Ukuxazulula ingxabano nokwazi indlela yokuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo kwimpikiswano, kuyimfuneko ukukhetha imodeli yokuziphatha efanelekayo imeko ethile. Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuphuma kwimpikiswano, nganye leyo izisa iinzuzo ezithile kubathathi-nxaxheba.
Amaqhinga okuziphatha kwiimeko ezichaseneyo
Abantu abaninzi abazi ukuba baziphathe njani kwiimeko ezingqubuzanayo. Ngokweengcali, ingxabano ilula ukukhusela kwisigaba sokuqala. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba ekuqaleni kwengxoxo, umnxibelelwano waqala ukuziphatha ngokungenakwaneleyo - ukuphakamisa ilizwi lakhe, utshintshe ithoni yakhe, wabonakala "amanqaku" okunyanisekileyo kunye namabango angenangqiqo, kufuneka ahlalise aze avumele umchasi ukuba athethe. Njengomthetho, kunzima ukuhlala uzinzile kwimpikiswano. Kodwa kuyimfuneko yokwenza oku, ukuze umntu akhulume, kwaye omnye unokuqonda ukungazinzi kwakhe ngokulungiselela iziphakamiso eziza kuphuka isikhundla sakhe. Ukongezelela, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqonda imfuno yale nto. Emva koko, ukuba umntu - "umlingane" ungumhlobo osondeleyo okanye isihlobo, ukuziphatha okungaxilwanga kwimpikiswano kunokubangela ukufutheka, okuya kubangela ukuba ulwalamano olubi.
Kukho iimeko xa umntu esondela kwimpikiswano umthungelwano, elinde ukuphendula okufanayo. Kule meko, ukucinga malunga nendlela yokuphuma kwimeko engqubuzanayo, kufuneka ucinge ngale ndlela uze uphendule kumdlali onokuzola kunye nokumomotheka. Unokuzama ukulungisa imeko ngeentlanzi, kodwa ngokumodareyitha kuphela. Ukongezelela, kubalulekile ukuvumela umntu odibanisa naye ukuba aqonde ukuba banomdla kwisisombululo esinokuthula kweso mbambano.
Kukho phantse akukho nentsapho engazi ukuba ziphi iingxabano. Okucaphukisa kakhulu xa kukho ukungquzulana nomntu othandekayo. Iingcali zengqondo ziye zafumanisa izizathu ezininzi, ngenxa yokuba yintoni intsapho ephikisana ngayo:
- Ukungabi nhlonipho komnye nomnye. Ngaphezu koko, ngaphandle kokuqaphela, amaqabane ahlambalaza, ahlazisana. Ngenxa yoko, kukho ukungabi nethemba. Ngenxa yoko, ubukhwele obungenasiphelo kunye namahlazo.
- Ukungabi nolwalamano kulwalamano. Emva kwexesha elithile, ukudlala ngothando kunye nemfihlakalo kuyanyamalala. Kwaye kukho i-monotony kunye nobomi obunzima.
- Ukulindela okungekho sikweni kwemelo ebomini bentsapho.
- Ukunganakwa, ukunyamekela, ukunakekelwa nokuqonda.
- Izidingo ezigqithisileyo zomtshato omnye nomnye.
Ukuba ukuxabana kuvela kwintsapho, kufuneka uzame ukuyiguqulela kwingxabano. Awukwazi ukuhlambalaza abantu. Emva koko ke, injongo ephambili iya kuba kukuhlazisa umlingane. Kulo mbambano abaza kuba nabanqobi. Simele sizame ukuthetha, kwaye singasindisi yonke into. Ngokutsho kweengqondo zengqondo, abo baqabane abathandanayo banomdla ngakumbi kunabo abathule.
Isicwangciso sokusombulula ingxabano
Ngenye imeko kwimpikiswano, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba kuphela isiphumo sokuxabana kuxhomekeke kwisicwangciso esikhethiweyo sokusombulula. Iindlela ezichanekileyo zichanekile kunye nokuvumelana. Ukulungelelaniswa kuthetha ukuvunyelwana kwamanye amaqela, kwaye ukuvumelana kuyazuza. Ukufezekisa ukhetho lwesibini,
Unokuyilungisa imeko yempikiswano ngokuthatha ikhefu, njengoko kunzima njengoko kubonakala kukuqala. Ukongezelela, umntu akanako ukukholisa umchasi weengcinga zakhe. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba umntu ngamnye uya kuzama ukubonakalisa inyaniso yakhe kwaye akafuni ukuphulaphula ezinye iinguqulelo kunye neengxabano. Ngexesha le ngxubusho, ngamanye amaxesha kungcono ukuvumela umnxibelelwano ukuba ahlale ngombono wakho.
Ekubeni ubomi boqobo, ingxabano ayinakuphepha. Oku kufuneka kuthathwe kwaye, xa kwenzeka imeko ephikisanayo, zama ukufumana indlela efanelekileyo yokuphuma kwezi ziganeko.