Ukungabi namalungelo kubantu

Phantse i-8% yezibini ezenza ukuba abantwana babhekane neengxaki ezithile. Njengomthetho, akukho zibonakaliso ezikhethekileyo zokungabikho komntwana, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo ngobomi bezocansi bomntu wonke umntu ufanelekile. Kodwa, ukuba ukukhulelwa kungekhona ixesha elide (ukuya kwiinyanga ezili-12), kungcono ukuba abatshatileyo bafune uncedo lwezokwelapha. Ngenxa yokungakwazi ukushiya emva kobudala bungaba "netyala" kubini umfazi kunye nendoda.

Ukungabi nantoni kunokuba yiprayimari okanye yesibini. Ngokumalunga nokungabikho kokusweleka kwezilwanyana kwindoda kunye nabasetyhini kunokuthi ukuba isibini esele sineenkampu ephumelelayo yokukhulelwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni isiphumo sokukhulelwa. Ukungabikho kwamava anjalo, ukungabikho kwengqondo kuthathwa njengento ephambili.

Kule nqaku siza kuqwalasela imiba enjalo njengempawu zokungabikho kwamadoda kunye neentlobo zayo, fumana indlela yokuvavanya umntu ngenxa yokungafumaneki, kwaye ufumanisa nokuba ingxaki ixazululwe ngokusemthethweni.

Izizathu zokungabikho komntwana

Ukungabi nalutho kumadoda kukungakwazi ukufaka umthamo wesityalo segciwane lesisu (iqanda). Izizathu zezi zinto zinoku:

Uhlalutyo lokungabikho kwamandla kubantu

Ukufumanisa ukuba zeziphi izizathu zivimbela umfana ukuba abe nguyise, kuyimfuneko ukupasa iimvavanyo zokungabikho komntwana, okuba ngamadoda ingaba ngolu hlobo:

Unyango lokungabikho kwindoda kubantu

Abaninzi banomdla kumbuzo wokuba ukungabikho kobubele kuphathwa ngamadoda. Ugqirha olungileyo, oqeqeshiweyo akayi kuze aphelise isigulane sakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani imeko yakhe.

Ngokuxhomekeke kwimiphumo yeziphumo ezingentla kunye nokuxilongwa, ugqirha uya kukhetha iindlela zokunyanga ukunyanga. Ukungenanto kungaphathwa (injongo yale nto kukukwenza umntu avelise, oko kukuthi, akwazi ukukhulelwa) okanye ukunqoba (ngenxa yoko, esi sibini siya kuba nomntwana, kodwa loo mntu uya kuhlala engakwazi ukufumana abantwana ngaphandle koonogqirha).

Ukuba imbangela yokungabikho kwindoda elele kwisifo esithintekayo, ngoko yonke into ilula: kufuneka uyiphilise. Siyabulela kumachiza asebenzayo namhlanje, kulula kwaye ayibuhlungu. Indlela yokuphatha ukungabikho komntwana kumadoda aneengxaki kwi-anatomy yezitho zokuzala, ugqirha uya kuxelela. Ukungenelela kokusebenza kumanyathelo amaninzi kuyisombulula le ngxaki. Unyango oluthe xaxa lunonyango lwama-hormone, olwenziwe xa kunokungasebenzi kwemithwalo ye-endocrine.

Ukuba ukrokrela ukungabikho komntwana kumlingane wakho, kufuneka uhambe ngokukhawuleza uviwo kwaye uqale unyango, kuba uneminyaka yobudala, ukuzala komntu kuncitshisiwe, kwaye amathuba okuba nombono ophumelelayo abe ngaphantsi.