Njengengoma ingoma ithi: "Ngokwezibalo, kukho abantwana abantombazana abalishumi elinesithoba". Ngoko abancinci, abancinci nabakhululekileyo basetyhini banyanzelekile ukuba banelisekile ngamadoda abatshatileyo, bangabi bodwa baze bazive befuna umntu. Kwenzeka ukuba ubudlelwane obunjalo buhlala iminyaka, kwaye ukuze kukhawuleze ukuhamba kwintsapho, ephikisiwe nguye, umntu kufuneka acinge ukuba angathabatha njani indoda esatshatileyo kwintsapho kwindlela yokujonga kwengqondo.
Ukulinganisa zonke izinto ezixhamlayo kunye neengxaki
Okokuqala, inkosikazi kufuneka igqibe isigqibo sokuba ingaba ifuna iqabane ebomini nokuba ingaba yithathe umntu otshatileyo ngaphandle kwentsapho, kuba kungenzeka ukuba ubomi kunye naye phantsi kophahla olulodwa aluyi kubakho njengangenakonakala njengoko kungabonakali. Ufezekisa ntoni injongo yakhe? Ukuba umqhubi omkhulu wokuthandana awunalo uthando lokwenene, ngoko ke iingcali kunye neengcali zenkxaso zonyaka zicebisa kwaye ungaqalisi nayiphi na inyathelo. Nangona umntu eshiya intsapho yakhe, ulwalamano olutsha alukwazi ukuhlala ixesha elide. Ewe, ukuba uqinisekile ukuba uyisiqingatha sakho sesibini, kufuneka uqale uqonde ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuthatha indoda esatshatileyo kwintsapho ngokupheleleyo, ngenxa yokuba abaninzi banelisekile ngolu hlobo lwezinto xa amakhaya ahlala uxolo, intuthuzelo, umfazi kunye nabantwana, kwaye kwicala lolutsha kunye nomdla.
Oku kunokwenzeka kuphela kwimeko yokuba ubomi kunye nomfazi onganelisekanga ngononophelo kangangokuba akukho namandla okunyamezela. Ukuba indoda nangaphambi kokuba intlanganiso kunye nenkosikazi yakhe icinge ukuba kuya kuba mnandi ekugqibeleni ukubaleka, kuba abantwana bakhula, banokuthi bakhulume ngendlela endala kwaye bachaze yonke into. Ewe, ukuba inkosikazi ibuye imlethe ngokufanelekileyo le ndoda kwisigqibo, ngoko, yonke into inokwenzeka.
Ndingamthabatha njani indoda esatshatileyo kwintsapho?
Okokuqala, kuya kubakho ukuphuhlisa zonke izakhono zesicatshulwa esihle: kuba nomonde, ukwazi ukulinda uze uhlukanise "okusanhlamvu kumququ". Lawula indlela oziphatha ngayo kunye nemvakalelo yakho, unokukwazi ukufumana ulwazi olufanelekileyo kwaye, ewe, phulaphula. Yaye yiphulaphule into eninzi: indlela yokufumana i-mega-inkosikazi, indlela engenayo kwaye ingenayo, i-bitch egciniweyo, njl njl. Umsebenzi wenkosikazi ukuzisola, ukunyamezela, nokubonakalisa ukuba yonke into iyahluka kuye. Kubalulekile ukunika indoda inkcazo, apho angathanda ukubuyela khona kwakhona. Kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu, kufuneka athembele lakhe iqabane elitsha.
Ukuba ufuna ukwazi ukuba ungathatha njani indoda esatshatileyo, ungalokothi uthethe ngemali. Akukho mmele wesondo oqinileyo ongeke atshintshe intsapho yowesifazane osemzini, ngoko kufuneka umxelele ukuba imali ayiyona nto ephambili ebomini, kwaye uthando luyakwazi ukwenza imimangaliso. Dumisani indoda yakho, mxelele ukuba unetalente kwaye uyangqinela kunye nabanye abantu abayizithulu ongenakukubona. Yinyamekele, yondla isidlo sasidliweyo, ukutya okudliwayo kunye nokutya, ukudala uxanduva. Yenza izicwangciso ngekamva, kodwa musa ukukhawuleza ukuthetha ngabantwana. Inokwenzeka ukuba, indoda ayifuni ukuba nayo, kodwa ngenxa yokuphila kunye nokuqhelekileyo yinto yokuqala egijima kuyo ngokuphindaphindiweyo akayi kuhloswa kuyo.
Ewe, kuyimfuneko ukuba abe yindoda enhle kunazo zonke emhlabeni. Ukusebenza kunye nokuya kwiimvavanyo - yiyo kuphela i-postulates yolonwabo nobudlelwane obude kwaye oku kufuneka kukhunjulwe. Kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungadlibala ngokupheleleyo kumntu, kungekhona ukuphila ubomi bakhe. Ukuba umntu uyaqiniseka ukuba ulinde imihla ngemihla kwiwindow, akaze ashiye umfazi wakhe, kodwa kutheni? Ziba zimeleyo kwaye zithembele, zenzele ukuba awukho umsebenzi, ngoko ncinane into yokuzilibazisa, uchithe ixesha lokukhulula kunye nabahlobo, udibana nabahlobo. Makhe aqiniseke ukuba ubomi bakho buzele ngaphandle kwakhe kwaye uya kufuna ukuba yinxalenye yalo. Kwaye, yenza izinto kwiimeko, kodwa gcina ubuso bakho kunye nentlonelo kwabanye abantu.