Wonke umntu uthanda ukunikela izipho, kwaye abanye baninzi bathanda ukuwamkela. Ukususela ixesha elide, abantu abaninzi banenkxalabo malunga nombuzo: ngaba kunokwenzeka ukunika ithawula? Kubonakala ngathi ithayile yokuhlamba okanye isethi yamatyulo amakhishini amancinci isipho esihle kakhulu, kwaye into ebalulekileyo kakhulu kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla. Kutheni unike ithawula, kwaye kutheni abaninzi bebheka le nto ibonakaliso embi, siya kuzama ukuyijonga.
Kutheni unganiki ithawula?
Kukholelwa ukuba nayiphi na into eyenziwa ngandlela-thile kumntu ithatha ngaphakathi kwayo amandla ayo. Ngokomqondiso, ukunika ithawula uphawu olubi olungakhokelela ekuxabaneni, ukugula, ukuxabana kwintsapho kunye nabantu abasondeleyo. Kwaye oku kungenxa yamasiko amandulo kwimimiselo yokungcwaba apho le nto ayidlala indima yokugqibela.
Ngokomzekelo, kwintambo kufuphi nomntu womntu oshonile ityileni yaxilongwa, ukuze wonke umntu odlulayo angabonakalisa izikhalazo zakhe. Kwimiloyilo, ibhokisi lalihlaselwa ethuneni, kwaye iingcango zaziboshwe kubo, xa zithatha umfikazi endlwini.
Ngenxa yezo zithethe, abantu baqala ukwesaba ukunika ithawula, kwaye ngokwenene, phakathi kwezinye izinto, uphawu lweendlela kwaye uhlale endleleni.
Ngaba banikezela amathupha ngexesha lethu?
Ngethuba lethu, siyazi ukuba into enjalo inxaxheba kwiimeko ezilungileyo kakhulu, ezifana: umtshato (xa abantu abatsha banikwa isonka kunye netyuwa kwiluwula), ukuzalwa nokubhaptizwa komntwana (xa umntwana eboshwe kwiphephethi). Unikwa ezininzi kwixesha lokuzalwa kwakhe , umtshato, njl.
Ukongezelela, kwisithethe ngasinye, kwiintsuku ezindala, iipatheni ezikhethekileyo zazifakwe kwiitilesi, iipateni ezazifanekisela ukulahlekelwa, ukudakumba okanye ukunyaniseka, ukuvuya kunye nokuzonwabisa. Ngoko ke, bathatha amandla athile. Isilwanyana sokuhlamba esiqhelekileyo, esiyithengayo kwisitoreji, asithwali naluphi na intsingiselo efihliweyo kwaye ayikwazi ukulimaza.
Njengoko unokubona, ukuba siqhathanisa ityhubhu yesithethe kunye namathupha anamhlanje, ngoko umbuzo wokuba kunokwenzeka yini ukunika amathubhu ngokubanzi akungafaneleki kweli hlabathi lanamhlanje.