Kule nqaku, siya kukuxelela ukuba kunokwenzeka yini ukulala ngesantya ngexesha lokuqheleka, kunye naziphi na iimeko apho kungcono ukunqanda ukulala ngokwesondo phakathi kwalaba bafazi.
Ngaba ndinokulala ngesondo xa ndikhulelwa?
Xa umfazi efumanisa ukuba ukhulelwe, kaninzi akanalo mbuzo, ndinokulala naye. Oku kungenxa yokuba umama ozayo uyaba noloyiko lokulimaza umntwana wakhe kwaye ngokuzithandela uyala ukusondelana. Ukongezelela, ngaphantsi kwefuthe lokunyuswa kwe-progesterone, ukukhangwa kwesini kwintombi kuncitshiswe kakhulu kwaye kwezinye iimeko zinyamalale ngokupheleleyo.
Kule meko, oogqirha banxusa amadoda ukuba angalimazi "isiqingatha" sawo aze ahlupheke kude kube lixesha xa umfazi ejwayele ukufumana imeko yakhe entsha kwaye i-libido iya kubuya. Ukuba umnqweno wobudlelwane obusondeleyo nomama ozayo uhlala kwinqanaba elifanayo okanye kwandiswe kancinci, yenza uthando ekuqaleni kwexesha lokulinda umntwana lwenzeka, kodwa kuphela ekungabikho kwale nkcazo:
- usongelo lokuphazamiseka;
- Ukuguguleka komlomo wesibeleko okanye ipolisi ;
- iintlungu kwisisu esisezantsi somlingiswa wokudonsa, esivela nasiphi na isizathu;
- inthmic-incervicability;
- kwindlela yokunyangwa kwesifo esithintekayo esineendlela zesondo zokuhambisa.
Zonke ezi zingqinisiso zingabangela ukuvinjelwa ngokwesondo, kungekhona kuphela ekuqaleni kokukhulelwa, kodwa kulo lonke ubude balo. Kungenxa yoko, ukuba ubuncinci kwezi zimeko, awukwazi ukuqala ngesondo ngaphandle kwemvume yokuya kugqirha, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ixesha.
Zingaphi iinyanga zokukhulelwa unokulala ngesondo?
I-trimester yesibini yithuba elihle kakhulu lolwalamano olusondeleyo phakathi kwabazali bexesha elizayo. Njengomthetho, ukusuka kwinyanga yesine ukuya kweyesithandathu yokukhulelwa, abafazi banokuziva bahle kwaye baqala ukubonisa umnqweno wesini kumyeni wakhe.
Njengokuqala kwekota, unokwenza uthando ngeli xesha kunye nemvume yokuya kugqirha kwaye kuphela xa kungekho ziphikisana nazo. Nangona kunjalo, kwiimeko ezininzi iintsholongwane zezilwanyana aziqhelani ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kwi-trimester yesibili, ngoko ke loo mbini ivuyela ithuba lokwenza uthando emva kokuziyeka ixesha elide.
Okwangoku, ngobusuku bokuzalwa kwasekuqaleni, abazali abaza kuphakanyiswa ukuba ithuba lokuyeka ubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Xa uphendula umbuzo, zingaphi iinyanga ezithatyathwe ngabafazi abakhulelwe ukuba balala ngesondo, oogqirha abaninzi babiza ixesha - iinyanga ezi-7-8.
Lo mqathango ungacaciswa ngento yokuba indoda yesilisa iqulethe i-prostaglandines ekhuthaza ukuvulwa nokunciphisa umlomo wesibeleko, oko kuthetha ukuba kunokubangela ukuzalwa kwangaphambi kokuzalwa. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba kukho umnqweno womama wesikhathi esizayo kwaye akukho ukuphikiswa, ngeli xesha, unokwenza ulondekileyo uluthando usebenzisa iikhondom. Ukuba ixesha apho umntwana edibana nabazali bakhe sele sele esondele, kwaye ukuzalwa ngokwawo akukwenzeka, ngoncedo lokusondelelana, ngokuchaseneyo, umntu unokukhawulezisa indlela yawo.
Unamaxesha amaninzi unokulala ngesini ngexesha lokukhulelwa?
Omnye umbuzo oqhelekileyo uthatha abazali abazayo abangenakuphikisana nobudlelwane obusondeleyo yindlela edlalwa ngayo xa umntwana esalindele.
Into ephambili ukukwenza oku kuphela xa umama okhuselekileyo ufuna ulwalamano olusondeleyo, kwaye aluhambisani nesifiso sakhe. Ukuba owesifazane okhulelweyo ulungele ukulala ngesinye kangangeentsuku, kwaye ngenxa yoko akukho mingcipheko ngokwempilo, akukho sizathu sokwenqaba ulwalamano oluthandwayo. Okwangoku, ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, kufuneka uqaphelisise imeko yomzimba wakho, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uzazise ugqirha wezo zonke izifo.