Ukuba uluntu luntwini lithetha ngentombazana-nkosikazi, ininzi ikhumbula, ikhumbule ilizwi ngeli-monkey ne-grenade, lichaza "U" njengomthi "umbulali", kwaye abanye baqiniseke ukuba akulungile ukufunda indlela yokuqhuba imoto ukususela kwisondo elifanelekileyo uhlobo. Nangona kunjalo, u-Elishka Yunkova, uPatricia Moss, u-Utah Klanshmidt kunye nabanye abadlali abadumileyo ababethabathe inkomfa yokunqoba ezandleni zabo, baqhekeza zonke ezi zicatshulwa kunye neengcamango kwiininini! Ngenxa yezizathu ezingaziwa, abaninzi abantu bakholelwa ukuba ukuqhuba imoto kuyimfanelo yabo. Ngelishwa, amanye amantombazana anikezela kulo mbono, kwaye kunye nokuzama ukukhwela "ihashe" elinesine. Kule nqaku, siya kuzama ukukukholisa ngokubonisa ukuba intombazana ifunda ukuqhuba imoto ngokulula nje ngomntu.
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Ngaphambi kokufunda indlela yokuqhuba imoto, umfazi kufuneka azihlukanise noluntu. Ziqhawule ingcamango yokuba awukwazi ukujamelana nemoto kwindlela engaphezulu, ungene engozini okanye uzigwebe ngomsindo wabaqhubi beemoto ezivakalisi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akunakwenzeka ukuqinisekisa ukuphosa iimpazamo, kodwa isizathu sabo asikho kwisini esilungileyo, kodwa kungabikho kwezakhono namava. Ukuqonda izinto ezisisiseko zokuqhuba abantu benza iimpazamo ezifanayo! Ngokuphathelele ukwesaba kweengozi, ezininzi zeengozi zendlela, abaphululiyo abasandul 'ukuhamba behamba ngokuthe ngcembe kwaye baqaphele, kodwa abaqhubi abanethemba lokuphakama kwabo ezindleleni. I-inshorensi eyenziwe ngokusemthethweni iya kwongeza kwithemba lakho.
Ungesabi ukulahlekelwa kwintlango yamatye (oku kuya kukhuselwa ngamaphupha kunye nabahamba ngeendlela), amagosa amapolisa ezithuthi (abo bangamadoda nje kuphela), ukuphazamiseka kwindlela (ngaba intombazana enhle inceda ngokwenene?).
Iinkalo ezifanelekileyo
Enye intombazana inokukhetha ukufundela kubahlobo abanamakhono okuqhuba ukudala, abanye baphendukela kwizikolo zokuqhubela phambili ukuya kubafundi, beya kuzo zonke iiklasi ezisebenzayo. Okukhethwa nguwe! Ewe, awuyi kufumana nawaphi na amalungelo aqhelekileyo, kodwa ukuba uziva ukhululekile kwimeko enjalo, kutheni ungathathi uncedo? Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuzinikela ngokupheleleyo kwiingcali zesikolo sokuqhuba, zama ukufumana enye apho kukho abaqeqeshi-abafazi. Njengawo nawuphi na omnye ushishino, ukuqonda izakhono zokuqhubela phambili kuqala ngokufundisisa imigaqo yeemfundiso. Mhlawumbi sele uyayazi ukuba abantu emva kwesondo abangakwaziyo okanye abangahambisani nemigaqo yendlela babizwa ngokuba "abaqhubi" kodwa "abagibeli" okanye "bakhwela". Ukongezelela, ulwazi lo mbono lenye inxaxheba kwibhokisi yesinkozo sokuzithemba kwakho.
Ngethuba lokusebenza, ungadikiba ukuba ukuhamba kwezandla kunye neenyawo akukhathelekanga ngendlela onokuthanda ngayo. Imoto kufuneka "ivelelwe", kwaye le yimiba yexesha. Iinyanga ezimbalwa ziya kudlula kwaye imoto iya kukuthobela! Ukuba kukho impazamo, thabatha njengoluvavanyo, kwaye ungacingi kwixesha elizayo. Ulibale ngesantya esiphezulu kwiminyaka embalwa yokuqala. Nangona abaqhubi abaninzi abanamava bayazi ukuba akunakulungile ukuba loo nto ingabikho.
Kukho uluvo lokuba izakhono zokuqhuba zihamba ngokukhawuleza ngabafazi abanesitoreli somntu , kodwa iphosakele. Ngaba kunzima ukufunda indlela yokuqhuba intombazana elula, enobubele, inesidima? Akunzima nakakhulu kunomfazi wesinyithi, ejwayele ukugcina amadoda phantsi kwesithende. Ngendlela, malunga nezithende. Ukuba uqala, izicathulo mazibe zikhululekile kangangoko. Amantombazana esithende kwivili - engaqhelekanga, kodwa kukho inkohliso encinane: ehlezi emotweni, umfazi-nkosikazi engaguqukiyo ukutshintsha izicathulo ukuze akhululeke, kwaye emotweni aphinde agqoke "iifake" ezizithandayo.