Ngaba ndifuna imfundo eyongezelelweyo kumfazi wesimanje?

Kuvela ukuba unayo okanye ayikho, kodwa abantu baphila ngenxa yokubonakalisa amaphupha abo. Kwalabo bahlala ixesha elithile kwaye bengenako ukufikelela kwizinto ezifunwayo, izinto ezintle kakhulu ziyakwenzeka, ukuya kuzibulala. Yintoni eyenzekayo kulabo abaye baphumelela ngokupheleleyo okanye bahlule? Kubonakala ngathi, nwavuyo, phila kwaye ujabulele umphumo. Kodwa ukuphazamiseka kobubomi bulele ngokuchanekileyo kwinto yokuba umntu oye wafikelela kwiindawo zakhe eziphakamileyo, uyaba nolonwabo, kuba akukho ndawo eya kuyo kwaye akukho mfuneko.

Kule ngongoma, umntu omdala unelungelo lokuba ngumntwana kunye nephupha kwakhona kwaye "uqokelele" iinjongo ezintsha uze uchaze amacwecwe amatsha. Ngeli nqanaba, xa amaphupha amatsha sele esele ayenze, imfundo eyongezelelweyo, ngokungathi nanye into, inokukunceda kwaye ibenzise ngokusondela kwiintshaba ezizayo. Oku kuyintlukwano ngokuqhelekileyo yophuhliso lwabantu. Ngaphezu koko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ukucinga okunjalo kungenzeki.

Xa kukho imfuno yemfundo?

Ubomi obungathembekiyo

Cinga ngolu hlobo lokungazalisekanga ngokupheleleyo amaphupha ayisiseko. Umfazi omdala, ophakathi kweminyaka engama-30 no-40 ubudala ubudala, unabantwana, utshatile, usebenza kwimisebenzi eyahlukeneyo engafanelekanga: umthengisi, umgqwetha, umgcini-nkunkuma, umgcini wendlu. Nangona kunjalo njengokuba unomama (okona kubaluleke kakhulu kumfazi), akazange akhule ibe ngumntu, akayiva okanye ukwaneliseka ngokwengqondo okanye ngokwemali ngomsebenzi wakhe. Ngexesha elithile, ukhetho luza ngaphambi kwakhe - nokuba luphile kwaye luphile ("akukho nto iphuma kum, ndiya kufundisa iintombi zam ukuba zingabulumko"), okanye ukushiya indawo yoduduzo kwaye uqale ukubhukuda ngoku. Ngaba kuyafaneleka ukugxininisa ukuba nangona oko kwangoko, emva kokugqiba iikhosi zengcali akufumani isikhundla esifanelekileyo, ubuntu bayo buya kuqala ukuphuhlisa kwimeko yokwenza isigqibo sokutshintsha ubomi.

Boredom

Iindwendwe eziqhelekileyo zeentlobo zonke zezifundo ziphikisana nomfazi ongaphambili, onayo yonke into ebomini, kuquka nexesha elininzi lokukhululeka. Ukuya kubuhle be-salon sele sele bubuhlungu, akukho mntu othetha naye, umyeni wam uhlale esebenza, akukho nto enokuyenza nangengqondo yakhe. Ngoko bazibhalela phantsi ukuya kwizifundo zokuthunga kunye nokuthunga (bayazi iifashishini), kwisiNgesi (kuba bayazi zonke izinto), kwisiFrentshi (kuba kukuthandana), kunye neenkalo zokupasa ngaphakathi (ukudala i-design entsha yezindlu zabo). Kakade, le nzo ndelelo yolwazi iyanconywa, kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi inzondelelo yanele kuphela kwiiblasi eziqala.

Ingozi: indlela yokufunda ukuba yi-dvoechnitsy?

Ngesizathu esinye okanye esinye, ukuba uwele umnqweno we-alma mater yakho entsha, lakho lisesengozini. Xa uqala ukwenza into entsha kwaye ingekaze yenzeke, izifundo zihlala ziqala ngama-deuces. Kodwa yinto enye xa ufumana enye, uhleli neefake zeefigu kwidesksi yesikolo ukusuka kumfundisi owonayo kwaye oqinileyo, kwaye ngokunye, ekudala, ngolwimi olululisiweyo, kunye nootitshala ophantsi kunokuba uya kuba. Nantsi kungenakwenzeka ukubonakalisa ubuchule bakhe, nokuchasa iindlela zokufundisa, ngokuqhelekileyo, uyaziqhenya ukushiya kwaye uhlale ngaphandle kwemali ehlawulwayo. Kule meko, into ephambili kukuba usebenzise inyaniso enenzondelelo ukuba apha uqala kwaye wonke umntu ojikelezayo uyinto entsha. Ukuba kubonakala ngathi uhleka, ubenesidenge kunabo bonke abantu, uthathwa njenge-slobber - uqaphele ukuba wonke umntu akanandaba nonke, kwaye abanye, njengaye, bacinga ngendlela yokufumana imali engakumbi ngemali yabo. Into oyenzayo okanye oyithethayo ayilunganga, ininzi ayiyi kubona.

Ngamagama, kunceda ukufunda ubuncinci kuba xa ubuchopho buyeka ukufumana umthwalo, siqala ukukhula. Njengomsiza onqamlekileyo, ingqondo, njengento engenamsebenzi, iya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo yokugcwalisa intloko, ubunzima. Kwaye uzimisele ukufunda into entsha kwixesha eliqhelekileyo elingaphakathi koluntu lwethu, uya kutshintshwa kwinqanaba elitsha lobomi kwaye uya kuphumelela.