Amandla okuzimela ngokuzenzekelayo ayaziwa kubantu ukususela kumaxesha amandulo, kukho kuyo imigaqo emininzi yokwenza izinto zokomoya kunye nokucamngca kwakha. Kodwa namhlanje kuphela umntu onobuqili akathethi malunga nolwalamano oluchanekileyo phakathi kweengcamango zethu kunye neziganeko ezilandelayo.
Ukuzenzekela ngokuzenzekelayo?
Ingcamango engundoqo, inzululwazi ebonakalisiwe, icacile - ihlabathi langaphandle lomntu ngamnye libonisa isimo sawo sangaphakathi. Sifumana oko senza iprojekthi, nangona kungabi njalo ukuqonda olu buhlobo. Isiphumo sesiphakamiso se-auto sikhona nokuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba siyayilawula okanye cha, oko kukuthi, ukusikisela ngokuzenzekelayo kungabandakanyeka okanye kulawulwa. Ukubeka nje: asikwazi ukuwuqonda lo myalelo kwaye awuwwamkeli, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba awusebenzi.
Umzekelo oqhelekileyo wempembelelo engafanelekanga yokuzimela ngokuzenzekelayo isifo. Ngokuqinisekileyo kwakho kwenzeka ukuba wagula ngexesha elibi kakhulu. Kwaye ke, xa benza konke okusemandleni ukukhusela oku kungenzeki. Kwaye kwaphulaphula-ingaba iimpawu zokuqala zesifo zazalelwa kwindawo ethile ukuba zithathele ngokukhawuleza amanyathelo okuqala ngoncedo. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, ugule, ngokuqinisekileyo uqikelele ukuba iingcamango zakho zadlala indima kule nto.
Ngosizo lwenkqubo enenjongo yokuzimela, unokufumana iziphumo ezimangalisayo kunoma yiphina inqanaba lobomi bethu, kuba ukuzithemba i-intanethi iyincoko kunye ne-subconscious, enokuthelekiswa nelo nxalenye ye-iceberg efihliweyo phantsi kwamanzi. I-subconscious ngumntwana wethu ongaphakathi, ngelixa u-Conscious is Adult. Kwaye kuNyana ophethe igama lokugqibela.
Ngokuqhelekileyo sinomdla kwisiphakamiso sezithuthi njengendlela yokonyango. Impembelelo ye-placebo eyaziwayo ayikho nto ngaphezu kokholo oluqinisekileyo olwenza izinto zethu zokusebenza. Ukuphulukiswa kule ngxaki kubangelwa ukusikisela ngokuzenzekelayo kwaye, ngendlela, ezininzi iinkampani zonyango zizisebenzisa, zikhangele iindlela zobugcisa.
Kakade ke, kukho ingcipheko kwingqekembe - i-psychology ihlala ihlangabezane nemiphumo yesiphakamiso se-auto ekunyango kweengxaki ezahlukeneyo. Abantu abaphulaphuleyo bayakwazi ukuziphefumlela kunye nantoni na, ngokufumana izifo kunye neengxaki zemihla ngemihla. Umbuzo othi "njani ukujongana nokuzenzekelayo" ngokuqhelekileyo uqhuba kubo ngaloo mizuzu xa uvakalelo lwesaba luya kuba neentlungu kunye nokudandatheka. Izilungiso ezingalunganga, ukujikeleza imihla ngemihla, njengerekhodi, kunokukhokelela kwiziphumo ezimbi. Yingakho sifuna ukunyamekela ngeengcinga zethu.
Indlela yokulahla ukuzenzekelayo?
Ukugqithisa ngokupheleleyo ukuzenzekelayo akusebenzi, kodwa akunangqiqo, kuba iingcamango zethu zixhobo ezilungileyo zokudala ubomi obugcweleyo. Kodwa iingcamango ezinzulu kufuneka zilawulwe. Masifunde indlela yokwenza oku:
- phu laphula oko ucinga. Ekuqaleni kunzima kunoko, ke, yenza inkqubo ibe ngumdlalo. Ukuzibamba ngenye ingcamango, ungabhala phantsi "inkunzi" kwincwadi ekhethekileyo;
- emva kweentsuku ezimbini okanye ezintathu, hlalutya iingcamango zakho kwaye ugxininise iingcinga ezingalunganga;
- ngoku utshintshe ezi zicwangciso kwizinto ezintle. Musa ukubiza ngokuthi "omnyama" "umhlophe", kodwa ube yi-diplomatic. Kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, funda ukuzithemba wena nobomi;
- ngamaxesha onke, ukuqaphela isimo sengqondo esasiyilo ngaphambili, sithathe indawo entsha, efanelekileyo;
- kufunda u mbulelo. Sisoloko sigxininisa kwizinto ezimbi, sizikhuthazela ukuba oku kusemgangathweni wobomi - umthetho ongunaphakade
ukungabi nabulungisa. Kodwa into enokulibalekayo ngokukhawuleza, ibona njengento efanelekileyo kwaye iphela. Ndiyabulela kunye nehlabathi elikujikelezayo-oku kukhulisa amandla entliziyo.
Ekuqaleni kunzima ukujamelana nokuzithemba, kodwa isizathu esilula - ingqondo yethu engqondweni iyahlala ilinda inguqu. Kusekelwe ekuphatheni izakhi zofuzo - ukwesaba into entsha. Qhubeka kwaye ungathathi ingxaki encinane entliziyweni. Phila ngokudlala, ukhumbule inxalenye engaphantsi kwamanzi e-iceberg, kuba lo ngumntwana othanda ukudlala!