Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba abantwana baqhubela phambili abazali babo. Yingakho amazwi athi "konke okusemama / ntata" avakala kaninzi. Kodwa oku, mhlawumbi, kubhekisela kummandla okanye nayiphina impawu, iimpawu, kodwa kungekhona izifundo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ngabazali babesakuba ngabafundi abalungileyo kwaye babe ngumzekelo kubontanga babo, oku akuthethi ukuba umntwana wabo uya kufana.
Indlela yokufunda?
Namhlanje, abazali baqhubeka bebuza umbuzo othi: "Indlela yokufunda umntwana?". Ngexesha elifanayo baya kwiinqhinga ezahlukeneyo: bathembisa into yokufunda kakuhle, ukuhlawula imali ngamanqaku aphezulu, njl. Kodwa oku akusoloko kunika umphumo omuhle. Ngokuqhelekileyo umdla uya kulahla ngokufumana oko ufuna.
Yingakho kufuneka ulandele ezi ngcebiso eziza kunceda umntwana afunde kakuhle:
- Hlaziya ubuchule bomntwana wakho. Ngamnye wethu ngabanye kwaye aphantse aphinde aphinda. Kwaye, njengoko uyazi, izinto eziphambili kunye neetalente zenziwa ebuntwaneni, iminyaka yobudala. Ngoko ke, ngumsebenzi othe ngqo kubo bonke abazali ukuba baqonde kakuhle kwaye baphuhlise ngendlela efanelekileyo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, iimvavanyo ziya kuba zilungele ukuzimisela amakhono ngamnye. Kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba ikusasa lomdlali weHockey kunzima ukuphoqa ukubhala izibongo, kunye nomculi ukuba adlale, umzekelo, kwibhola. Kungenxa yoko, kuxhomekeke ekubeni ngaba abazali banokukwazi ukumisela amakhono ahlukeneyo omntwana wabo, impumelelo yayo kwinkqubo yokufunda iya kuxhomekeka.
- Ulawulo kufuneka lube lusemodareyithini. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba abazali bazama kangakanani, abayi kuwulawula ngokupheleleyo imeko. Ngelo xesha, akukho mfuneko yokuvumela konke ukuhamba ngokupheleleyo kwaye kunikezele inkululeko kumntwana. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukunika umntwana ixesha, ukujonga kunye naye izabelo rhoqo ngokuhlwa. Oku kuya kumbonisa kuphela unyameko nothando lwakho, emva koko yena uya kuba nomdla ekufundeni ngcono.
- Yenza umdla womntwana ukwazi konke okuzungezile. Ukususela kumzuzwana umntwana eqala ukuthetha, abazali abavavanga ikhulu kangangoko kwiintlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha bahlekisayo, imibuzo yabantwana. Kususela ngeli xesha kwaye uqala ukwakheka komdla ekufundeni into entsha, ukufunda. Abazali abaninzi bakhumbula indlela abaphoqa ngayo umntwana ukuba afunde ukufunda, ngelixa ethi uya kuba ngumntu ozimeleyo kwaye akusayi kuba semfuneko yokubuza abadala ngale nto.
- Kwinkqubo yokufunda ithembela kumzekelo wakho. Abazali mabahlale beqaphela zonke iziganeko, ukufunda iincwadi, iimagazini. Ukuba utata uchitha njalo ngokuhlwa kwikhompyuter, kwaye umama ubukele iTV ngexesha elinye, umdla kumsebenzi wesikolo somntwana uya kutshabalala ngokukhawuleza, kuba uya kuwuqonda njengoluhlobo oluthile lwesigwebo.
Kwaye ngaba kuyimfuneko ukunyanzelisa?
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abazali banokuva umbuzo: "Ngaba kubalulekile ukuba umnyanzela umntwana ukuba afunde konke?". Akukho mpendulo engabonakaliyo kule nto.
Ezinye izazi zeengqondo zithi i- hyperopic , ukulawula ngokugqithiseleyo kunye noxinzelelo oluqhubekayo kumntwana luya kuphazamisa kuphela ukubunjwa komntu ngamnye. Umntwana akayi kukwazi ukwenza isigqibo ngokuzimeleyo aze alinde imiyalelo evela kubazali.
Enye indlela yokuphendula umbuzo wokuba unyanzele umntwana ukuba afunde, uya kuba ngu "Ewe." Ngenxa yengqondo yabo yokuzalwa, abantwana abanakuzimela ngokuzimeleyo ngokubaluleka kwezinto zabo zobomi kwaye baqaphele oko kubalulekile kubo nakwinto engekho. Kungenxa yoko bafuna ukuhlolwa rhoqo.
Ngaloo ndlela, nokuba okanye angayifuni umntwana ukuba afunde, abazali bavame ukukhetha ngokwabo. Abaninzi babo bavuma kuphela iimpazamo zabo ngokuqala kokungeniswa kwiyunivesithi baze bazisole ngokuba abazange banike abantwana ixesha elide.