Vumelana ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ukungenangqondo, ukuza kwinani elikhulu ukusuka kumntu othile, ngokuhlala kuphazamisekile impilo yakho kunye nolwalamano lwakho nalo mntu. Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba wena, ngaphandle kokuqaphela, uphendule umphefumlo wangaphakathi, uzive usicindezelekile emva koko, ngenxa yokuba umntu odibeneyo akafumananga ukuphendula.
Makhe sizame ukuqonda ukuba uluphi uhlobo lweengqondo ezifihlekileyo ngaphakathi kwakho, ukunyaniseka, ukunyaniseka nokuba kukufanelekile ukuba ube ngumntu onyanisekileyo.
Iinkonzo kunye neengxaki zokungabi nantoni
Ukunyaniseka, ukunyaniseka ukuzimisela komntu ukuzityhila kumntu, ukuxelela ulwazi olufihliweyo kuninzi. Ngeendlela ezininzi, ukunyaniseka kungabangela ubuhlungu, kuba kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuba umntu afihle iinkumbulo ezinzima, ezibuhlungu, izihlandlo zobomi, njl njl., Ukuba ahambe emacaleni omphefumlo.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, xa umntu ekhanyela into esondeleyo, ecaleni lakhe, kwabanye, akanakuqondwa. Uvakalelwa gqitha. Loo mntu usengozini yokuhlekwa usulu, owenqatshelwe, okuya kubangela ukunyusa ubuhlobo obukhoyo kunye nomnxibelelwano. Umva wokugqibela, ongakwazi ukungena kwisimo sakho, ukuqonda into ebuhlungu kuwe, ngamazwi athi "Siyabonga ngokungazenzisiyo", ekugqibeleni iya kuvela kwaye ihambe, ngokugqithiseleyo-bonisa ukungathandeki ngokuthe ngqo kwamehlo akho.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba, ngaphambi kokuba uzame ukuxelela into ebalulekileyo kwabanye, maxesha amaninzi ucinga ngesigqibo sakho, nokuba uyayifaneleka, kuba umntu ngamnye unendawo yakhe yokuphila, imigaqo yakhe kunye nezinto eziphambili, kunye nomnxibelelwano ode kude nawe kwimibono yakhe ebomini, kunzima ngakumbi kuye ukuba wamkele ukunyaniseka kwakho.
Kukho uluntu oluxhomekeke kwi-intanethi yeengqondo ze-psychotherapists, enesihloko esithi "Ngeengqondo ze-psychotherapy ngokukhawuleza". Apha, iingcali zithetha malunga nomnqweno womntu wokunyaniseka, njl njl. Ngoko, kuphawulwe ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ukunyaniseka kungasetyenziswe ngumntu ngenjongo yokuzichukumisa, njengobunyango.
Amanqaku eFrank anceda ekusebenziseni abantu abangenalwazi abanokukholelwa ngokulula kwiindawo eziphambili ezithandwayo ngamabali. Injongo ephambili yabanxulumene nabo abanomdla ukukhupha izenzo ezifunekayo kwi-"victim". Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu ongenamahloni uqala ukwenza okuthethileyo umxeleli.
Kwakhona, inyaniso ekubonakaliseni ubuhlobo kumntu othile okanye kwimeko ethile ingaba yindlela yokulawula. Ngokubanzi, impendulo ye "lixhoba" kukuba iyakhathazeka ngokomzwelo ngokunyaniseka, kwaye umlingani wakho, unalo ithuba elihle kakhulu lokunciphisa imizwa yakho.
Ukunyaniseka kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokukhupha umntu othetha naye kwingxoxo efunekayo. Umzekelo, uthetha ngokunyanisekileyo ngothando olungathandekiyo. Kwaye, ngokuphendula, ngamanye amaxesha ungayiqapheli, wabelana ngokungahambi kakuhle kwaye emva koko uza kufunda kwi-interlocutor ibali ongazange ulive ngayo ngaphambili kwaye iqhawe layo eliphambili.
Ngosizo lokuvuleka, abanye abantu bavame ukufihla icala labo elibi, bebonisa iitalente zabo, "I" yabo evela kwicala elifanelekileyo.
Ukusuka kwinjongo yengqondo, umntu oxelela into ngokunyanisekileyo, ngoko, uzama ukulawula ubudlelwane naye
Abantu ababelana nawe ngokusondeleyo ngaphandle kweenjongo zobugovu, ngokwe-E. Hagen, kuthiwa ngabantu abanobuchule. Ukunyaniseka kwabo nokunyamezela kubonisa isimo sengqondo sokuvuma kwabanye, umnqweno wokuvelisa izinto ezintsha kunye nokuqala.
Ngoko, ukunyaniseka kungabikho kokulungileyo kunye nomgangatho ongathandekiyo. Konke kuxhomekeke kubani ozama ukukubonisa.