Inyikima encinane kuwo wonke umzimba, ukunyanzelwa kwexesha kunye nokuqina kohambo. Ngaba uhlala ujongene nale miba engathandekiyo xa uphakathi kwabantu? Ngoko unengxaki. Ukunyaniseka akuchaphazeli nje kuphela impilo yakho, kodwa kungonakalisa ubomi bakho. Khawucinge nje ngento enokuzibamba ngayo ngenxa yokungakhuseli kwizenzo zakho kunye nokungaqiniseki kwizenzo zakho! Ubudlelwane, umsebenzi, ukunxibelelana nabantu - zonke ezi zinzuzo ziba nzima kwaye zingakhokelela ekudakaleni. Yintoni enokuyenza kunye nendlela yokulahla ihlazo? Siza kuxubusha le ngxaki ebalulekileyo.
Izizathu zentloni
Yintoni evakalelwa ngayo ukunyaniseka kunye neentloni? Uloyiko lwangaphakathi lokuzibonakalisa kwihlabathi elisijikelezayo. Njengoko kuyaziwa, uhlobo lwabantu abahlukileyo luhlukaniswe lube lukhuni (luvulekile kwaye luphumayo) kunye nama-introverts (avaliwe kwaye angenakuxhamla). Ubuntu obungabonakaliyo buhlobo lwesibini. Isizathu esibalulekileyo sokuthintela ukuzithemba. Kubantu abahluphekayo kwiinkalo ezininzi, kubonakala ngathi abantu ababajikelezayo nabo babona zonke ezi mpazamo kuzo. Kodwa ngaba bakhona? Kwiimeko ezininzi, iingxaki zabantu zithinteka kwaye azikho siseko. Ukuvela kwabo, njengomthetho, kukhuthazwa ngokugxeka kwiintsapho, abahlala beqonda ukuba benza iphutha elibi. Ngokomzekelo, umama onothando uhlala egxekisa intombazana encinci ngenxa yokungaziphathi kakuhle: "Uyi-slob," "Indoda endala yomfazi ayiyi kuphuma kuwe", "Ngubani na oza kutshata nawe?" Ngokuqinisekileyo abaninzi abantu baye bakuva iintetho ezinjalo. Emva koko baba yinkqubo efakwe entloko yam kwaye andivumeli ukuba ndonwabele ubomi. Sinokufunda njani ngoku ukuba singabi neentloni, ukuba sibe ngumfazi othembekileyo kwaye ophumelelayo? Kuya kuthatha umsebenzi omncinci, kodwa kholwe kum, kuyafaneleka.
Unokuyithatha njani intloni?
Ukulwa neentloni yinkqubo ekufuneka iqalise ngomsebenzi ongaphakathi ngaphakathi kwakho, ngokukhawuleza ujika kwizenzo zentshukumo. Iingcebiso zethu ziyakunceda kulo, indlela yokujongana neentloni:
- Qinisekisa kwiimeko apho uvakalelwa kukuba unamahloni. Ingaba iinkampani ezinkulu, abaqhelana nabo, ukubonakala koluntu okanye ubudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye nomfana. Yenza uludwe lwezihlandlo ezinjalo. Kungekudala uza kuqala ukusebenza nabo ngokwenza.
- Funda ukuphumla. Oku kuya kukunceda ugcine ukuzithiba kwiimeko ezininzi kwaye ubaphathe ngokuzinzile. Zikhethele ukuphefumula, uthathe i-yoga okanye ucamngce.
- Funda abanye. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokwaneleyo ukujonga nje kwicala lezenzo nezenzo zabantu abazithembayo kunye nabantu abanentlalontle. Khumbula ukumomotheka, ukuziphatha, iimpawu, iimpahla kunye nayo yonke into ebonakala ibalulekile kuwe ukuba ungayinqoba njani intloni.
- Funda ukuziqonda kwaye ungaqhathanisi ubuntu bakho nabanye. Lo msebenzi unzima kakhulu. Intombazana ngokwemvelo kunzima ukuhlala uxolo, ngelixa abanye benxibe iingubo ze-chic, izinto ezinomdla kunye neengqalelo kubafana. Kodwa ukuba uyazikhethela ukuba awubi kunabanye kwaye unakho ukunambitheka kwakho, uza kubona ngokukhawuleza ukuba isimo sengqondo sabanye siya kutshintsha.
- Fundisa ukuzithemba. Yenza into oyenayo ngaphambili. Kuphela ngale ndlela uza kuphelisa ukwesaba okungeyomfuneko uze uqaphele ukuba ukunyaniseka kwakho kwakungeyona nto. Yazi ukuba ungumntu onobumba obuninzi kwaye uzimelele kwiingcamango zabantu. Yintoni ebaluleke ukuba bacinga ntoni? Ubomi bakho kuphela kwaye yonke into ichukumisa encinci.
Emva kokuziqhelanisa zonke iingcebiso ezingentla, kufuneka uqhubele phambili kwixesha eliphambili. Ngokunjalo, isisombululo seyona nto ingxamisekileyo - indlela yokulwa neentloni zentombazana esahlukileyo.
Unokuyeka njani ukuhlazeka ngabafana?
Into yokuqala okufuneka uyikhumbule - abaninzi abantu abayazi nokuba unayo iindidi. Kwaye ukuba ubaxelele ukuba unokwesaba into okanye unamahloni, akuvumelekanga. Kwimfazi apho kufuneka ibe yimfihlakalo, kwaye konke okuyikwesabayo makube yimfihlakalo kuye. Amadoda atyathwa kubafazi abaphumeleleyo, abanokuzithemba, kwaye "bangenasitokisi ebhakabhaka" ngokuthobeka kwaye bodwa bodwa eludongeni ngexesha lomdaniso ophantsi.
Ukuba sele usuhambele kwelinye isigaba kwaye unomfana osemtsha, ingxaki entsha iyavela - awukwazi ukuyeka ukuhlazeka xa ulala. Le meko iyayihoywa ngokupheleleyo kwaye iyenzeka nakubantu abanokuzithemba. Sisiphi isizathu? Ngokuqinisekileyo, kwiifolda ezongezelelweyo, isifuba esincinci, iipositi ezimbi kunye ne-cellulite engabonakaliyo. Kwaye ininzi imantombazana ayayazi indlela yokulwa nokunyaniseka ngesini, ngokuphumelelayo ukuyivuyisa indoda yabo kwaye ayibukeli ubuwula ngexesha elifanayo.
- Lungiselela intlanganiso esondeleyo ngaphambili. Ngokwemvelo, kufuneka wenze ukususwa kweenwele, ukugcoba kunye nokuhamba. Iilwimi nazo ziyimicimbi. Musa ukulala kunye naye ngeepjama kunye neebhokhwe okanye i-trouser nge-ruffles. Eyona ndlela ingcono - i-negligee kunye ne-panties efanelekileyo-thong.
- Musa ukucima ngokupheleleyo ukukhanya. Shiya ukukhanya ebusuku okanye ukhanyise ikhandlela kwigumbi. Oku kuya kunceda ukufihla inxalenye yomzimba wakho kwaye ungeze umdla kumntu.
- Hayi ukuba neentloni ebhedini? Vula nje! Ngokuqinisekileyo, kufuneka ulungiselele indawo kunye nexesha lokulungiselela intlanganiso kwangaphambili. Ukuqinisekisa ukuba akukho babazali emva kwodonga, uthembele ngokupheleleyo kumlingane wakho, kwaye ixesha alizange liphume. Kwakhona ujongene nenjabulo yebhotile ye-champagne. Vala amehlo akho kwaye uzinike inkululeko ebandlululo, ukwesaba nokukhathazeka. Wena, ngokwenene, ufanelwe isabelo esikhulu se-caresses kunye nesisa. Ngoko kutheni uzilahla okulungileyo? Akuyihlazo, kodwa yinto engokwemvelo. Ukuba awunamava, oku kuya kukukholisa kuphela loo ndoda. Yena ngokwakhe uya kukuvuyela yonke into.
Ukuba iqabane lakho emva kwesondo aluyekanga ukunxibelelana nawe, kwaye lifuna ukuphinda yonke into, ngoko yonke into ilungiselelwe kwaye ihlazile ayisenzi kakuhle. Khumbula - uyindalo enhle yemvelo, kwaye abantu abalungileyo abakho. Funda ukuzithanda uze ubone isidima sakho. Emva koko umvakalelo onjengeentloni awuyi kukwazi ukuphazamisa ubomi bakho kwakhona.