Ngelishwa, amaninzi amabhinqa ahlupheke kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo. Abanye abantu bacinga ukuba bangabonakali ngokwaneleyo, umntu unesifuba esincinci, umntu ucinga ngokuba ngumama omubi okanye inkosikazi, kwaye omnye umntu ucinga ukuba akayena ohlakaniphile. Indlela yokuba ngumfazi othembekileyo kwaye ulahlekelwe ezi ndawo ezinzima , kunye nokuzithemba? Makhe sizame ukuphula le ngxaki enzima kunemisebenzi emininzi.
Indlela yokuzithembela kwintombi?
Okokuqala, zama ukufumana isizathu sokungaqiniseki kwakho. Mhlawumbi eli lizwi le caustic lomama okanye umkhwekazi, okanye mhlawumbi ludlulileyo? Ngaba loo mazwi ayenelungelo lokumthemba, kwaye, mhlawumbi, kukho ithuba lokuba ngumkhangeli kunye nokuzithemba ngakumbi? Mhlawumbi, amagama angabangela ukuba uzuze, akunakho isizathu? Makhe senze uludwe lweentlekiso ezibangelwa kuwe. Uze uqulunqe inani lokutshatyalaliswa. Utshutshiswa ngokungahambi kakuhle? Bhala uluphi kwaye nini xa ujikeleza indlu. Ngaba ungumfazi obizayo? Bhala uluhlu lwezidlo zakho ozithandayo. Ingaba ucinga ukuba uyingozi? Ukutyelela umculi wokwenza uphinde wenze umfanekiso obalaseleyo wesithombe.
Ngoku vala amehlo akho uze ucinge ngengqondo yomntu othembekileyo. Kwiintlobo ezininzi ezizodwa, i-psychology yomntu ibonakaliswe ngokugcwele, ngoko baya kunceda ukuxazulula umbuzo wendlela yokuzizithemba nokuyeka ukungathandabuzeki. Ngoko, unokucinga ngomntu owaziwayo, umhlobo okanye umfanekiso oqokelelweyo. Hlaziya umzobo wakhe, isenzo sakhe somzimba kunye nesimo sombuso. Yima phambi kwesibuko,
Enye into ebalulekileyo eza kuxela indlela yokwenza umdla kwaye ngexesha elifanayo unokuzithemba - ungazifanisi nomnye umntu. Kuza kuhlala kukho umntu oza kuba ngumhle, onobuqili, ocebileyo okanye onwabileyo. Kodwa, okokuqala, le ndlela ayikhokelela ekupheleleni, kwaye, okwesibini, sibona kuphela igobolondo yangaphandle kwaye awazi ukuba umntu ngamnye unelisekile kwaye uyazithemba.