Ukukhethwa kwamathandana omtshato akubalulekanga kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu kunokuba ukhethe ingubo yomtshakazi kunye nokulungelelaniswa kwayo yonke imibhiyozo. Isiganeko somthendeleko sigcina usuku olunye kuphela kwaye siphele, kodwa iminwe yesimboli yothando iya kugqithwa ngaphezu konyaka. Ezinye zezi ngcebiso zingezantsi ziya kukunceda ukuba ufumene indlela yokukhetha iindandatho zomtshato ezilungileyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo ufuna ukuba bafanelane kwaye bangabangeli ukuphazamiseka kwansuku zonke. Ngaphandle koko, baya kufumana ngokukhawuleza kwikhefu kwi-shelf.
Yiyiphi imithwalo yomtshato engcono ukuyikhetha?
Izitolo zezinto zokugcoba zikhazimulayo zibonakalisa iziboniso ngegolide zeempahla, zinika imizekelo eyahlukeneyo yemigodlo yokuzibandakanya kwisitayela samandulo kunye nesimanje. Kwaye bonke bafumana abanikazi babo. Uninzi lwezikhetho ezicetywayo luzaliswe ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye oku kuyona ndlela ingcono kunazo zonke kubantwana bentsapho, kuba iindandatho ezifanayo zivakalisa zonke malunga nolwalamano lwakho, ngaphandle koko lubukeka lunothando kwaye luhambelana.
Ubume kunye noyilo lwe "wedding band" lunokuhluka, kodwa kungcono ukhethe owakufanayo. Ungathengi umkhiqizo omhle oqhekezayo okanye ngokuphambene naso, ukhulu kakhulu. Kungcono ukunika ixesha elide, kodwa ukufumana ibini lakho elifanelekileyo, kunokudabuka kwiminyaka emininzi malunga nokukhetha kwakho okungalunganga.
Namhlanje, abantu abatsha baninzi banake ingqalelo kwintsika yokuqala kunye nobukho bemihlobiso emacongeni. Kungaba ukudweba, ukudweba okanye ubucwebe. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba intombazana yayithande ukhetho lokugqibela, kuyafaneleka ukuthobela ingqalelo ukuba into yokubhenkceza kwindandatho ayipheli, okanye, ngakumbi, ayizange iphume. Ngoko ke, amatye kufuneka abe yendalo, kunye nomsebenzi ophezulu.
Abanye abasandul 'ukutshata, becinga malunga nendlela yokukhetha iindidi zemitshato yomtshato, khawuqwalasele iimpawu zomntu. Ngokomzekelo, kucingwa ukuba kufuneka kube lula. Kule meko, abantu abatsha baya kuba nobomi obufanayo, bengenangxaki kwaye bengenazo iingxaki. Kwakhona akuvumelekile ukuba unike umntu ukuba azame okanye ahlele phantsi phambi komtshato, ekubeni uthembisa ukuhlukana. Kodwa ukufumana ilifa isithintelo sokubambisana ukusuka kubantu asebekhulile abasinda emshadweni wegolide kuthathwa njengelungelo elikhulu kunye nomqondiso omhle.
Kodwa, kungekhona wonke umntu okholelwa kwiimpawu, kwaye uthando olulodwa kuphela luya kubakhokela abantu abatsha kwintsapho yolonwabo kunye nenhlalakahle. Kwaye iinqumlezo zegolide ezikhethiweyo ziyakukholisa le mbini iminyaka.