Indlela yokuchazela umntwana ukuba yintoni isondo?

Imibuzo malunga nobudlelwane bezesondo ivela kubo bonke abantwana kwaye oku kuqhelekileyo. Umsebenzi wabazali ukubonelela iimpendulo kubo kwifomu efumanekayo. Kwaye ukuqala imfundo yesondo kufuneka ibe semncinci. Emva koko, engafumananga ulwazi lomdla ekhaya, umntwana uya kukhangela kwezinye iindawo. Ngenxa yoko, oku akuqinisekisi ukuba ulwazi luya kwenene. Ngoko ke, abazali kufuneka bacinge kwangaphambili indlela yokuphendula kumntwana, yintoni isondo.

Ukwazi umzimba wakho

Imfundo yesondo kufuneka iqalwe xa abantwana befunda umzimba wabo ngenomdla. Malunga neminyaka engama-2 ubudala, i-crumb ibamba izitho zokuzala kwaye ihlala ibukela, iyichukumisa. Le mpendulo ephilileyo. Abazali ngeli xesha kufuneka bahambisane namacebiso alandelayo:

• Musa ukutshitshisa umntwana wakho ngenxa yokuba uhlala ebona izitho zangasese;
• nangayiphi na imeko ukuba angakhuthazi ukuba le nzala ifanele ihlazise;
• ngexesha lokuhlamba, ukuzisa umntwana kumalungu omzimba, kubandakanywa nesigxina socansi;
• ukuba ungagxininisi kwesi sihloko, kodwa ungayigcini.

Oku kuya kufundisa abantwana ukuba baqonde umzimba wabo ngokubanzi. Ukongeza, iingxoxo ezinjalo ziya kunceda ukuseka ubudlelwane obuthemba ngakumbi kwintsapho.

Indlela yokuxelela umntwana ukuba isini?

Ngokuqhelekileyo abafundi besikolo banomdla kakhulu kumbuzo wokuba abantwana bavela phi. Abantwana balo nyaka abanomdla kwisihloko sobudlelwane bokwenyama. Bafuna iimpendulo ngokuzalwa kwabo. Awukwazi ukuthetha ngeklabishi okanye isorkork. Umntwana uya kuqonda impendulo, kwaye abazali baya kugwetywa ngokuxoka. Impendulo ifanele ibe inyanisekileyo kwaye isondele kwizinto ezinokwenzeka, kodwa kwingxoxo kunye nabantwana abancinci, umntu akanako ukuya kwiinkcukacha kwaye akajolise kwiinkcukacha ezininzi.

Abantwana abakhulileyo sele benemibuzo ephathelele ngqo ukulala ngesondo. Kwiintetho ezinjalo, bobabini umama kunye nobawo kufuneka bathathe inxaxheba. Ngokuqhelekileyo iingxoxo ezinjalo zenzeka kwiinqanaba eziliqela. Ngaphambi kokuchazela umntwana ukuba yintoni isondo, abazali kufuneka baqiniseke ukuba baya kukwazi ukufikelela kwaye banikele ngokugcwele ulwazi oluyimfuneko. Ukuba kukho ukungathandabuzeki kweli nqanaba, akuyi kuba yinto engathandabuzekiyo ukufunda iincwadi ezizodwa kwimfundo yesondo.

Ukuba umntwana ucele ukuba yeyiphi isondo, ngoko kwingxoxo enye kufuneka ingqalelo kwixesha elinjalo:

• kunika ingcaciso yintoni isenzo sesondo;
• xelela malunga nokuya esikhathini, izilungiso;
• Ukuqhuba ingxoxo malunga neemfuno zokuhlambulula ubumsulwa;
• cacisa ukuba yiziphi utshintsho ezivela emzimbeni ngexesha lokukhulelwa;
• ukuxwayisa ngokukhulelwa okungafunekiyo, izifo ze-venereal, iziphambeko;
• xelela ngezokhusela.

Akunakwenzeka ukugxila ingqalelo kwizinto ezithile ezichaphazelekayo zesini. Oku kuya kumvumela umntwana ukuba abe nesimo sengqondo esingalunganga kwisini, okukhokelela kwingxaki yengqondo.

Yonke le micimbi kufuneka ixoxwe ngomoya okhululekile. Awukwazi ukugxeka okanye ujezise abantwana ngokukhupha izihloko ezinzulu kwaye unomdla kubo. Kwakhona, akufanele uvumele le ngxoxo ibe yinto enzima kunye nexesha elide, akufanele ufune ukubuza imibuzo ngokuvavanya ulwazi olutholileyo. Konke oku kuba sisizathu sokungafuni abantwana bakwazi ukuthetha ngezihloko kunye nabazali babo. Ukuba iingxoxo ziyimfihlo, ngoko umntwana kunye nakwezinye iimeko ngokungathandabuzeki kuya kuza iingcebiso kwintsapho.

Kubantwana, iimpendulo zemibuzo malunga nesondo, zibaluleke kakhulu. Ukufumana ulwazi oluvela kwimithombo engathandabuzekiyo, abafana babumba ingcamango ephosakeleyo yesini. Isiphumo sale nto sinokuba kunye nobomi bokuqala ngokwesondo, nokukhulelwa okungafunekiyo, kunye nezinye iingxaki.