakho, zombini inxalenye yabafundi kunye nxalenye yothisha, indlela eyona ndlela yokubuyisela umntwana uxolo iya kuba yindlela yokwenza ubuhlobo "notshaba" okanye ukhetho lokudlulisela kwelinye iziko lemfundo. Unokwenza ubuhlobo ngeendlela ezininzi. Ukuba ngaba malunga nentsha, kuya kuba luncedo ukuba ube nomsebenzi ongaphezulu wekharityhulam apho wena, njengabazali bomntwana, uthatha inxaxheba kwaye, umzekelo, uzisa abantwana besikolo kwi-cinema, kumyuziyam okanye ukuya kwesinye isixeko. Ngethuba eli ganeko kubaluleke kakhulu ukuseka uqhagamshelwano lwengqondo kunye "notshaba", ebonisa ukuba unokufumana umdla, nokuba wena njengomntu, uhle. Ukuba ngaba malunga nobutsha phakathi kwamakhwenkwe, unokwenza umdlalo webhola yentsapho, uhambe kunye nokuphuma ngaphandle kwedolophu. Kwimeko yobudlelwane obunzima ngutitshala, zama ukudlala "phambi kwekhalo." Musa ukwenza amabango kumfundisi, ungatsho ukuba uya kukhalaza kubaphathi bakho. Ngokuphambene noko, ukuba, umzekelo, utitshala unokhemisti, mlandele emva kweklasi uze uchaze ukuba ufuna umntwana ukuba afunde i-chemistry eyunivesithi, ngoko ke lo myalelo ubaluleke kakhulu kuye. Buza kanye ngeveki ukuqhuba izifundo ngamnye. Ngokuqhelekileyo ubundlobongela bokuqala buya kuba nobuhlobo obuhle, kwaye eli thuba kufuneka lithatyathwe.
- Musa "ukunyanzela" kumntwana, ukumenza enze iimfuno ezigqithiseleyo, ungayigxina kwinkqubela engentle kwaye kukho nawuphi na umsebenzisi ungasebenzisi "amazwi aqinileyo". "Dlala" ngomdla wakhe. Ngokomzekelo, zithi kulo nyaka awunayo indlela yokuhlawula ootitshala ngolwimi lwangaphandle. Mhlawumbi, kulo mzekelo, yena ngokwakhe
umntwana uya kukuthetha ngombuzo othi: "Mhlawumbi uya kusaya kuhlawula isiNgesi, kuba ngonyaka ndiyakulibala into endiyifunayo." Musa "ukudonsa" umntwana ukuba athenge iincwadi angenakuzijonga, ukumazi kakuhle umntu onobani iincwadi ezincinci yobomi bakhe kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ziya kwenza ingqalelo enamandla kumntwana. Kwamehlo ogunyaziwe, umntwana akafuni kubonakala "engazi," kwaye umdla wokwenza iincwadi uya kubonakala. - Jonga kwakhona ukuba esikhungweni semfundo apho umntwana wakho ehamba khona, ootitshala bokwenene basebenze, babonisa umdla onomdla kwisifundo sabo. Kule meko kuphela, iinjongo aziyi kuba yindawo ephakamileyo kunye nesimo, mhlawumbi, kulo mzekelo, umntwana akayi kuba nomdla ukongeza. Iqela elihle lootitshala nabafundi, abanomdla kulo mbandela, baya kukwenza konke.