Kuqhelekileyo ukwazi ukuba abantu abajikelezeyo "banokuzivuselela", bazithanda kuphela, kwaye banobubele nangobumnene! Namhlanje, ngokumalunga nemvelaphi yokulindela ngokubanzi, abantu abaninzi bayazifuna ngokwemfuneko, bazibandakanya ngokuthe ngqo kwi-samoyedstvom kunye nokuzibhubhisa. Ingqungquthela yokungazithandi ngokwayo ichazwa ngokuphelela ngokwemfuneko, ukubeka imilinganiselo yobuthakathaka kuthi, nakuzo zonke iindawo: ngokubonakala kwentlalo, nangokwempembelelo yengqondo, nangokwemali. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwimiba enjalo ibandezeleka abantu abangatshatanga ebuntwaneni, okanye abo ebomini "banamathele" kwaye akuphazamisekanga kwiindawo eziphilayo. Abantu abanjalo bengazi ukuba bathande ngokwabo, ukuzithemba kwabo kubangelwa.
Ukwamkela nokuzithanda ngokwakho akunzima, kodwa kufuneka ufunde. Ekuqaleni kohambo umntu kufuneka aziqonde yena, aqonde izizathu zokuhlushwa kwakhe, kwaye kuphela "azithanda" yena nabanye. Kukho iindlela ezininzi ezizodwa, okwenza oko, unokuqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba uzithanda njani. Ukuzivocavoca kwengqondo, eyona ndlela isebenzayo, sikunikezela kweli nqaku.
Kwaye ngoku siqhubela ngqo kwiimvavanyo
- Umsebenzi wokuqala uyenziwe njengale: hlala phambi kwesibuko esikhulu, jonga ukugxininisa ekucingeni kwakho, uzame ukuzithobela ngokwakho, ukubonakala kwakho njengento yinyani. Emva kwemizuzu emihlanu, zixelele kwisibuko ngothando lwakho, malunga nendlela ozixabisa ngayo, ukuzisola, ukuthandaza. Jonga ngegama okanye uzibize uthando, amagama afunayo. Yenza umthambo rhoqo imihla, kwaye emva koko, emva kweveki ezimbalwa, uya kuziva ukuba ngokuthe ngcembe isimo sakho sengqondo ngokwakho kunye nesimo sakho sengqondo kubanye baqala ukutshintsha ukuphucula.
- Nantsi enye indlela yokusebenza, engasebenzi ngaphantsi, ukwenza ngcono, ukudibanisa neyokuqala. Umzekelo, sebenzisa inombolo 1 ekuseni, kwaye usebenzise inombolo yesi-2 ngokuhlwa. Ngoko, thabatha ipeni kunye nephepha, ukwahlula iphepha kwiindawo ezimbini ezilinganayo. Ngesiqingatha esinye ubhala uluhlu lwamashumi amahlanu obulungile, iimpawu ezilungileyo. Kwesinye isiqingatha - zonke iimpawu kunye neepropati ongazithandiyo kuwe. Ngoku ukusuka entliziyweni, phuma kuwo onke amagama avela kuloluhlu lwesibini. Ukuphucula umphumo, krazula isiqingatha "esingalunganga" kwaye usitshise okanye usiphosele kwindawo yokulahla. Kodwa yonke into ebhaliweyo kwiluhlu lokuqala, funda yonke imihla! Iingcali zengqondo zincoma ukuba zongeze
umgangatho omnye kwiintsuku ezintathu. - Umsebenzi wokugqibela ngumsebenzi wemihla ngemihla ekutshintsheni isimo sengqondo. Yonke into oyibona engalunganga kuwe kufuneka iguqulwe ngokwengqiqo ibe yimpawu! Umzekelo, ukuba ucinga ukuba uyaphupha, zidumise ngokucokisekileyo kunye nzulu malunga nento yonke, njalo njalo. Ukucacisa, ungathatha ipeni kwakhona, utshintshe iimpawu zakho ngokubhala.
Zizo zonke iziphakamiso, ukufundisa indlela yokuzithandayo, ukuqeqeshwa okunikezelwa apha kuya kunceda ekujongeni ngempumelelo ingxaki enjalo.